Do you allow anyone say anything bad about your ex?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

One of the men who likes me, kind of laughed about the fact that my ex was Chinese, he asked me how could I like him.

I can’t let anyone be racist to others in my presence, especially to the person I loved with my whole heart, I chose him over the men of 5 continents who were pursuing a relationship with me at the same time, which means he was worthy enough, cool enough, amazing enough to be mine.

To be honest, I think he was one of the hottest man alive, I am proud he was my first, and I find it very disrespectful to my choice to laugh about his race. Why do people allow themselves to laugh about anyone? I prefer my ex’s one little finger over that man’s entire existence.

Why do they think they can overlook someone else because of his race or nationality?

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6 mo

He asked me how could I like a Chinese man. Wth.

I’d love to show him my ex’s pic, so he can see, he’s not worth the 10th of what my ex was.

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6 mo

I told him that I eon’t allow anyone speak this disrespectfully about my ex. So, he apologized and said he just meant we have different mentality since we are from different cultures and that he didn’t mean it in a disrespectful way.

Yeah, I feel like men should know their place. You can’t come and be racist to another person, especially with the one I loved and expect me to be okay with it. I am done talking with him.

[dynamicyandere]

I’m glad you put your foot down. He didn’t know your history. He didn’t know the story. He just immediately started judging and trying to belittle your first love. All that revealed was his nasty personality. Instead of showing you what a great suitor he was, he resorted to putting down others and even exposed his own racism. It’s completely possible to shine bright without stepping down on other people. But he chose the dishonorable way. I’m happy you dodged a bullet. He wasn’t worth your time.

[love_conquers_lust]

I don’t really control what other people say. I can contend it if I know it’s inaccurate.

I don’t criticize women for having racial preference. I don’t expect them to express it either.

I try to be able to laugh at myself in good humor sometimes. It’s okay to discuss stereotypes, doesn’t mean it applies to any given individual.

I’d like to be seen for the decisions I’ve made with the choices that have been presented to me. That’s making a connection with another human being.

[Anemone978]

Most guys are jealous of your ex's so it is just their insecurity making him make fun of him and put them down.. but why even bring up your ex to a new guy.. especially when you don't like to talk about your past?

[Anemone978]

Also yes I wouldn't care if someone put down an ex because they are an ex..

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He asked himself. I wasn’t willing to talk. He asked me questions.

[Anemone978]

Oh I see, I really don't get why a guy would be racist right to your face but they do (I had a similar interaction with a guy who asked me on a date years ago) and it just makes you not like them so it is a stupid move lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes, exactly. So narrow minded and disrespectful.

I don’t get why’d guys be jealous of exes though.

[NalleBabyBoysss]

But you could still be a good friend to your ex so wouldn't you mind than if someone talked bad about him/her to you?

[Anemone978]

@NalleBabyBoysss I would never stay friends with someone I was in love with.. unless we had kids..
I don't see myself actually staying friends with an ex.. because if we broke up there must be a reason.. and I just wouldn't want to stay involved or care about someone like that.. I move away from people really easily..

[DizzyDesii]

You can talk shit about my ex if i’m talking shit about my ex. But if we’re currently together then no you can't talk shit about him lmao

[DizzyDesii]

Based off your story, i will definitely defend an ex or anyone in regards to race

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'm glad when they say it early. They're thinking it, so let me know so I can move along. If you're thinking it but NOT saying, doesn't make you any better, and eventually it'll come out and end the same, so let's just fast forward, shall we? Who are you really?

[msc545]

I don't have the power to control what people say. However, on the few occasions that someone I was interested in have said something racist or ugly about a person of another race in my presence, I've written that person out of my life. Racism can make any person ugly as soon as they express it.

[NalleBabyBoysss]

I can't allow what people say but i would get mad at that person and ask why he/she felt the need to say anything bad about someone else and someone i liked if it was a friend and if it was a stranger i would ignore it.

[NalleBabyBoysss]

It came out weird 😂 I can't allow what people say but i would get mad at that person and ask why he/she felt the need to say anything bad about someone else and someone i liked, and that's if it was a friend but if it was a stranger i would ignore it.

[Kaneki05]

Depends what ex? Because some of them I will still happily kill for, so you saying something bad about them is the wrong choice.
The rest well yeah they are dead to me so sure.

Considering half my ex's are Asian and they are the ones I loved the most not related to their race by the way, they just so happened to be the ones that were great. It would become the question of how do I kill this person twice.
Racist and also insulting the good ones.

[molonski2]

Well firstly there are some very handsome Chinese men , I believe in karma so I dont like to go down any negative path , with anyone really.

[Mansearching]

It depends on the break up and reasons there of. Also if it was said in front of our kids (if had any). If it was a good break up then usually no. Not at all.

Bad break ups are hard not to say anything bad from you or anyone else. Except in front of the kids (if any).

[Sevenpointfive]

Take my wife's name out your fuckin' mouf!

[AmeerX]

I don't like it when people say bad about my ex or crushes.. we weren't meant for each other gives no one any right to abuse her and slender her in any way. I just don't like one of them who lied to me.

[TomMarks]

I wouldn’t tolerate racism. (Wouldn’t apply to my ex.) If they want to call her what she is, so be it.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t tolerate racism either.

Especially how he dares mention it right in my face? Just infuriates me.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And makes me think of how good my ex was, so different from all these racist assholes.

[TomMarks]

Yeah, you can find reasons to express (if) you dislike your ex and not be racist.

[NathanDavis]

they never had any reasons to say in this first place

[BlissfullyCurSed]

they could say anything they wanna say as I have none.🤣🤣🤣🥰

[exitseven]

Probably not, even though they are exes for a reason there was some other reason that made me want to date them in the first place.

[Paris13]

I Can But Not Anyone Else. lolxxoo

[RedInnocent68]

Can’t really stop them. But, no. It’s unhealthy.

[scooogy]

I rather had others try to keep me from gossiping about her hot&cold trip of 4 years.

[Uglycryer]

He’s a grown ass man he can handle it

[soe11]

No Never, will not tolerate.

[ChefPapiChulo]

You’re deranged

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Okay.

[ChefPapiChulo]

You’re mentally ill.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Okay…

[spartan55]

Until Monday.

[Anonymous]

Chinese 😂