Last night by boyfriend didn’t want to cuddle and turned me down for sex for the first time since our relationship started. Has he lost feelings for me?

[Anonymous]

Has he lost feelings for me? When I asked he said he was just tired, but whenever he has been tired before he has at least wanted to cuddle me. He said his feelings are still the same for me but it has made me anxious and I’m not sure if I’m just overthinking it or if this is a bad sign. Maybe if it is just the one occasion it will be okay? I guess I just have to wait and see how things go from here but I’m worried

[sawno]

If he's genuinely exhausted it can happen, experienced that myself. Trust you boyfriend, take his word for it and see if it goes away once he's rested. Be supportive and see what happens. If it doesn't go back to normal despite his situation being back to normal you know enough.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

How long have you both been in a relationship? It seems like a while and the honeymoon phase in any relationship fades once you start a routine. He does sound like he was tired.

Everyone has those times, I’m sure you do as well but you’re not noticing because you’re used to yourself and when you want things. We get caught up and forget everyone same as us has their own rhythms and clocks. Calm down, evaluate where this anxiety is coming from and it’ll work itself out.

[SphynxUK]

He’s tired.
Or simply doesn’t want to cuddle but doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by saying it.
Believe it or not, not everyone wants to be close or intimate all the time, and if a partner says no, that’s their choice and you should respect that.
Don’t make it a big deal, and stop worrying yourself.

[RavVid]

Was there an argument prior to this? Guys are reluctant to express affection if they are angry with the girl. Like, you said something mean that deeply offended him to the degree he didn't even respond to it.

He could have been just tired though and needed to sleep.

Give it some time.

[Finchie40]

Ot means he only cares about himself , good luck with that relationship

[SotiCoto]

Might be. Might not be. But all things wither and die eventually, even with the very best of maintenance. Worrying about it just puts additional toll on your physical and mental health. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst, and keep moving forwards.

[Guido]

It's not that uncommon if you have been together for a while. O ce really comfortable with each other, it's not necessary to do everything to always please your partner. It's OK yo be tired and just want to sleep. It does not mean he doesn't love you or anything is wrong.

[236color]

Maybe, but I doubt it. Contrary to popular belief, men don't ALWAYS want sex. He might have been tired, not feeling well, angry, stressed, or just plain not horny.

[CrazyBadger]

He’s probably tired and stressed.


Might sound lazy as a man but, Try offering a BJ or HJ instead.


That way:
1) You’ll get his mind off whatever problem he may have.
2) He’ll get an endorphin rush without the physical activity.
2) He might change his mind about sex ;)

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I can tell you that sometimes even the guys are tired. Maybe change your routine up a little bit and romanticize your evening together with a nice meal or a massage of some sorts.

[RebelinSteel]

First day back at work after holidays? I know last night I was totally shattered when I got home.

[admles]

As much as women refuse to believe it, sometimes guys are tired, aren't in the mood.

He might have something on his mind, stresses to deal with, it could be so many things.

Don't overthink it.

[Lovesick40]

Don’t over think it He may just be tired or stressed

[Daniela1982]

Sounds like the honeymoon is over sweetheart.

[spartan55]

Doesn't want sex one time and she pushes the panic button... good lord.

[DarkWinterNights]

I wouldn’t be worried about one time. I’d only start to get concerned if a longer term trend develops.

[Anonymous]

You're overthinking. I know women expect men to be up for sex any time, anywhere, but that's not always true. Even the horniest guys are too tired sometimes. Give it time.

[sheikalana]

Maybe he was just tired. Men can feel tired and nit in the mood too once in a while.

[Anonymous]

The smart thing would be to wait a bit and see if this continues. It was one fucking time. Men are allowed to not be in the mood sometimes. Jesus christ.

[zagor]

Based on one night? Maybe he was tired or coming down with something.

[Pterodon]

You’re overthinking. He might just need some alone time

[Anonymous]

you are probably a shitty person I never heard a man refusing sex

[jaskin777]

It either lost feelings depression or stress

[tanya_s21]

Nope he might actually be tired