What's the worst thing a partner ever did to you?

Question

Air out your dirty laundry. What did your ex/ current partner do that hurt you the most?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

X wife took advantage of me being bipolar.
Before we married l told her l was bipolar.
I also volunteered to pay off her debt since she was a single mother of two. We had discussed paying that debt off quicker by me consolidating it and she would help paying it off.

That never happened. Once we married she was bouncing checks left and right. The bank we used made a shit load of money from her. Rather than turning the checks over to the prosecuting attorney, they charged $29.00 per bounced check. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why she was deliberately do this.

I fought tooth and nail over five years to get what little money l could from her and a great deal of my paycheck to keep my credit score up.

We discussed the faster we paid it off the sooner we could start building something as a married couple. That never happened.

During that five years of attempting to get her to fulfill her end of our agreement, she continued to rack up more credit card debt.

It took a few more years to learn that she just chose never to pay off any of her debt. That, “single mother of two”, debt wasn’t because she struggled to pay her bills, but a deliberate refusal to pay her debts period. Once l acquired her debt, her refusal to help me pay it off, was her attempt to destroy my credit rating in the hopes l would grow tired of fighting with her to pay it off.

This is not the only thing she did to take advantage of me being bipolar but l don’t have the time or space on GAG to list them. I did however thwart her attempts to destroy me mentally for 18 years and in the end l filed for divorce. I got the house, the land and full custody of the cat. I had a good lawyer and a mystified judge complimenting me for sticking it out for so long.

I out flanked her ass and destroyed her instead.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

After 24 years of marriage, she stole money from me, she cheated on me, she destroyed my relationship with my children, and she took have my net worth $800,000.00 dollars in the divorce. Forces the sale of 4 properties and I ended up living in a trailer for 2 years... until the 2-year divorce process was over, and I could have full access to my assets to get my own place.

Marriage is about so much more than love. It's a legally binding contract... and the law will not protect you no matter how extreme the abuse was. Look at all the single mothers in this country without no man or father in the picture.

They will have you believe that all these men are dead beats... and a far percentage are... but never assume these women are any better. They just put themselves in front of their what's best for their own children.

Thats the worst thing my SO has ever done to me... and nobody gives a shit and even if they did, the law will not protect you.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

She wouldn’t kiss me or do anything intimate other than hugging, and then would complain to our friends that I never “gave out” or showed intimacy towards her. She pretended like she didn’t have a phone during our relationship, and then in the last month of our relationship I started receiving awful texts from a random number calling me all sorts of degrading and harsh names, and telling me to kill myself. The “random person” texting me also kept harassing me with different numbers everytime I blocked their number. They would tell me to break up with her because I didn’t deserve her and that I was a horrible person. I ended up breaking up with her because I was so exhausted from being harassed by this unknown person. Shortly after breaking up, I found out through a friend that the numbers belonged to her. She’d had a phone the whole time and she wanted me to break up with her so that she could be the victim, rather than breaking up with me herself.

I’ve been cheated on by other ex partners but what she did to me definitely hurt more than that.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

Hit me. Hard enough for a few nights in the hospital. Never allow anyone treat you this way, or any way you don't want to be treated.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I had two partners who cheated on me. I had a girlfriend who had sex with my roommate, and then they confessed so they could feel better about it! Years later, my wife cheated on me with another female. We were divorced within about four months.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I can’t remember such. Everything that happened was partially my fault too. I don’t blame anyone.

Finchie40 · Answer

Cheating , that was my final straw to end it

molonski2 · Answer

The absolute worst was years ago , in my 20s , the bitch was a phyco , smoking wayyyyyy too much dope , a manipulator and lair..

She took all my things , mainly sentimental items , and had a bon fire , burnt it all , school photos and the like , it was when this happened that I realised what a mistake I'd made.

Years later , I saw her at an event , I was completely indifferent , but she asked could she come over the following week , and she missed me so much sexually , and all this other bullshit , I said " Yeah sure , Wednesday at 7pm " ( I was not home , and knew I would not be ) , but she didn't really come which was exactly what I expected her to do.

Just a back decision to fck her in the first place , and have since never gone near anyone that is 420 , just does not work for me.

Saramad_Hill · Answer

She had me park about a five minute walk away from her "ex" who I wasn't allowed to meet because "he might get mad and beat me up."

I sat in my car for an hour before she came back. Apparently she had been getting drugs from him in exchange for sexual favors. I didn't know until later. I mean, I knew it was her ex but she had made up a lie about going to retrieve something.

There's also the time I spent all day cleaning her house as a surprise, only for her to never show up, and instead be at his place.

Or the time she canceled a date with me because he bought her a ticket to some show in another county.

I think I was just super naïve at that point in time. I thought I loved her within the span of a month, and this isn't even all the things that happened, just the few that come to mind.

kitsachie · Answer

I've had two relationships that gave me serious trauma.

Dated a girl with BPD who cheated on me multiple times and threatened to harm herself if I left. She ended up ending the relationship but accused me of abusing her publicly so I ended up losing friends because people believed her over me.

Current ex, we had a happy relationship for approximately three years, I wanted to be engaged with her. We ended up moving across the country because of her grad school but within the first month of us being there, she left me and moved out and moved in with a guy she told me not to worry about.

