I’ve been talking with this guy on and off for about 2 days now. But he’s talking to other girls, is he a cheater?

Question

There’s a bunch of other guys in my DMs, but it’s different because I’m a girl. He hasn’t asked me out on a date or gotten me food or anything yet. I feel really bad because it feels like he’s cheating. I’m extremely attractive and have large boobs, which is why I don’t get why he’s being so nonchalant.

please help!

Pantybroker · Accepted Answer

Hey there! Thanks for reaching out with your concern. I totally understand how confusing and frustrating it can be to navigate the early stages of a potential relationship. So, let's address your question about whether this guy talking to other girls automatically makes him a cheater. Taking a negative standpoint, it's important to consider all perspectives with an open mind.

While it may be disheartening to know that he's talking to other girls, it doesn't necessarily mean he's a cheater. In the initial stages of getting to know someone, it's quite common for people to explore their options and keep their interactions open. It's like casting a wider net to find someone with whom they connect on a deeper level. It might seem difficult, but try not to jump to conclusions just yet.

However, it's important to evaluate your own feelings and communicate them with him openly. Express your concerns and see how he responds. It's possible that he may not be aware of the impact his actions are having on you. Remember, honest communication key in any relationship. From there, you can gauge his level of commitment and decide if you want to invest more time and energy into this connection.

Ultimately, every situation is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Trust your instincts and prioritize your own well-being. Keep an open mind, be patient, and allow the relationship to develop naturally. Good luck!

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

The truth is , he is weighing his options like you are in a sense , , when a guy is single , he is single , meaning he is open to talking to anyone , especially girls’. And he will continue doing that until he feels a girl really wants him and just wants him , and no one else. Now if you do end up in a relationship with him , and he is still talking to other girls’ , then yes you have every right calling him a cheater, because he is in a relationship with you , and investing his time into other girls’ So if you really like this guy , let him know you are interested in him and see if he takes you on a date , if he does and he is still talking to these other girls on a regular basis after you showed interest in him , then you are best to kick him tot he curb , because he clearly doesn’t know what he wants and sadly it isn’t you that he wants if he is still doing that to you. Just because you assume he is a cheater , he might assume you are as well , we aren’t mind readers.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No, it’s not different just because you’re a girl and I’d love to hear why you feel that way. He’s exploring his options just like you are and it’s only been 48 hours. Great shit if you’ve had other men do this for you, not every man on this planet is the same.

YesterdaysChild · Accepted Answer

Frankly, with the way you tell your problem, it sounds like you are a troll, and maybe even a guy. For one thing, how could he be cheating just by not asking you out on a date? And then you had to throw the big boobs into the mix. 🙄🙄

AviatorTom · Answer

To cheat, you need to be in a committed relationship. Talking for 2 days is not a committed relationship... yet. Hence, he's not a cheater for talking to others.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

It’s just been two days…

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I say this from a place of honesty and not to be mean, but I think you maybe could benefit from some honest self assessment. That means not just deciding what makes you attractive but also what you can do better at. Maybe you are attractive but that sure doesn’t lessen the value of this man who - shockingly enough - may be looking for more substance than just an appearance. Secondly, young men are constantly maligned for being too forward and aggressive with women so maybe he’s just being cautious and learning to find his own way. Lastly, cheating requires commitment and he owes you none, nor do you to him.

Lionman95 · Answer

No he´s not cheating. As long you´re not exclusive he can select his choices. Just because he talks to you you´re not in a relationship with him or you´re not dating.
So it might feel like cheating to you but from a guy´s point it´s not. What have to understand is that a guy talking to a woman doesn´t mean he´s in love with her, yes he probably is interested in her but that doesn´t mean he loves her she just caught his attention. So your guy probably has a vague level of interest but as long as he hasn´t made a move to ask you out don´t assume that you´re dating because you´re not.

