Am I a slut for any of this?

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I met a guy and we had sex on the first date. Before we actually went on a date we talked and got to know each for a couple of days. We continued on sleeping with each other but aren't in a relationship. I notices whenever he finds out I'm talking to other guys or I lose some kind of sexual interest in him he calls me a skeezer, slut, liar or whore. I'm pretty sure he talks go other girls too. Most times all four. We aren't in a committed relationship and he is the one to remind me that we aren't in one. He also told me he never wanted a relationship with me. I'm just not understanding where I'm a slut at.

peedy · Accepted Answer

Well i been with girls even within going on a dste were they sluts or did they enjoy sex as much as me. It doesn't matter what other people think only what you think of yourself
Now lets discuss him your not in a relationship so there no reason to be jealous yet he is so have you asked him if he wants more? And calling you those names could be a wsy for him to say he like you kinda like pulling a girls hair in grade school, if he's trying to impress another girl thats not the way to do it and he'll quickly figure that out, which leave treating you like one of the guys or he's just an asshole because i dont care who or what the girl is a real man should never call a girl those things

PS) there is one other possibility he never said those things at all but you heard them because that is how you feel about yourself so you heard what you wanted to hear so you can put the blame onto someone
In other words your bat shit crazy

integrale77 · Accepted Answer

If it's useful to you this is the dictionary. com history of the word: -

In the early 1400s, when slut first appeared in English, it meant roughly what one sense of slattern means today: a slovenly, untidy woman or girl. It also apparently meant “kitchen maid” (”She is a cheerful slut who keeps the pots scrubbed and the fires hot.”). By the end of the 15th century, the sense “a woman given to immoral or improper conduct” had come into use, but this meaning is not current today. Interestingly, slattern also developed the meaning "prostitute, harlot." Some feminists have reclaimed the word slut and use it to mean a sexually liberated woman.

I'll let you decide if you consider yourself a slut.

But remember if a man can be a stud for being Sexually liberated then why can't a woman be. I can understand the obsession with "body count" in today's culture nothing is going to wear out from use like a set of tyres on a car!

YesterdaysChild · Accepted Answer

It was thought in my day that a girl that had sex on the first date was a "Slut". Not a good word I know. But we will downgrade that to a friend with benefits, as you never had a relationship, at least according to your "friend". Why are you with this guy anyways, especially if he treats you like you say? Is sex that good with him? 🤔🙄

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Slut used to be a term used towards girls who were easy to get into bed and who slept around. I also remember when you were considered a slut for having one night stands.

normalice · Answer

Labels don't really matter here. That's just window dressing for the obvious. And the obvious thing is he is not into you. You are his fallback for when he can't get other women and he wants you to be satisfied with your place. He basically regards you as a servant and is frustrated you won't act like one,

aceleon · Answer

girl you were a slut since the sentence ''i met a guy and we had sex on the first date part'' the rest was just accesory, if you are having sex but not in a commited relationship you are a slut, can you tell me the dictionary meaning of SLUT?

Saiesh30 · Answer

You're not. He's a sick dude. The easiest men can do to show frustration towards a woman is call her a slut. I wish men or rather people in general realised how significant our words are. We are know by what we speak not by what we think we are.

AMS700CX4u2 · Answer

Skeezer, Slut, Whore and Bitch are not in my vocabulary. Males and Females are subject to their libido. Different cultures respond to the aggression differently. So who am I to Judge. He seems to be placing all the moral responsibility on you.

Mag-Man · Answer

The only thing that makes you a slut is sticking around for one second after being called a skeezer, slut liar or whore.

Because at the end of the day he too went on to sleep with a girl he just met and knew nothing about.

And as someone who's done that in the past I can attest that it can be a mutually positive experience if done correctly but at the same time we should be honest with ourselves, it is "a slutty behavior" there's no altruism behind it.

DextroShade · Answer

Sorry but while guys can sport fuck women cannot. You are most definitely engaging in slut behaviors. You should only be speaking to ONE guy at a time and only having sex with him if he's would take you seriously for a relationship.

bededazzle · Answer

i personally don’t think there’s any such thing as a slut. adults can make sexual choices. also he sounds like a prick.

genericname85 · Answer

are you "pretty sure he talks to other girls too"? or do you know that for a fact. he seems to know for a fact that you're talking to other guys while fucking him. am i wrong?

spartan55 · Answer

Okay why are you tolerating being openly disrespected? You are asking the wrong question here.

mattissebfan5 · Answer

You are not slut not sure why he would say it maybe he secretly does want to have a relationship or he's a controlling guy so I would be cautious

Anonymous · Answer

He's the slut, that's the problem. Guys who did this are the ones who hoe around. You talk to many men as you want girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Looks like you've a truly sluty behavior. Do you want to humiliate himnin front of other people?

LazerBean · Answer

Yes, but same for him

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

No way, you're fine. He's a jerk.

Anonymous · Answer

True

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