Is rejecting someone because they are overweight okay in your eyes?

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kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

Being overweight is in a way deep rooted to lifestyle so yes especially if their lifestyle perpetuates unhealthy living. I recently rejected someone because of this and it’s because I live a very very healthy lifestyle. Who you end up dating does have an influence on your personal being. I don’t want to soak up energy of someone that doesn’t take care of themselves

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I believe you should be allowed to reject anyone for any reason you want because marriage should be optional and not forced.

Bethany22 · Answer

Yes that's fine. Everyone has their preferences.

Avicenna · Answer

You can reject someone for any reason you deem acceptable. That's what people do.

BlackBeauty90 · Answer

There's obesity due to laziness & obesity due to accidents, medication & disease. People who are mean to overweight people due to the latter are nasty asses usually.

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Years ago in university one of my classmates was overweight due to recovery from a car accident. She hadn't been the driver, passenger. They were struck by a drunkard.

She was about 80 pounds overweight. Lovely personality though.

For first 2 years of university a lot of shallow - nasty personality - people treated her poorly. I don't mean dating but that, like cowards, talk about her behind her back and even in front of her about her that's how nasty humans are to each other.

She ended up doing the 3rd & 4th year by distance only coming in for labs & courses that had to be done in person. So you saw her maybe once a week or every 2 weeks.

Come graduation

There were sooo many men slobbering on themselves at this girl who IS related to Kate Moss that there's actually a photo of them in the university newsletter.

Let's just say all of them she rightfully didn't even pause long enough to say hello to, she pretty much ignored every single nasty shallow & fickle person who'd ever attended university with her, what when these guys had been some of the nastiest.

Bricealan · Answer

Hey Coach, I work my ASS OFF to stay in condition and in shape. I would blow my brains out if I had a pot belly, sagging shoulders and any of the negative bullshit that goes along with being this age. I would be embarrassed to take my clothes off with a woman, and 'could not see my dick for my pot belly!!! Some men dont give a shit, and feel they have an alibi for being a blob.

That said, my women friends, tend to stay in shape as well, and they exercise, diet as necessary and make an honest go god effort to be presentable when naked.

Call me an asshole, but I work hard and expect my mate to do the same, AND would do whatever I could to help her. Do household chores, take care of the baby, cook or what I could to give her time to maintain herself physically. When a woman bears the whole responsibility of maintaining a home and taking care of kids, that doesn't' leave time for herself. I would do what it took to allow her that time to help herself stay in shape.

glennos89 · Answer

Overweight is often someone's own mistake because they eat way to much or they don't exercise often enough. If you are overweight and get rejected for being overweight then you can make the decision to work on yourself trying to lose weight.

But if you accept being overweight or if you are not happy about it but refuse to do something about it... then you will have to accept the consequences for it because overweight isn't normal and definitely isn't healthy aswell.

So logically some people are not attracted to to someone being overweight but you can only blame yourself for it!

It's a choice if you wanne live healthy or unhealthy. And we all know being overweight is something that can be undone when you work hard on yourself so instead of trying to blame other people for not being attracted to you... blame yourself for it because you have made yourself unattractive to those people🤷‍♂️

exitseven · Answer

Yes, everyone has preferences. I have a pretty active lifestyle and I always preferred girls who were very athletic and has similar interests. A very obese person would not really fit those parameters.

One of the few girls that I dated that was not very active really illustrated this. We were going into the city for a concert and it was during a big snowstorm. I had to park about a quarter mile from the place. It never occurred to me that this would be a problem. This girl complained the whole time and afterwards she waited in a bar across the street while I went and got the car.

Selliebeanz · Answer

I am overweight myself and I would be okay if someone rejected me for my weight and have been. It saves me from having to jump through hoops from someone who is no better than me and the difference being our weight. I see that rejection as being a blessing which will guide me to someone who is worth my time. I do have an issue though when someone’s talking to you and you get along great and they lead you on but won’t take things further because your weight being the deciding factor but in the end it’s cool because you know how they’d treat you if something physically happened to you such as aging and such. People like to think because they’re thinner they have the advantage by making you feel inferior to them however I’m the type that’s looking right back at you when you’re looking down on me.

nonyabeez-wax · Answer

Well, for one, I don't have to like any one aspect of any person.

For two, if a person I like has a bit of weight, I will be willing to keep talking if they are willing to lose the weight. Not for me, for themselves. For them to be healthier, and happier.

I don't want a partner with constant health problems.

Doesn't mean I won't stay by if we've been dating and they get sick. But constant health problems is a lot of stress and work. Why would I enter a relationship with that starting out?

