Do attractive people have more options and chances to meet others and for others to want to meet them vs others that aren’t attractive?

[Anonymous]

[llcanon]

The question is a very interesting one. It all depends how one define attractive. i am 65 and if i had a hundred dollar bill for every gorgeous gal i have seen with what some would call ugly nerdish looking men i would have lots of money. So i know this by life experience and so i quit trying to figure out women. This happens to me a lot. I will get a hug by a very attractive gal and get whispered in my ear (mostly married ones)( hey good looking and i usually do not put much stock in this as just flattery and I NEVER EVER act on it. i just could not do that to a buddy and as far as getting more chances i don't think it does because i have lived long enough to know the prettiest Roses have the most sharpest and deadly thorns attached to them and the bleeding is horrible from such beautiful Roses. This I am about to reveal is something i am trying to conjure up the courage in doing- a woman and not of the same race as I and a absolutely beautiful person not in looks but a beautiful person with a beautiful personality -well we are drawn to each other and have been for years would most likely be one of those once in a lifetime catches to come along in ones life. That happened to me almost 50 years ago and she was the one that got way and this gal i speak of is not, well lets just say she is not a 10 but not less than a 5 and i am still attracted to her but i have not yet to conjure up the courage to take the next step and i know she is waiting for me to do so as we recently ran into each other and the connection was instant again as it had so so many times before. i have her number but not yet the courage, You would think by now at 65 i would easily be able to conjure up the courage but i am working on it. I never thought i would at this age feel like a teenager and have this kind of anxiety in taking the next step, so that in a way for a man of 65 is exciting to feel that young again. So i always say being a real hot gal is not always an advantage.

[Asker]

Aw that’s so sweet! You should so reach out! It’s one life (: I’m happy you’re working on the anxiety and I hope you get there. I’m sure she will be more than pleased.

[Novacane]

Of course, they do, the world caters to very good-looking people, we even show that are dedicated based on their looks. Statistics show that people who are good-looking are more likely to get hired, have better jobs, and get paid more therefore, who much more opportunities than others. Overall yes good looking people have better opportunities to meet people because tend to look more appealing and approachable, and people like to be seen around good-looking people because they feel that if they are with them then that must mean they are like them as well. Also, note there is a huge difference between being an attractive woman and an attractive man.

[sage2021]

Through the years of my own observations that less attractive couples are happy, stay in love, not so much cheating if any, make happy families. There are downsides to being attractive. The opposite sex finds the attractive one to be intimidating, therefore might not get approached. There are more less attractive people than there are attractive one's which makes for slim pickings. An old saying: Even the prettiest girl doesn't get asked to the prom! Because they are too intimidating, so less attractive girls had a good time at the prom. Also, less attractive people are usually well educated and have good paying jobs which affords them to live comfortably. Just sayin'

[es20490446e]

This is SO true.

[JustAnj]

I honestly don't think so, why?

I have a brother who would be considered attractive and has had so many problems finding a partner and many interested does not mean people will approach or even be an option. So no I don't think so, all three of my brothers have the looks, they do not have more luck then the average person.

And when you think about it having more options is not a good thing. Having good options is preferred and better and sadly because they are afraid of being objectified themselves they lose sight of how to find a good partner.

[es20490446e]

You nailed it.

And the fear is so true indeed. Many girls, and even boys, approach me only because I'm attractive. Once they fuck me, they instantly disappear.

So no more free ride for ya'.

[MrOracle]

Attractive people cast a much wider net. That means they have more high-quality options, but it means they also "catch" far more lesser-quality options too, and those all have to be sorted through.

[Pinay_ako]

We all meet people everyday… but attraction is subjective. And so is beauty

[caring__1]

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. There are many ways to attract someone's attention, and it isn't limited to body parts. Show you care about more than just yourself, get involved with causes you believe in, and understand a smile is the sexiest thing a woman can wear.

Though physical appearance is a quick way to be noticed, as no one needs to take the time to know you, it won't hold a relationship together long-term. It's what's inside and your actions that lead to enduring relationships.

[AlexisP98]

I don't want to sound conceited when I answer this, but it's probably unavoidable. I am often told I am attractive, more often than some people I know. I am also invited to various events, more often than those people. At those events I meet new people, some of whom try to establish romantic connection. So I do have many opportunities. But the other side of that is most of those opportunities are not ones I would seek out, and I have to deal with them anyway, which sometimes is very unpleasant. So... yes but the grass isn't as green as it might seem.

[es20490446e]

So what would you like to find instead?

[BeMuse]

I see it this way. The more attractive, intelligent, talented, charismatic, etc. you are the more magnetic you are as a person. A lot of people flirt with you and are willing to date you. The consequence to that is that less people will be compatible with you. The more average you are, the more people there are that are like you so at the end of the day both people can settle in easier and be comfortable. So pick your battle, everyone has to face their own set of challenges when it comes to relationships.

