What was special about people you have fallen in love with?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He loved me for all the bad things I was - That made me feel accepted at my worst and I found it very special.

People usually love you for the good things you are.

[Sonjita]

With my current boyfriend, it's that he was always there. And I felt he always cared for me and didn't want to take advantage of me.

One day before we even started dating, we went swimming with friends and there I saw he had a really hot body 🥵 and we were just playing in water like kids. And the way he was looking at me was so beautiful. Then I noticed he had so beautiful eyes. It made me want to kiss him but I didn't. In the evening we all went to a club and there he finally kissed me. Later I took him outside and I told him lets go fuck. And he said: No you are drunk, and he took me home and left. We were texting a bit that night and he told me we will see if you will even remember anything tomorrow. That made me respect him more and that really separated him from other guys.

With him I can really be myself. It doesn't matter what I wear, he tells me every day you are beautiful, that looks so good on you, he calls me cute names. He remembers everything I say. He always buys my favorite things, he just remembers small things like which juice I like, what snacks I like and buys the same thing. He always tells me I love you like 100 times a day and when he's at work he calls me to see how I am. When we meet after work he looks at me and hugs me in a way no one ever did. It never happens that he doesn't reply to me immediately or that he doesn't answer my call. He is not playing any games, he is just a really good guy. Also I can invite him everywhere with my friends and family because he knows how to behave and everyone loves him and he is generally a person everyone likes.

[Jumpintoadstool]

In my husbands case, I love how independent, passionate, and generous he is. He's an assertive, no nonsense kind of guy, but he will give the shirt off his back for someone in need. He's smart, funny, and loves me for who I am. He's a fighter. Willing to stand up for whats right. He's a doer. He doesn't just complain about things without making an effort to find a solution. He genuinely enjoys spending time with me and the banter we have is hilarious. He's my best friend, and I know he always has my back, and I his. We are in each others corner. Its been ten years of marriage so far, and I wouldn't trade it for anything.

[VKN724]

I mean is there really anything I can put into words about why I loved them? They were the sex I was attracted to, had a relatively low body fat percentage that allowed me to see their physiques in their glory, and had the same hobbies and interests as me. Kind of the holy trifecta if you ask me. Checked all the boxes for physical attractiveness and mental attractiveness. I think the only reason why I am not still with one of them now is because when I was younger I wasn't so stubborn with my beliefs and views of the world, I simply wanted someone average-looking who wanted to touch my body as much as I wanted them to touch my body. Finish off the touching by talking about how much we both loved listening to the same music and had the same video game interests and that was enough for me.

Nowadays the requirement for wife material (for me personally) is believing in the same things on a societal scale. Seeing the same issues in the world and practicing the same beliefs. I can't guarantee that we will always believe the same things til the end of our lives but having someone who understands why you bitch and complain about something is awesome.

[mobiusforniner]

When you say you love someone, you’re really saying “I see all of you”. That is, you know that person is imperfect but you accept them as they are and are willing to sacrifice whatever to bring out their best. He didn’t love you for “bad things”. He loved you because of…. you.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes… And I felt so loved and accepted, sometimes I had tears of happiness to feel that regardless of all my bad sides and imperfections, I was loved. I was loved with everything I was, everything I hided from others, he accepted it all and made me feel like I deserved love even at my worst.

[dynamicyandere]

Before my standards were raised, I fell for people like this:


They were fun. They were cute. They were passionate. They were sensual.


After my standards were raised, this is who has stood out. Who didn’t just have the attributes above, but these as well:


They were incredibly attentive, empathetic, sincere, and established a connection with me that felt deep — as if we existed in a whole other world of our own that only we could truly understand.



Then what it took to fall deeper in love:


They were loyal, they were committed, they were devoted, they persevered and stuck by me through all ups and all downs. They’ve shown their love can weather storms. They’ve proven their love is strong and true.

[turnpost]

This person knows how to indent.

[OlderAndWiser]

In comparison to others, I suspect the "bad things" about you are relatively minor. But, yes, it is reassuring to know that you are loved even when they have seen you at your worst.

[Bethany22]

They were more emotionally intelligent and diplomatic than the women in my life.

[HiveBee]

No clue. I don't think love is so simple that you can just write out a list of reasons. I've loved so many times and every single time it was the worst idea ever.

But I didn't choose to feel that way. Love is blind in my opinion.

And that sucks because you can think about your values and what's good for you all day. But that doesn't mean you will love someone who exemplifies those values.

I think it's more likely you fall in love with a random person and then you habe to decide by the standard of your values, whether you should pursue that love or not.

And that's hard because love is very powerful.

[Constatine]

She had things.. and a great smile which made her special. She was not a girl who wanted everything her way. Was always there for others day and night ( every day every hour ) and never ever asked anything in return..

The best part.

She did not even realized how special she was. What made her even more special.

And when i told her she was special and i gave her something for all her good deeds.

Her answer was : why? I don't deserve this.

I was sold..

[midnightmoon05]

My hubby…when we first met.. he was by my side at my worse, I had a broken foot/ankle…when I upended my eyes in the hospital he was sitting there waiting for me… I had only met him once before. gag kinda put us together…. Or something like that.
special? He y it s special 😊😂 like us all…

[exitseven]

There are 4 of them. all were different. One was just the first , another was just different from anybody else, another i have no idea but it was the most intense 7 months i ever had and when she dumped me I thought i would never recover. Finally I met somebody that checked all the boxes and I could not believe that somebody like her really existed.

