Is it incel behavior to believe that I need to be desirable so I can date? Such as have a car, go to the gym, and look better overall?

[thedumb1XD]

I was talking with some girl and she said that I do not need to have my shit together to have a girlfriend? She says why date someone who already has a car, house, job, and is fit when you can be with him when he barely starting out? She says because if I could get a girl I wouldn't needs these imaginary check marks and be already dating someone?

What do you think about this and is this true? From my experience most girls ghost me on date's and I have no idea why!

[boggboss]

I dont believe having these things will stop women from ghosting you or make u better at talking to women

[thedumb1XD]

It won't but it's better than doing nothing and change myself for the better.

[boggboss]

Its is better then doing nothing but it won't fix your issue

[thedumb1XD]

It may not but at least physically I will feel better and mentally 😁

[boggboss]

Then go for it

[Angxl3120]

Yes you need to be, its not about the car but we see the hardwork you put in it so we know you're not a lazy person and is actually serious in life

[thedumb1XD]

So, I was right then screw that person who told me that.

[LazerBean]

No, it's true that a person has to be desirable to the type of person they want to date in order to attract them.

[thedumb1XD]

But why is this wrong? Don't you want a guy who have all of these things rather than a man who has nothing.

[LazerBean]

I didn't say it's wrong. His question is "is it incel behavior to believe that I need to be desirable so I can date?"

To which I answered "no". As in, "no it is not incell behavior."

[Billlewis]

Just keep adding more things to your repertoire, and eventually you'll be in a relationship with an attractive woman.

[Billlewis]

Wow... she's really got you pegged -- there's not much to say in your defense... but I understand exactly where you're coming from.

[mandyfire98]

You need to get your life together for you and you alone. It's important. It's not incel behavior to think that. It's incel behavior when you blame everything on women and hate women.

[thedumb1XD]

True and I'm not, I just want to better myself.

[mandyfire98]

Then you should. Nothing wrong with that.

[Lovesoad1]

If you want to date trash then yea change yourself.

[thedumb1XD]

So, it's better to change than just being the same way.

[Lovesoad1]

Ok so this is what you do. You walk to the mirror and ask yourself am I sexy? Do I look good do I have enough money to be satisfied? Am I a good person? If the answer is yes then you are desirable. Anyone who can't see that is trash.

[thedumb1XD]

When I look in the mirror I see that I gained weight and need to lose some to be more sexy and better looking.

[Lovesoad1]

Better looking for yourself! If you think you are good looking that what is important. Anyone who can't see what you see is not on the same wavelength as you are. If you think you will love yourself more if you lose weight then lose weight. But not for someone else.

[thedumb1XD]

No, I want to do it for myself and not for someone else because I have been seeing that I have been gaining weight.

[Anonymous]

None of that nonsense is needed as there are ugly women too.

[Anonymous]

You are ugly

[Billlewis]

Oh my goodness... you are so mean and vicious... which is another way of saying that you are absolutely magnificent... lol

[thedumb1XD]

If I am ugly isn't it better to work on myself and start doing better for myself?

[Billlewis]

Yes, sir, and I didn't mean to make light of your situation. For young guys in need of some physical intimacy, the three M's offer salvation -- money, muscles and music. Muscles are generally the easiest to obtain. Just start working out at a gym and within a few months, you'll see a definite change in the way women treat you.