She would have to be one hell of a woman.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

I don't have to worry about this, because I've already excepted my spouse a couple of decades ago. Fitness was important to us both. If I were in the dating scene and an individual I was interested in was working hard to get into a healthier lifestyle I would consider that very positive. If I met somebody who was pleased with an unhealthy lifestyle, we would likely not be compatible.

Asimiv · Answer

If you're rejecting someone soley because of their looks, well it's both wrong and right. It's wrong because you shouldn't judge someone based on looks, but right because apparently you two are not a food fit

But if you're rejecting the person because you value health inside and out, just as much as making an effort to make a good life for yourself (which includes health), and this person obviously doesn't share that value, then it's absolutely right because you're not compatible as you don't share the same values

Sour-rose · Answer

Well damn... the results are shocking. But then again, I would reject them as well. Not because they're fat but it's because they  literally  can't keep up with me. And when you are a burden, you get left behind. 🤷‍♀️ and if anyone wanna get their weapon out (angry keyboard skills) on me, i don't mean running on the track, i mean just... walking.

RavVid · Answer

We may have been battered into accepting body positivism in our big brain but nothing is going to convince our little brain.

Have I got big brain/little brain arse about? I think I might have missed that day at school which covered this. Certainly my little brain does most of the thinking about girls and most certainly has all the big thoughts on that topic.

Help me out on this.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Shallow but inevitable. You’re always assessing and comparing to see who’s worth getting to know and talking to. In the absence of any other datapoint, you’re going to start with who you’re most attracted to and that’s going to be based on looks.

ShesRad80 · Answer

it is a layered situation but probably because im in healthcare, see it and lived it. there are overweight people due to medicine they take or metabolic reasons, then there are overweight people due to diet and lack of exercise.

rejecting someone overweight is a personal choice. the person i like was overweight and made a lifestyle changes but he knew i liked him previous to weight loss. he is the same person to me, nothing has changed but some numbers.

Staximus · Answer

I don't care if a woman is a bit overweight because I am too, but I don't want her beer gut to be bigger than mine haha. She has to be able to be somewhat active with me. She can't be so fat that she isn't able to hike a mile up a mountain at 7000 feet elevation, because I still can.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

I think it depends on how overweight a person is, and for what reason. If they're somewhat overweight but live a healthy, decently active lifestyle, I think that's fine.

Still, depends on what you're attracted to.

IceCreamSandwich · Answer

Rejecting someone because you're not physically attracted to them is fine. I assume that's what you mean.

If you mean someone you are physically attracted to, but you reject them because they're fat, I'd say yes that's shallow.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

People like what they like and ultimately people want to be with people who take care of themselves. It may be shallow, but it is at least honest.

Kabluie · Answer

It's not a popular subject, but some never realize you don't just choose to be attracted to someone. It's either going to happen or not. You don't wake-up saying I'm going to be attracted to this person today, when you hadn't been. People can grow on you over time, sure but that's progression.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I don't think discussing preferences would change much.

It's OK to like one type of body and not others. And with that comes the obvious situation when the person who has the less-favourable type of body could be rejected.

Anonymous · Answer

You can accept or reject anyone for whatever reason however you should always at least try to be kind. I understand some circumstances would require being more firm or even slightly harsher in rejection.

Could you see it as shallow yes. But at the same time you need to be attracted to your partners personality and appearance for a relationship to work I would say. And if you only have one it will always put some strain on the relationship.

I would also say most of the time being overweight is about unhealthy life choices and often people are reluctant to do anything about it. So that could put in a layer of incompatibility due to lifestyle differences that at first glance doesn't seem present. There is a healthy balance for all things.

rigmarole · Answer

It's your life. Accept or reject anyone you want. You have to determine your own criteria for forming relationships.

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes because if you´re not attracted to person due to their weight I think it´s better to not be in a relationship.

Flower7 · Answer

Yes, it’s fine. Overweight people should already know that not staying in shape will lower their level of attractiveness to most people.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

I am fit/thin and I am only interested in women who are fit/thin. Doing sports together isn't an absolute must, but certainly a plus.

Yannae · Answer

It's usually a choice. A lifestyle they chose for. And changing a lifestyle is hard to change so yes if ours do not align we can't continue. But if you're overweight and are really working hard to lose it all, I'll help you and we get fit together.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

I think it’s both ok and shallow. I think you can have any preference you want as long as your not disrespectful. “I like her as a person but I’m not attracted to her” totally fine “she’s great but she’s way to fat” not ok.