I still haven't regained my trust in people since.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

I have long history lets see let my start off with my ex boyfriend Jestin. He was very abusive he broke off with me all because his mommy Amy ask him to do so. I was really young 18 he was 17 at the time. I ended up pregnant being young I didn't know nothing about high risk pregnancies. I lost the baby he never care about the baby or me. I used to love him to the point I picture myself marrying him. He left me heart broken crying. I did cry for jessy a lot. He broke up with me then 3 days later he walks up right into my face holding hands with this stupid Brenda girl. But I get it I am history to him. Later my now ex husband I was punch kick and his dictator mom AKA my now ex monster in law. I had no say innothing his mommy had to make the decisions.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

She ended our relationship upon finding out she was pregnant (we'd only been together for a short time and there's a bit of a back story but not relevant). That on its own is her choice and no issue. We were in early weeks, we met up to talk, she had clearly been researching how to keep the child away from me and how not to share custody. She was suggesting that I wouldn't have any overnight till at least 3yr old, which was never going to wash with me and immediately put us on opposing sides. She refused to contemplate anything handed down, wanted everything new (she was out of work, so seemingly was expecting me to cover it all. I knew i had friends and families that could give us so much for free).
As it was it ended in a miscarriage, we never really talked after that. She did reach out a few months later but seemed to be blaming me for things when I just wanted to move in with my life.

tfan1 · Answer

My wife shaved and it started to grow back. When we were in the dark trying to have sex, one of her pubic sharp “whiskers” I guess you call it, went right into my urethra and I started bleeding a bit. She turned on the light and said what’s wrong? I said one of your sharp hairs went into my urethra making it bleed. All she said was better go get some toilet tissue. I cleaned and washed my penis and the blood stopped oozing out. I looked in our bedroom, she cleaned herself with a wipe and went to sleep. To this day she never apologized. Next morning she did ask if my penis was better and I said yes and she said good. That was it.

syncheart · Answer

This is a tricky question for me. I never had a partner. There was two girls. One offline and one online, that we almost became partners. The one offline, brought her new boyfriend to my place of employment and dry humped him in front of me. The other one, the one online, after a month or two, came out of no where and told me that she no longer felt the same about me, but wanted to be friends. Our friendship got a bit rocky, so she wrote a blog about me on myself. It was 4 pages long slandering me. 4 years later, after she got with someone, got pregnant etc. She decided to take it down.

Anonymous · Answer

My ex turned abusive and cheated on me. My current boyfriend, I recently found out that he cheated on me with one of his guy friends and is apparently bi or closet gay. He tried to tell me that he "experimented" with him before he met me, that he'd decided that he didn't like it, and that they hadn't spoken to or saw each other in over a year. However the text was recent and talking about how things were going good with me but that he enjoyed their secret hookups, while proceeding to go into graphic detail about what they'd done together. We just moved in together in October and we're supposed to be getting married. Now I'm at a loss.

Anonymous · Answer

- One ex, she worked with a coworker she would be with all day, they started hanging out after work. I told her, I was a homewrecker in college, I know how this works, just be careful, I trust you. Basically the game is to undermine everything she thinks about her current relationship, make her doubt things, be available and comforting, do things contrary to the current boyfriend to make the current boyfriend seem like a bad choice, etc. Needless to say, she slept with him and then felt bad so dumped me the next day.
- Another ex had a boyfriend that worked for half a year in a remote area. I didn't know about him until she snapped me a video of them in bed.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve had woman say and do horrible things to me all through our my life.

But the game changing moment was what my ex girlfriend said to me after breaking up many years ago. She talked to me like I was less then human.

She had to see me as less then human to self justify her own bullshit (I am about 99% sure she cheated).

I never expected her to act that way. Ever. But it was just a reminder that once a woman no longer finds value in a man then he quickly becomes expendable. Men do not have value in this world for just existing. Nowhere near the same extent that women do.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

She had sex with our next door "kid" he was 5 years younger. And he sent me a text : "do you know how good is your wife in bed?" Then i confronted her about it and all she said was : "it happened over a beer".
So i told her... That's it, i'll gor right, you'll go left! Don't want to cross paths with you Ever again in my life... Now happily single for 16 years.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

She was the driving force behind my second suicide attempt after my mother passed  I blocked her and she kept texting me from other numbers to tell me to unalive myself with lots of laughing emoji’s

Billlewis · Answer

She ordered me to strip naked and secured my wrists and ankles to the legs of her picnic table in the back yard, leaving me spread eagled across the table with my bare bottom exposed. After two solid hours -- more than enough time for my butt to get extremely sunburned, she uncuffed me, dragged me into the house and laid an absolutely horrific thrashing to my already tender backside.

Screenwriter · Answer

After a mental breakdown my ex left me, then told me (we were still married) after he returned that he didn't love me like he used to. It was as if he were announcing that now that I was "flawed" he no longer felt the same about me.

It was a shocking blow, and the beginning of the end. Kicked when I was down! Whew.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

False stalking allegations. Any woman who does this, I tend to put her on the lifelong silent treatment. If she lies about my whereabouts some place to get me in trouble, especially if I have fairly solid proof that she's lying, she's dead to me.

SelfishGirl · Answer

Honestly we’ve been together a year now but we always loved each other but he’s changed. This is containing our sex life and all so read if you want.

We’ve been good and all but there have been to many times where it hurt and I didn’t want to finish or times where I didn’t even wanna start and he did it anyways regardless of I’d I said no pushed him away or anything. I’ve felt like it’s my fault or like maybe it’s not bad and I should just let him have his way but it hurt not just physically but emotionally and it sucks.

silvermoon84 · Answer

Two timed me with his ex-girlfriend and another girl and meanwhile he had a fiancée at the time and he lied to all of us. We found out about each other and he went from having four girls to not having anyone. One positive outcome though was that all four of us ditched the player and made three new friends 😁

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