How to stop blocking love from entering my life?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always believed that love is lovely and i still do, but part of me thinks that it’s not meant for me. I was that girl who dreamed of finding a great guy, marrying him and having a family. Then my dad made a “mistake” and was unfaithful once (so he said) and I instantly dropped that dream. I feel as though “what goes around comes around”, and eventually I’ll be cheated on as well. Most guys that enter my life are manipulative narcissists. I’m SO turned off by the idea of me being in a romantic relationship. And If a good guy comes my way, i am not even interested.

I can’t blame my dad for this i understand. I have my own life to live. But to see someone who was like the perfect idol do something like this just tarnished my dream. It’s been over 5 years and i have been numb, and almost heartless ever since. I was NEVER like this.

[Oliverlogan263]

Heyyy girl, I totally get where you're coming from. After what happened with your dad, it's normal to feel scared to let love in again. But you can't lose hope or you'll miss out!

First, try not to blame yourself or think it'll happen to you too. Every relationship is different. Your worth isn't defined by some guy's mistake.

When a nice guy shows interest now, instead of shutting down right away, give him a real chance. Force yourself to go on a few dates with an open mind. Who knows, he could surprise you!

Also work on loving yourself. Do things that make YOU happy and feel good about you. The more confident and secure you are alone, the less you'll worry about getting hurt.

It's okay to take it slow with new people too. Guard your heart at first until you really get to know them. There's no rush - just see where it goes.

Don't lose hope sis! Your dream isn't over, just on hold for now. With time and putting yourself out there, I know you'll meet someone deserving of your love. Just please don't shut that part of you off forever. You got this!

[OlderAndWiser]

My father was a bastard to my mother, and I became determined to learn from my father and NEVER do what he did to her. So, in 52 years of dating, I have never been unfaithful. Not once. Never. You can turn this into a more positive experience by learning from his mistakes.

Do you feel like you are hating yourself?

[JacobJordan]

You seem to be attracting not great guys which suggests you have some inner things that are not great. Work on those and you might find different guys approaching. Could also be how you dress, talk, act, the amount of make up you where, etc all of those will influence certain guys to approach and repel others

[warsevf]

Well I don't know if it's applicable but my mom said just because you got rejected in a university, do you stop trying. I got selected in another.

Sorry not much dating experience, I am in same boat as you I want love and I know it can hurt me as I am naive and guillable. But I won't stop trying for it and that's my final decision

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well I hope you manage to feel something again at some point

[ThrillSeeker01]

I wouldn't be too pessimistic or negative. Eventually there are good relationships