Should I just change my preferences and meet unattractive people because maybe they will be more loyal?

[Reemaa]

Like my preferences will always be Middle Eastern, Mediterranean, White men.
But everytime, these men will cheat on me and the relationship somehow ends. I also feel like they are most likely to be arrogant.
Should i just change my preferences, maybe unattractive men will be more humble and therefore more loyal to me?

[AmeerX]

When someone wants to cheat they do it regardless. But don't make it a generalization that attractive people are the only ones to cheat and non attractive don't.

I am attractive but I don't think I would cheat if my wife was exactly what I want

[NathanDavis]

less attractive people cheat as well... it's a matter of (lack of good) character, not looks...

[Reemaa]

Thanks for your reply. Just me talking about the attraction doesn’t mean i only date people because they are attractive. By attracttion i mean the character, chemistry, look and other things.

[NathanDavis]

if you constantly end up with people that cheat on you...

this is most likely a "you, problem" MAYBE you focus on the wrong things, like... looks or money

MAYBE you rush into situationships way too soon, so therefore you end up with the wrong people

MAYBE you are not clear with your intentions, or not clear enough about asking men about theirs

all of these are "maybes" I am not saying you actually do all of this... and yes, maybe looks can play a little role on how much can someone be attractive to others but again... CHARACTER is what makes good or bad people in this sense of cheating or not

if we were to believe that the most attractive people are the ones who cheat... well that person in the profile picture you have, she would be cheating on EVERY relationship EVERY time... that is what I would assume, it would be her and not that guy in the same picture

[Staximus]

You don't have to date guys you are not attracted to, but you need to change the way you pick them. Are you picking guys who are looking for a serious long term relationship? If you keep picking guys who all the women want, you're always going to have a lot of competition. Especially if they are always out socializing and stuck in party mode, surrounded by women, etc. Most promiscuous men and women don't just stop fucking around when they get in a relationship. The old expression "you can't turn a whore into a housewife" goes for men, too. You can't turn a man-whore into a loyal husband.

There's no such thing as perfect but there is such thing as good enough. So look for good enough instead of perfect. Just figure out of they are a good person who cares about you before you get emotionally attached to them. Nevermind how good they look, how much money they have, how cool their job is, what kind of car they drive and clothes they wear, who they hang out with, etc. As long as they are good to you, not an irresponsible bum, and they are somebody you enjoy being around and can relax and be at peace with.

[lightbulb27]

I'd wonder what happened in the past to make you look like a run over that guys would want to abuse you.

There's plenty of corrupt males around, but some females will filter them out as their worth is high. So, I'd wonder if you were abandoned by your father.

It's the sub conscious mind and sense of desperation that enables these things.

If there is a recurring theme, then the issue is the self and it's time to work on the self if you find it doesn't work and seek a different result.

[RavVid]

If you are going for the upper 10% of men who have lots of options then you can probably expect to be upgraded from.

With d'Caprio that would be when you turn 25.

So yeah it might give better results

[Reemaa]

I changed my mind. For me being cheated on with a handsome man better than being cheated on by an unattractive man 😎

[RavVid]

OK. So a less attractive man who didn't cheat would't be attractive?

[Saiesh30]

It ain't a bad idea after all. Somebody who's unattractive would be appreciative of you more and more respectful as well in my opinion.

[Billlewis]

No, ma'am. I think you deserve to receive exactly what you want in your relationships with men.

[Reemaa]

😭i’m tired have been in two failed relationships. It’s not many but they are long term relationships

[Billlewis]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well if you want. Thank you very much.

[Reemaa]

Ok i’ll dm u

[Anonymous]

I don't think it really matters. You are drawn to cheaters. You need to fix that about you. You might have to accept though that you just don't find non cheaters attractive. In which case you're kind of screwed. Because at that point you're going to have to make a choice. Would you rather tolerate being with someone who cheats on you from time to time? Or would you rather be alone?

[Andres77]

Stop focusing on their appearance and focus on their character

[Reemaa]

I don’t just date for their appearance. Firstly of course the character but also the appearance will plays a role.

[Andres77]

Character will trump appearance

[Andres77]

Just my opinion.
Good luck. I hope you find what you need

[bededazzle]

it’s something i thought about myself. why should physical attraction matter? it odd difficult to change though

[bowenw]

I think you should simply keep an open mind and be willing to date a variety of guys until you find the perfect one.

[Reemaa]

😭. My culture won’t allow me to date one guy let alone a variety of guys. I always have to sneak when i date my man.

[bowenw]

That does make it difficult.

[Anonymous]

Is thst all as far as your criteria for men? What about height? Income? Status? Etc?