If a guy goes on vacation with his female friend only does it mean he wants to date her?

[Anonymous]

Yes most likely

Can’t really tell

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've gone on vacation with 4 women I had no interest in dating.

[Asker]

Would you post them on Insta?

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't do social media.

[OlderAndWiser]

How old are you, really?

[Asker]

25, why?

[OlderAndWiser]

How can you be so completely naive at the age of 25?

[Asker]

So you think he did want to have sex with her?

[OlderAndWiser]

It depends on how it happened that you went on vacation together. Did he ask you to do that? Did he pay for everything? Was there any discussion about separate bedrooms? Did you spend all of the vacation time together? HGow far away did avel? How log did it last?

[Asker]

He was on vacation with a female friend that is part of his friend group. They both live in Germany and went to Spain for a few days and were together the entire time. I don’t know if he paid for anything but I assume they shared a room since they are both students and don’t earn that much

[OlderAndWiser]

And they didn't have sex and didn't start dating?

[Asker]

He postet their vacation pics on Instagram but still wants my attention. When I saw them together recently in my neighborhood I would have never thought that there was something going on because their body language was so distant

[Asker]

I don’t know their official relationship status but he acts like he is single when I see him on campus

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you see him in social situations other than on campus?

[Asker]

no i dont

[OlderAndWiser]

Why don't you organize a happy hour event for a group of friends, and then exctend an invitation to him. Tell him it's a group of friends getting together and he can bring a friend if there is someone else he wants to include.

1. It is a group event so it is not like a date, but if he wants to spend some time with you, this is a great opportunity for him.
2. It is a late afternoon/early evening event, so it is not like you are asking him for a date, and
3. You are inviting him to bring someone else with him.

By doing this,

1. you will see if he accepts the invitation, suggesting possible interest in you.
2. You will see if he brings someone else. If he comes alone, then there is probably no serious
girlfriend in his life.
3. If he is interested, you two can sit together and have some conversation. If he is not interested, you can talk to your other friends and it won't look like you were throwing yourself at him.

What do you think about this idea?

[elizamichale1]

Yea sounds like it

[Asker]

Ok. This guy and I don’t talk but he used to have a crush on me and he still stares at me. Why does he still try to get my attention if he has this female friend that likes him?

[elizamichale1]

Well maybe he is into u honey... u hav to find out but only if u like him too

[Asker]

Yeah but he seems into her as well

[elizamichale1]

Well flirt with him a little n see how he responds n u will know if he is a player or wht

[Asker]

He made me a playlist he didn’t share with me and his friend tried to make us sit next to each other in class. I just feel like he is a but desperate for affection and would take any girl. Wouldn’t a player be more confident with me instead of staring from afar and looking away quickly? And can he really be smitten with this vacation girl if he still searches for me in a room?

[elizamichale1]

Thts why i m saying flirt with him... he may be into u n he is with tht girl but not his heart...
Otherwise it means he needs to hav a girl with him everytime n till he gets u he is with other girl...

[Asker]

I've Seen him flirt even with other girls in front of me and I think he would respond positively to any girl that approached him. It was after a lecture when we were asked to Form project groups of 5. Two girls approached him and his friend and he kept looking at me to join their group and when someone else joined as last member he started flirting with those two girls and talked really loudly but he still stared at me two days later from afar. My friend thinks he tried to make me jealous but I’m not so sure about that

[Asker]

But if He is not really really into her why would he post pictures of them together on vacation?

[elizamichale1]

Yea it seems so tht he wants u but he doesn't want to make the move... he wants u to beg him...
Specially when he flirts with others n tries to make u jealous i wyd say once again tht be careful he could be a player..

[elizamichale1]

Wow he posts her pics too... careful girl..

[Asker]

Would a player not be more smooth?

[elizamichale1]

Nah they r different kinds honey... this is when they can say they never came on to u n instead u begged for them

[Anonymous]

And wanna sex in this vacation

[Asker]

Ok, he also posted two vacation pics with her on Instagram and occasionally tags her on his stories but he still stares at me when he sees me and his friends know he likes me. So what’s the deal?

[Opinion Owner]

He did sex with her
And tease u to go with him

[Asker]

You can’t know if he did. I know he was on vacation with a female friend of his that didn’t like him back. And him and I don’t talk he just stares at me

[Opinion Owner]

So what he wanna tell u?

[Asker]

Don’t know. He made me a romantic playlist but never shared it with me and his friends tried to ship us. He seems to be interested in me but I don’t understand why if he already has his female friend who he knows way better and who seems to like him back

[Asker]

Would he really stare at me for months from afar if he was head over heals for his best female friend?

[Opinion Owner]

He want u as a hook up i think

[Asker]

He talked about me to his friends and he liked me way before he met her

[Opinion Owner]

Ok and u didn't go for him
So he did a hook up before u

[Asker]

It’s not just a hook up. He posts her on insta and she is part of his friend group

[Opinion Owner]

So friends with benefits then

[Asker]

How do you know she is not his girlfriend?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe she is
by the way this boy is a fuck boy

[Asker]

How do you know? He is really shy around me

[Asker]

And he tends to get obsessed with girls easily

[Opinion Owner]

Thats why i said it
He feel shy to u but when he get u he will lose this shyness

[Asker]

If he is a fuckboy why would he post couple pics with this girl on insta? And why did his friends try to ship us years ago?

[Opinion Owner]

Tbh I don't know its not easy

[Opinion Owner]

Tbh i did posted things on insta stories
Just to show someone

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

I mean i shared my night with a girl on insta
To show someone

[Asker]

To show whom?

[Opinion Owner]

My ex
I showed her that her bestfriend is on my bed lol

[Asker]

But you were not interested sexually in your best friend?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope

[Opinion Owner]

And she were her best not mine