[Selliebeanz]

Ngl in retrospect those people I loved in the past didn’t deserve my love. I just thought they did at the time because I chose to see the best in them and projected my own thoughts and onto them which benefited them.

[Guido]

Nobody is perfect and we all have our flaws and faults. I guess it would be the person has a lot more traits that are good and mesh with my likes then they have faults. When spending time with them, time passes without even knowing it and we complement each other.

I do not believe there is any 1 specific thing that makes you fall in love with them. You just feel like you always want to be with them and get to the point where you can't imagine being without them. It just sneeks up on you and then you realize you love the person.

[BCA6010]

Two common denominators are that I knew them as friends with common interests first before we ever dated, and in both noteworthy relationships that long outlasted the rest and seemed like they'd become more permanent, they had enough self awareness to make fun of their own quirks without becoming overly defensive, or in active denial of their issues - which we were both better for.

[OneTrueYou]

To me, what is special and what makes you truly fall more madly and deeply in love with someone are the things that make them different from other people. When you try to look like everyone else with the same caked on makeup and the same designer clothes and the same designer handbags and you are so concerned with what everyone else thinks about you, it takes away from what makes you interesting because you're just like everyone else. Just be who you are and then when you find that one that truly loves you, then you know it's real and not just because you fit into some genre of people that expect you to be like everyone else.

[madhatters4]

what was special about him? what did you love him for?

this is just a list of things i loved about the 4 people i've "loved"

similar aspirations, kindness, intelligence, thoughtfulness, zeal for life, responsibility, honesty, to name a few

[Billybobjosie]

He is my opposite, the moon to my sun. he's everything I wish I had the courage to be. But since we've gotten together he's opened up a new world for me. he's taught that I am patient, kind, and deserve to be loved correctly. I truly am lucky to call him mine.

[turnpost]

You can change genders. They have coupons.

[Robertjo16]

At one point I did love someone. Truly. Together for multiple years, he meant the world to me. He was funny, kind, caring, loyal (or so i thought) and he truly loved me (again, so i thought.) That hadn't really ever happened before. I'll save you the sob story.

[turnpost]

Your 15, like you shouldn't even have had a relationship in the first place.

[love_conquers_lust]

Never declared it. Her smile, her body, her interests, her personality, her sexuality, her aggressively selfless nature. I loved her take charge approach when exploring together. Inability to forgive and move past mistakes was what killed it, and it was foolish.

It’s not about approving the bad. It’s about loving unconditionally despite the bad. Accepting them as humans and forgiving their transgressions. Something we failed to do.

[Twalli]

Funnily enough we complete each other. She has what I lack and vice versa.

I don't get hungry, but can cook. She can't cook, but does get hungry. I don't starve to death because of her, and she doesn't have to order out because of me.

[Anonymous]

She had the same deep wounds that I myself battled and we both kept them hidden from view to others. It established an intoxicating codependent dynamic for us both that we both were drawn to but we also had many of the same strengths that competed with each other causing so much strife for us to constantly contend with. The way the dominoes ended up landing on each of our respective sides, was ultimately the reason for it not working

[Paris13]

Firast True Love was from 13to16. Never Anything Like It... Hard to Explain... xxoo

[strateguy632]

each had different various qualities. if not patient had something else. if not something else, had patience.

[sage2021]

They were sweet, had good communication skills. they made me feel special

[Billlewis]

They really, truly believed that they deserved to be spoiled.

[Nikki1989]

My husband is the sweetest, kindest, funniest and most romantic man I have ever known.

[Sevenpointfive]

to me love has to be returned for it to be love. i've only had that with my dog.

[Joshydavid25]

Don't know.. I'll let you know when it finally happens..

[Ms_Facesitter]

I can be myself with them and would love staying with them. That's how they make me feel.

[Anonymous]

Her voice was kinda deep, but when she relaxed, it would hit a cute tone.

[Alex-Snow]

Someone who listens, who cares and is honest

[LiamJHayden]

The women I have loved had proven themselves worthy of the effort.

[Minahh]

It was my love that made them special or better said the delusion that I loved them

[Grond21]

I've always wondered what it's like to fall in love.

[Masterodd]

Being able to walk, Breathing, Slim & trim, Good hygiene a MUST!, Have a vagina and boobs!

Oh... and NOT Smoke.

[boobliker]

It just happend and was nice

mostly it was lust at first

[m33ladEmjay]

Them being able to show it off on social media..

[turnpost]

Circumstance, environmental proximity and practicality and flexibility.

[BLP11520]

Her eyes... she owned me. The one that got away

[Avicenna]

Their personalities

[Khlifi]

Nothing abnormal this is love but love for a certain thing I think is just a passion and it passes

[krin_m]

Compassion, self-confidence, great sense of humor. Good looks don't hurt either :-)

[Slim57]

Loving and caring, she helped me so much when I broke my foot

[normalice]

Sexual compatibility

[johnnydeeeep]

Wow, I couldn't be more charmed by that

[OddBeMe]

Our subconsciouses matched.

[In_Trance]

The little things

[qqqqq0000]

Good dick

[azgınteke]

only good womans

[Anonymous]

A good sense of humor is important to me.

[Jmmmfi4]

SHE WAS HOT

[jimmy2]

Till dear we part