Guys, why did he reach out again?

[Anonymous]

I (27F) was talking to a guy (31M) for a couple months. We didn’t meet sooner because we live 8 hours from each other, but had a day planned when he asked for my number. I am new to talking to guys, so any advice is appreciated. We hit it off strongly, he was chasing me and we liked each other. We were supposed to meet over the weekend, but I ruined it by overthinking. I told him it was best not to meet because I felt our vibe was off and I had been bothering him over the last couple weeks. He told me he was just super busy with his kids and apologized for not communicating it. However, he was acting dry the week prior and didn’t have his kids. I asked if he still wanted to meet up and he didn’t reply. I was super upset but I’m okay now.

On Sunday, I posted myself at a football game on Instagram. He is the reason I started watching football. He texted me to have fun at the game and texted me the next day asking how the game was. I kept both responses short, but why do you care? I hadn’t heard from him for 5 days when we used to talk everyday and thought we’d never speak again. I miss him, so this didn’t help. I don’t see the point in us talking anymore if we’re not going to meet.

[Oliverlogan263]

Sounds like this guy may be a player. Reaching out again after ghosting you like that is sketchy. A few possibilities:

- He's bored so he's keeping you on the backburner for attention/an ego boost until something better comes along. Not cool.

- Maybe he likes the chase but isn't actually tryna commit to long distance or meeting up. Just stringing you along.

- Could be his way of testing if you're still hooked - if you respond eagerly, he knows he's got you on reserve. Lame move.

My advice - don't fall for it! You were right to call things off, his behavior is shady. If he was really feelin you, he'd make more effort than occasional breadcrumbs.

I'd keep it real short if you reply at all, don't engage much. And see what he does - if he ghosts again that tells you all you need to know. You can do better than this fool.

Keep your head up, your vibes will attract someone who wants you for real!

[strateguy632]

he thought he was being polite. but if you think the distance is a problem tell "this is not working".