[boombastik]

Ii would probably say yes just because that's how attraction works. We're attracted to things that shine, things that are close in symmetry and easy on the eyes. Beauty is little more than symmetry, the eyes not being too far apart or to close, not being too far down on the face as well as the other features being in alignment. Anyone that has seen this test knows I'm right. As far as voice goes though, to those who are old enough to remember landlines, people would often only had the voice to go by if they were introduced by someone over the phone and that can be very deceiving so it gives a more Equal playing field.

[Anonymous]

I think partially because they get to make more opportunities... I don't know if it's a self fulfilling prophecy either way... that could be some of it, but I think they just get better opportunities to socialize - I think they also tend to be better at how to socialize with certain people (though I think they can be equally bad in many other areas of socializing). I think on average, they also tend to more positive interactions overall. They're good looking, so people are more receptive. They may seem cooler or more dynamic, so people are more receptive. They may have an easier time getting work, especially work that puts them out there more. More opportunities to meet people.

[zagor]

Definitely. Because people will go out of their way to meet good-looking people. When I was in college I was out for pizza with a bunch of people from my dorm and another customer (girl) asked the waitress to tell one on the guys in our group that she thought he was hot. Unfortunately for her he was gay.

I've been out with VGL friends and co-workers, and girls will be pretty forward in expressing interest. I've had stuff like that happen to me maybe a half-dozen times in my life - for them I get the feeling that is an average week.

[PoliteSpeaker]

Yes. Whether or not they believe that is what will determine whether their results match that statement. So many girls and guys think they are ugly or are waiting for someone to approach instead of doing it themselves. Especially girls. They act like guys naturally are designed to approach. No they are scared and insecure too and even the ones who approach are they just hide it better or have less.

The ANSWER IS YES. Do not tell it is no because I know and you know they WHOLE world works on value. Good looks is a form of value to just about every person due to biology. Unless you are asexual u value good looks in others. You can try to out think you biology and act like looks don't matter what they do. Value matters. Value rules the world.

[rjroy3]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Yes. The question is simply among the pool of people you're in, what traits do they generally find most attractive? That varies somewhat.

But whatever type is most attractive to that group will get preferential treatment and options. Silly to think otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Yes tbh. I used to be less attractive and an “ugly duckling” when I was younger and then I grew into my looks I guess. I used to have fewer friends or people who knew me or wanted to date me, I was less known just because I didn’t stand out due to my looks. Now I am known for being quite attractive and more people know of me- I am more “popular” as well just because I am attractive. But one thing I’ve noticed is that my relationships as an “attractive” person are more superficial in general- the people wanting to get to know me are more superficial and most of my friends aren’t true friends, they just want to be associated with me. Whereas before I had more true friends or people wanting to date me for my personality.

[pinaypixie]

Logic-wise, it will always be easier for generally attractive people to have more chances and opportunities than less attractive people.

However, since attractiveness is also subjective it would mean that there is an opportunity for anyone to get noticed in different times depending on where you are.

Personality plays a big factor too

[Anonymous]

No question!
That's basically all dating is in a bar a cattle barn for humans that serves alcohol lol.
It took me a while to learn this but while women aren't approaching guys and asking them out. They are always watching the. Honestly more so than guys watch women. And if she likes what she she's and wants your attention she'll do something to get it. That's why I tell guys just relax and have fun. Honestly that's the most sure fire way to attract a woman.
People that KNOW they're attractive know they're going to get approached.

[tropicalbreeze]

I would say so. But I don't think it doesn't mean some people will choose more than looks or even be happy with whoever they settle for or even are happy to be with. Too many variables to list here you know. Like ugly people do find beautiful people. Beautiful people do find only other beautiful people. And so on and exceptions... phew.

[UK-NaturistGuy]

Yes, obviously if someone is attractive they will have more as by virtue of being more attractive you will have a greater number of people approaching after all isn’t that why people would pay attention to someone?

[BeenThereLovedIt]

They used to, but since the world of swipe left/right changed dating, it seems that everyone pretty much has an equal shot so long as they don't expect to date outside their league.

[Anonymous]

yes, but, personality confidence can go far. i once saw 2 men in a pool, one was fat, one looked like a model, the fat guy was funny very outgoing, and the model looking women flocked over to him, the model looking guy was quiet shy had no confidence, and literally stayed over in the pool by himself... be your best physically, but show your heart, personality, and you can win over people that you would have swore the model would have gotten.

[es20490446e]

Interesting.

[SmokinAces2000]

Attractiveness is extremely subjective so it’s fairly hard to answer this question, I’ve been called attractive and I’ve been called unattractive, in my case generally more people think I’m attractive (not trying to toot my own horn) but I don’t really get any special privileges because not everyone in the world thinks I’m good looking and that goes for everyone

[slatyb]

Yes, they do. So do wealthy people. Dating is a marketplace and some people have more currency than others.

[FilmGuy93]

Yeah... well, kind of. More options isn't the same as more high quality options.

[es20490446e]

Same problem here. I guess how would be the formula for meeting quality people, just those with good standards and good heart.