What is your personal stance on dating a friends former crush?

[cookieman12]

We all have enough common sense to know not to date your friends ex. It’ll literally just ruin your friendship and goes against guy/girl code. However, what if they just used to be their crush? Obviously it might not be as major but at the same time it’s not like they were nobody to them either. Do you think it depends on how big of a crush they were? How would you personally feel yourself if your friend decided they wanted to date a former crush of yours?

[Guccigabbana18]

It's okay provided:

a) You asked your friend in question for permission or if they are okay with it.

b) In response to this question, your friend gave you the go-ahead to do it.

Otherwise, you would probably be viewed as sneaky, untrustworthy and not a true friend. Even though it's just a former crush and not an ex, friends respect each other's feelings and try their best not to hurt one another. If you did it without telling your friend, why would they trust you again?

If your friend says no they're not okay with you dating their former crush, it gets trickier and perhaps you need to either lose the friend and date the crush (if you don't value the friendship more than the crush) or just forget about the crush. Romances come and go, friends usually last and are there for you through many stages of life. But remember, if you choose to date the crush despite your friend not being okay with it, don't expect to keep both relationships and expect for people to side-eye you.

[linka_pat307]

I stop crushing for a purpose and most times crushes end when one finds out their crush ain't good for them and that makes it like this "another man's meat is another man's poison so what I don't like I can't expect my friend to not like. I will freely allow my friends date my ex or even my former crudh

[Altheavas]

Can you please tell me how do you stop crushing? I’m wondering if there is a correct method…!

[linka_pat307]

@Altheavas just find something that you hate about that person... it works best that way, it worked for me. something like manners or even the company they kept around

[Altheavas]

Thanks

[linka_pat307]

@Altheavas my pleasure

[NathanDavis]

there's way too many circumstances to be considered for this kind of stuff... way too many, lol

but, an example would be college days... I had "friends" in college, not the closest friends to me but friendly enough... and they all, the entire University must have had some sort of crush on the one that became my girlfriend "everyone did" so, there's no such thing as a "code"

with actual close friends... it would be different, and depending on how much of an actual interest they had, then they would care or not care... but we never had that happening before, but I do think I wouldn't get involved in something like that

[BourbonAndBacon]

If it's a former crush then you got the green light. They weren't really anything. However, if she shot him down then that's a spicy situation. If he didn't ask her out then "you snooze you lose" and he has no reason to be mad at anyone but himself.

[Altheavas]

It’s a former crush, it’s not like it’s an ex, right..! Both people have moved on and have a life. Again “FORMER crush” So they date whoever they like, I wouldn’t even care if they date my sister.

[mandyfire98]

Happened more in highschool because hormones were raging more and crushes were a common thing. I've been with people who a friend or two had a crush on at some point.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Automatically I wouldn'.

But at the very least. You should clear things out with your friend first.

[spartan55]

It would depend on how tight I was with the dude. If we were pretty close I'd probably at least run it by him.

[strateguy632]

i say fair game go for it. despite on tv friend will complain

[fantasticass]

Nope... bad move... Men are just a fuck, but your sister's always have your back!!✌️

[JacobJordan]

Nah you don't mess with your friends girls whether a crush or an ex it isn't good either way

[Anonymous]

i think that's completely wrong. i've had it happen to me. still hate her guts lol.

[OfDeath]

Fair game