HawkPerception · Answer

You've been talking for 2 days and you expect him to be exclusive to you and take you out for food while you get dms from tons of guys just because you're a girl? Please repeat to yourself what you wrote here until it sinks in how dumb and entitled you sound.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

I couldn't trust any man, or person for that matter, to dedicate themselves to me after 2 days. My boyfriend and I talked and went out for a couple of weeks before we became a couple.

Side note:
Don't rely solely on your looks. That's a piss poor reason to expect anyone to see you.

Horse-girl · Answer

It's only been 2 days, it doesn't sound like he's asked you to be his girlfriend and be exclusive. Also you can't expect something from someone that you're not willing to give yourself just because you think you're attractive. Maybe if you stop talking to other guys then you could ask him to also stop talking to other girls but I personally don't think he's cheating as you aren't even in a relationship. Good luck with keeping a guy when you have that kind of outlook on life. 😊

Smashingdoozy · Answer

This is a troll post by a man pretending to be a woman if I ever saw one... Or just an incredibly insecure woman.

bolverk · Answer

Why on earth would you assume that he's a "Cheater" when he is talking to other girls? He has not shown any commitment to you, and somehow I get the feeling that you are talking to other men, and I doubt that he would consider you a "Cheater" if you were. I think someone needs to grow up, and it isn't him.

Simslover92 · Answer

Not if you've only been talking for 2 days. Cheating is when you're in a committed relationship and one steps out and cheats on their partner. You guys sound like you're just weighing out your options which is normal in early dating.

SphynxUK · Answer

2 days? He can continue talking to who he likes. It’s not your budiyand it’s not cheating. You aren’t even in. relationship. Take a chill pill. This isn’t how to act if you want to date him.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

It's not different. You're not in a relationship. You're talking to other people and so is he. What do you expect if you only talked "on and off for about 2 days." I see my tailor that much.

Altheavas · Answer

This is F* ng 😅🤣🤣🤣, my ego Is probably inflated, or I’m outdated in the dating world! Is what I’m reading how guys think of women in dating world, or is that women/women-ish behave!

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

As the guy perspective here it is exactly the same. Neither of you are dating so it's not cheating unless you both commit to it or state your intentions. Otherwise you're going to scare him right away by overreacting so early

Anonymous · Answer

You sound immature and childish just because a guy started a friendly conversation with you that does not mean he is in a relationship with you. No he has never cheated on you grow up.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

He's doing the same as you bit cause he's a guy and your a girl he's cheating? Nonsense. Besides, you're not in a relationship, haven't discussed exclusivity so it's not cheating

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn’t sound like you’re in a relationship. Has he officially asked you to be his girlfriend or have either of you defined the relationship? If not, then he is free to talk to other girls. Just give him some time.

etsylo · Answer

i really hope you're trolling because 😭 i think you're smart enough to know why

Hanrej · Answer

You guys are just talking and this makes you feel you own him? Reality check is needed unless this is a troll post.

Anonymous · Answer

Extremely attractive with large boobs is a killer combo. But why do you feel like he's cheating if he's talking to other girls, but your big-boobed self can have lots of guys in your DMs and that's cool?

DextroShade · Answer

You have a bunch of dudes in your DMs and you are accusing some guy you haven't even gone von a date with yet of cheating on you? WTF are you serious?

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Booklover_90 · Answer

Leave him alone. If he’s not your boyfriend, just let him be.

Anonymous · Answer

I think you're controlling and should chill tf out

DreamLife7 · Answer

He doesn't owe you shit and he doesn't like u. He's not with you he's looking for someone he wants and that someone isn't u. Stop being a psycho

Anonymous · Answer

how can he be cheating? we all talk to a lot of people

Anonymous · Answer

Chill it’s only been two days your not in a relationship. See if you both are even right for each other

Anonymous · Answer

I'm extremely attractive too that's all I got to say.

sheikalana · Answer

No, he's a free single man.

spartan55 · Answer

So many lessons for you to learn... smh...🙄

In_Trance · Answer

Smh no

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