When is it okay to ask how much a guy makes when first dating?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

It’s not. I’d caution you against asking because a man is going to see you as a gold digger. Even after 15 years my girl has never asked me. So long as things financially are all taken care of. Mind you I’m the only one who works, she takes care of the house, the dogs, etc.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No, it's never appropriate when dating. You know what he does for a living. Look it up to get an idea, but it's none of your business when you're only dating. I make quite enough to support my lifestyle. You don't need to know precisely how much that is because I didn't get here by putting my business out there for someone that's known me for less time than I've had some bottles of wine in my wine fridge.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't think it's okay at all. It sounds like you're after just money, like that's his only value.

Just look at how he lives. If he can take care of himself, it's a good sign. If you want to be a stay at home wife, you can maybe ask if he would be able to provide for the two of you, since deciding to stay at home is an important long term goal.

[devilish-cutie]

I dont think id ever ask that or would want anyone asking me that, finances could be discussed tho if we like live together.

[Asker]

Why not?

[devilish-cutie]

because thats very private matter, people often have their opinions and judgement what you should do with your own money

[Avicenna]

Nah, that's not appropriate on a first date

[RavVid]

I have noticed that girls ask you questions to establish 1. Your net asset backing 2. your income on the first date. After getting satisfactory answers they only want to talk about themselves after that.

So keep this for the first date and don't make it a condition for a date. You'll just look like a gold digger in which case guys will think it is entirely reasonable to lie.

[Beckybooboo]

When he starts asking you to loan him money.

[SuperJJ]

I would probably never ask, unless he brags about how much he earns.

[Simslover92]

When you've been together for about a few months. I asked my boyfriend a few months in.

[chrissykerdock]

it's a matter of choice how bad do you need to know do you need to move in with him asap?

[Tim2nice]

It’s not ok to ask that, but it’s ok to ask for she does for a living and you get a rough idea from that.

[Drumlin2001]

Can he ask you the same question? Should he judge you in your answer?

[Pudsmucker]

It's nobody's business how much money I make. It's between me and the person I pay my taxes to.

[RedInnocent68]

Um, not until you start living with each other and have to pay things together.

[jongreat46]

Only if he is not being honest about what he does for a living, not how much he makes especially if you are in the early days of dating.

[DextroShade]

Around the same time it's okay for him to ask you your body count.

[exitseven]

No, that is being too nosey.

[LunarEclipse433]

No. It shouldn't matter.

[jimmy2]

It's kinda well should wait a bit longer

[nawtee_me]

It is not….