Counterclocking · Answer

It’s okay to break up with someone with or without reason. Whereas there’s nothing wrong with breaking up with someone because of their physical appearance.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

No! The fat ones can cook really good just take her food never save her any leftovers

electromagnetic · Answer

Absolutely!  Their eating habits and lifestyle does not mesh with mine and that’s absolutely fine. But I still have every right so say, this doesn’t work for me.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Accept or reject anyone you want, but it says a lot about you, whether that be good or bad is open to interpretation.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I think that's a legit reason... someone being obese is often a statement about the rest of their lifestyle choices.

Anonymous · Answer

you can reject anyone for any reason you don't see good fitting with you. why would ANYONE not reject someone if they know they don't like something about that person's lifestyle? you don't invest in something you don't want, and people only change if they want to, most people who are fat don't change, so if that's an issue on day 1, it will be an issue every single day of that relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

You know it ain't about the weight, it's all about how they handle the sausage! If their meat manipulation skills are up to par, then who cares if they got a few extra pounds? But let's be real, no one wants a flabby fumble in the sack. So yeah, if their love handles are getting in the way of some prime thrusting action, then it might be time to send them packing. But hey, don't get me wrong, I love a good cushion for the pushin', as long as it doesn't interfere with the main event.

RingOfFire · Answer

Of course! You are supposed to date someone your not attracted to just to virtue signal to other people? Yeah right! 🤣

OddBeMe · Answer

It is what it is. Like skin color, some might reject a romantic interest because of something shallow, and it may be more subconscious or internal which you have no control over.

My theory is romantic or lust feelings at a glance have more to do with your past than the actual person.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. But I think a person needs to be real with themselves. There are a lot of women that are too comfortable with being fat. I once said on here I wouldn't date a woman that I couldn't wrap my arms around. And this (most likely fat) woman on here scolded me for it. But she had no idea how big my wingspan is (6'8"). I told her, "if I can't wrap my arms around you you SHOULD be worried". Because you're dealing with a lot more than just a couple lbs. Of vanity weight.

worldscolide · Answer

It is, an obese woman would not make a good mother in my opinion.

Nifrayu · Answer

I think it's a far more acceptable reason that rejecting someone for their height.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes. People have the right to reject others for whatever reason (s) they want.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

No one forces me to like something, or to not like something. That's my right. And so it's very much ok, as long as it's done in a polite enough manner.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Physical attraction 🧲 is important Why not it's there opinion

blondfrog · Answer

Rejecting anyone for any reason is okay. You don't owe shit to anyone. Especially in a country like America. And they are all shallow reasons. It's just what society dictates as more or less accepting of that shallow reason.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If you have a person who is so overweight that they can't care for themselves much or do things around the house such as cleaning, then you may need to reconsider dating them.

strateguy632 · Answer

i would not judge someone who rejected a fat. we are too judgy due to woke rules and need to be far less judgey.

Anonymous · Answer

saying something like “ your so fat I don’t want to date you“ is rude.
I would personally not be interested in dating an overweight person. I would just say “I’m not interested” if they asked me out

msc545 · Answer

Yes - overweight is also almost equivalent to unhealthy. No thanks.

overthinkergirl · Answer

sure whatever your preferences are. if u don’t someone you don’t like and u can’t force anything.

siseñor · Answer

yeah, i'd want to be with someone that takes care of their body and mind and being overweight is a sign of neglect in those areas

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, despite that it might seems cruel, but it is no diff then us rejecting someone simply because they are not our type etc.. Hence the answ is, yes, it is okay to reject

slatyb · Answer

No one has an obligation to date anyone else. If you aren't interested, then politely decline.

Likethesky · Answer

You have the right to have standards whether they are realistic, unrealistic , high low whatever. If someone doesn’t want overweight partners then it is 100% okay for them to reject someone based on their weight

Billlewis · Answer

A woman always has the right to reject any guy for any reason she likes, period.

KingslayerC · Answer

Telling people what they are allowed to reject is sociopathic.

Baredog69 · Answer

You may not be attracted to that. Being heavy doesn't make them a bad person. Its just may not be your thing.

DJB72 · Answer

You're attracted to who you're attracted to. Be honest enough to own that bigotry.

Massageman · Answer

Anyone can reject anyone for whatever their reason.  Anyone can accept anyone for whatever the reason.

Unit1 · Answer

There is a difference between having a few extra kilograms and just being fat. Rejecting someone for being fat is totally acceptable.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Yes. If I'm not attracted I'm not attracted. No amount of chances or great personality is going to change that.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah, I’m not and I don’t like how it looks on a woman, we all have our preferences and that’s something they can change

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