Why will he be so perfect if he is not in love with me?

[Reemaa]

Why would a man pay for women. Be super protective of her. Cook for her. Kiss her passionately for hours, want to spend time with her, find her attractive but he is not in love with her?
What will he do more if he was really in love?
Is this a common among men?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Is it early in the relationship? Maybe he has not actively decided that he does not love her, he has just not yet made it to the point where he will say that he loves her.

If I love a woman, I do all these things (well except maybe "pay for woman" because that could mean many different things here). If I am dating a woman I will do all these things as well, but perhaps as I get to know her better something comes up and I see that it will not work out between us, or perhaps it is early in the relationship. I am still going to do all these things but it is too early to say I am in love with her because feelings are still developing.

[Reemaa]

Thank you for the clarification

[Reemaa]

It’s been 3 months

[BoopBoopBeep]

Afwan, okhti.

[BoopBoopBeep]

3 months could be many things though. If you see each other for two hours every other week this is different than spending 3 hours a day after work every evening with each other. How much do you think you've had together in those three months?

[Reemaa]

💔😢. Can we chat on private?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Sure thing.

[lightbulb27]

what mean "he in love"? is it that he isn't committing.

that unfortunately, does happen...

[Reemaa]

No he just says he cares but he doesn’t love

[lightbulb27]

have to ask him what his intentions are, what he wants in life. has he loved anyone... and what it means.
yes... guys can hold back. guess... fear of intimacy and vulnerability.

[Reemaa]

He said he doesn’t know what he wants and he doesn’t understand himself. Maybe he is in denial?

[lightbulb27]

I believe him:) That sounds like fear
People can be confused... they "want"... biology/homrones/love drives us. But what is the ruler inside of the human heart? The answer to that is... the deep emotional events from early life.
Maybe he's not sure about you or himself.
Time to go see a therapist, him to talk to other men, watch videos, read books. he has to figure himself out.

[AmeerX]

I think that's pretty it. What more do you want. Well, only thing remaining is to tie the knot

[roy_ricky09]

friends with benefits... 🤣

[NathanDavis]

does he have a wife too?

[jimmy2]

Wow sounds throw off