Why would he reach out if he has nothing to talk?

[Anonymous]

The guy had crush on me (which I didn’t reciprocate) and years later was inconsistent with me so I eventually drifted away for something casual, which made him terribly upset to the point of shouting and never talking to me (ending things). I have seen him being cool around situations where his date would leave so I was taken aback by this strange behaviour.

Few months later I tried to talk but he wasn’t interested. Infact I can sense his anger.

Months later he tried to connect with me by adding me on Snapchat. But then he kept silent until one day I called him ( a year later). The whole conversation went on lines like ‘I want you to know I’m doing good and achieved something in life in a big city but want you to care me but without me saying’ from his end.

And he is upset at me for looking for someone and still asks me if I ever kissed anyone.

When I said ‘yes’, he blocked me again without hearing another word.

He later reached out to me again and when inquired said it was by accident. I know it wasn’t accident.

why would a guy be acting strange as he is usually cool with such stuff.

[HollyK21]

So what does all this mean? Did you change your mind about being interested? I know it’s hard to include each important detail, so I’m going to judge off what’s provided and here’s what it looks like:

He initially confesses a crush, you don’t reciprocate, and since then have not verbally expressed mutual interest (unless you have and just didn’t include that context here). Then you say years later he was inconsistent so you drifted away, so was this maybe the juncture of time where you two pursued something romantically but it wasn’t working out? Otherwise was he just inconsistent as a friend? Because you can’t expect him to work towards you, knowing in the back of his mind it’s pointless.

Same reason why he probably wasn’t responsive when you tried to talk a few months after that, he could perceive it as you playing games when you know he likes you. Since then, I think he’s struggled with having feelings but knowing they aren’t reciprocated. It really sucks wanting someone in your life but knowing you can’t deal with them on a platonic level, as it’s too hurtful.

So feel free to clarify if my views on your situation are misunderstood in some way, since again I’m only judging off what you’ve provided. It just sounds like hurt feelings on his end and lack of communication in general.