Would you find it cute or annoying if a girl you were seeing could only express herself in your language at a basic level but she tries really hard?

[Radiate143]

You don't speak her language at all but she speaks yours at a basic level. She's very intelligent but just can't express herself at the level she could in her native tongue.

How to Fall in Love When You Don’t Speak the Same Language

[Sonjita]

I dated a guy in Greece 8 years ago (my colleague at work, he was a chef and I was a waitress) and he could only speak very basic English and I learned some basic Greek but what I noticed first is he was really putting in effort to talk to me and to help me at work.

Later as I was learning more and more, when he asked me something I didn't like, I would still say sorry I don't understand to avoid the question. 😂

Every day he would take me to work, take me home from work, take me out when we had time off, my day off used to be Tuesday and his Wednesday and then I also changed to have Wednesday off so we could do things together. He made me lunch every day and it was always soooo good.

There are many ways to show love. Words actually don't mean anything.

[MissStrawberry912]

I’d think she’s cute for trying, it’s all about effort :)

[D_Bone_Steak]

I don't think I find it cute... but you'd be amazed at how much you can communicate without language. It brings things down to real basics. I guess someone that can't just do anything different would find it annoying... that's their problem.

I lived in Japan... learned to read, write, and speak... my girlfriends (about all 6 of them) did the same faster than me. We couldn't understand each other for shit at first... but we did know we wanted to have sex. That's what really mattered in the end. ... and it drove us to learn each other's languages.

[dynamicyandere]

I’d find it really sweet of her to put in the effort. It would go to show how committed she is to being with me. Definitely a pro and not a con.

[dynamicyandere]

My S/O’s first language wasn’t English. But, she has practiced with me so much over the years that she’s completely fluent now. 🙂

[dynamicyandere]

She didn’t start from square one. But, she went from having a more limited vocabulary and sounding like a foreigner to having a larger vocabulary and sounding just like a native English speaker. ✨

[MrOracle]

It wouldn't bother me too much. I would respect her for being better at my language than I was at hers.

[magiusX26]

a mix of sweet, cute, annoying, and frustrating. got to be honest, the annoying and frustrating parts would likely come up way more than wanted, but that can lead to deeper feelings on the sweet and cute side ince you get through/over the negative side. key being it is possible for deeper poatives but not a given that it will happen. also hope the other one of this kind of couple is putting in effort to learn, at least some basics, of the 1st one's language as well, because if not, the 1st one will likely wind up resenting the fact that the other one did not put as much effort into the relationship/language barrier/s as they themself put in. of course other enviromental factors can come into play on amount of effort too. such as 1st one moved to the 2nd one's country (native language) so 1st one will have to put in a bit more effort learning that language due to that culture/society needing him/her to speak more fluently in their language for day to day communications.

[RingOfFire]

A little bit of both. I have recently had exactly such a relationship and she was everything you described... very intelligent end eager. At first it is cute... but ultimately, I was unable to share the deep thoughts with her in either direction and found it frustrating (not really "annoying" but frustrating).

[Radiate143]

You know there is Google translate.

[RingOfFire]

Yes I do. But it sucks for conveying complex and deep thoughts because there is more to conveying ideas between different cultures than just words. Also many words don't have a direct translation from one language to another. There can be nuances of different meaning that can't be translated. Many words are shaped by cultural meaning that is impossible to convey to someone of a different culture. In the end it can lead to a feeling of separation that cannot be bridged.

[NathanDavis]

I don't think this would be an issue...

it would be a matter of time too... as I would be teaching her too, and she would be learning it all in no time, that's what practice is for...

[Radiate143]

So would it be cute. To see her trying to find her words, getting a bit embarassed.

[love_conquers_lust]

I’d find it endearing.

Practice. There’s more to communication than spoken word. Actions speak louder than words. A picture is worth a thousand of them. Seeing it is believing it.

[Radiate143]

Yes, they estimate that only 7% of communication is verbal.

[love_conquers_lust]

Love language seems a sound heuristic given that piece of information.

[BourbonAndBacon]

My partner's first language isn't English and she gets stuck every now and then. I'm trying to learn her language so that it isn't an issue. It's definitely cute to me

[HouseMoat]

Just depends o if he wants to date a foreigner or not. My cousin's dating an Englishwoman (originally from England), but, that just means her English will be a tad diff. (some words are diff. than American English)

[Staximus]

I don't care about that, as long as I know she likes me

[Radiate143]

That's cute.

[RavVid]

Probably cute and not annoying. Guys and gals seem to find it entirely possible to fall in love without verbal communication

[Stevepro68]

My girlfriend is Filipino she has been here for 20 of her 37 years. she speaks English Spanish Korean Tagalog. English probably second to worst. Me teaching her English and her teaching me Tagalog has brought us so close together.

[Miristheiss]

I think it would be cute.

What is her mother tongue?

[Anonymous]

It would turn me on, hot, sexy. That’s why I like Hispanic women who are exactly what you described.

[crystalline0909]

Why is that annoying. If you understand what she is trying to say then what's the problem

[Pohjolan]

I already speak 5 languages. What's learning one more?

[imfreeze95]

If you don’t mind my asking, what languages do you speak?

[Pohjolan]

@imfreeze95
English, Swedish, Finnish, Japanese and German.

[Fireguy17]

I think so.

She will get better and I would try to learn her language.

You know the important stuff, fetch me a beer please, time for sex, important stuff.

[HortAgent56]

Cute, but that feeling wouldn't last forever.

Try to get her to learn the language spoken where you live because that will also open up her world. Love relationships have enough potential pitfalls without adding a language issue to the list!

[Lynxistp]

I don't think a serious relationship could form under those language barriers - only lust. One or both would have to learn to communicate in the others language (or learn a shared third language for more neutral ground).

[Radiate143]

Actually studies have shown couples who overcome language barriers together have stronger bonds. So it's actually a better chance for a meaningful relationship.

[AndrewAzul]

If I were to find it annoying, I wouldn't see her in the first place

[syncheart]

I have a hard time communicating with women. This would make it even harder.

[purplepoppy]

Why would anyone date someone they can't communicate with? That's never going to work out.

[Radiate143]

Actually studies have shown couples who overcome language barriers together have stronger bonds. So it's actually a better chance for a meaningful relationship

[Radiate143]

Also, only 7% of communication is verbal.

[siseñor]

@Radiate143 imagine you dedicate yourself to learning your partner's language for years and then you break up

[Radiate143]

@siseñor then I have acquired a new language. I don't see how I lose here.

[Tim2nice]

I wonder if those studies are beefed up by divorced middle aged men who marry younger Asian women who want nothing more than a way out of poverty

[Radiate143]

@Tim2nice seek help.