What does it mean when a girl says she wants to do things the right way?

Question

My guy friend went on a few dates with a woman and now she just wants to be friends. She said it’s because she wants to do things the right way. Though she’s dating another that she told him about. Keeps telling my friend that she doesn’t like the guy she’s seeing very much. They see each other once a week for dinner. I told him she must not very interested in him. Then I told him that he sounds like a backup in case nothing better shows up. I know he’s hoping they will eventually start dating. Any advice?

VictorMachiavelli · Accepted Answer

Her going on dinner dates with a guy she doesn’t like that much doesn’t make sense. Unless she’s the type to string guys along for money, why is she going on those dates with him? That’s a red flag.

Or, I suspect she could be lying about this other guy. As in I think she’s banging him but they’re not exclusive yet, which she hopes will happen at some point, and she’s keeping your friend around as plan B. She says she’s not that into him because saying anything else would scare your friend away.

But even leaving out the other guy, this is just a bad sign. It’s a sign of lack of interest. When a woman is strongly attracted a guy, especially today, they often don’t play hard to get or “do things the right way”. Their attraction to him makes them act in a way that goes against her normal rules - rules she only has for men she’s not as strongly into. At the very least they make things very easy, and don’t give mixed messages. Mixed messages just mean lack of interest.

Basically, your friend needs to move on.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Nah... you nailed it. Backup dude.

My advice is this to him man to man, but it's still works woman to man... dude you want a woman to respect you like a man then act like one and have some self-respect. Because all you are proving to this woman, is that she can walk all over you.

Now women date the wrong types all the time and when you say that shit to woman she will be no, it's not like that, he is really a great person. Then months later she is crying, and heart broken. So, any man that would tolerate this type of thing from a woman, then only tell him the truth if your prepared for him to deny it and get upset with you. But in the end, he needs to hear it.

Finchie40 · Answer

Tell him to run , she is definitely keeping her options opened and weighing her options , she is a selfish girl that only cares about herself , she is for the streets

Pyrofox · Answer

Just be dead honest with her is what he should do. No hard feelings but this doesn't feel like it will ever go anywhere. If she hasn't taken the time to heal from clearly what still haunts her this isn't then the time to be wasting his time or hers. A relationship isn't a build a *beep*, just like it wouldn't be right for her to have to make your male friend become a man. You either come to a relationship ready, or you don't come at all. Games and waiting for what could be happening now just sounds like they aren't ready period. And out of self respect he's gonna just be the bigger adult and choose to continue to look for someone who's actually going to be ready as its not right for either of them to be wasting the others time.

Angelo75 · Answer

If he's being treated like this, that means that the girl isn't respecting him. That's gonna be a LOT of problems later down the road in such a relationship.

He has to cut contacts COMPLETELY with that girl and just completely detox off her.
Cuz right now he's not thinking straight if he's tolerating this. Probably because he's "blinded by love" for now.

As for you, you are a girl who is so close to a guy to know all this about him? If so, do you have a crush yourself on him? Cuz you need to know that if he has such a crush on another girl, even when he eventually focusses on you, you'll always end up looking over ur shoulder wondering if he's still in love with "the other girl".
That's a heavy burden to carry.

Don't take it as an attack towards you. Just trying to be nice and protect your heart.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

So you getting involved, as you'r guy friend cannot figure it out by himself? 🤦‍♂️
I hate when ONE/ONE person comes on here and ASK QUESTIONS for 1,2,3 or more people! What's wrong with you people? Doesn't COMMON SENSE exist anymore? Doesn't ANYONE knows what to do in this world without ASKING someone else? is becoming annoying all this "post" thingy...

236color · Answer

Yes, tell him he's being used as emotional first aid for when she's hurt by the guy that she finds more attractive than him. Drop her. It's never going to happen for him. Stop wasting time hoping he'll move up in the line up, it's not going to happen. "I want to do things the right way" is short hand for "I'm not going to fuck you".

Andres77 · Answer

leave... she's manipulative and controlling and stringing two guys along. just leave now before it costs you.

slatyb · Answer

"The right way" -- what the F does that mean? I would be done with a woman who spouted such nonsense.

Longshanks1968 · Answer

It means she wants to please her man in every way. For example, never spit, always swallow, take it in the ass often, and bring your girlfriends home for him to enjoy

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, she keeping him strung along in case her main date leaves. Then when another dude comes around she likes, will be more of the same until on of the other guys proposes to her. Then he won’t even be a friend.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well the right way certainly isn't dating multiple people, but in this case the dude just won't let go. I've experienced this myself many a moon ago from a couple "women".

Anonymous · Answer

it means she has no idea what she wants but wants everything just in case.
deep down she wants you to bend her over and slake the fk out of her.
fk her til her nose bleeds
do it tomorrow and get back to us with the outcome

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like she wants to keep him around for when she's in a bind, and rent comes due. Tell him to focus his energy on a younger, more fruitful woman

In_Trance · Answer

It probably means she wants to do things right away

lorenzomichael · Answer

She wants to bang you in a bed, not the back of a truck or the backseat of a Nissan.

Dumbasshansen · Answer

It means she's playing games and he should ghost that bitch

exitseven · Answer

He is wasting his time.

jaskin777 · Answer

Yes I agree with. U. He needs to drop her

jimmy2 · Answer

Conservative no werid stuff

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