(not from the US) is therapy going to help or is it a waste of time?

[Anonymous]

I'm a college student, I'm straight, I was SA and harassed by 2 girls when I was 18,(none of them apologize) it's something that I am scared to share with my family and close people, I find it hard to make friends (girl friends) in my university or go on dates because of this, i tried distracting myself and keeping myself busy to not feel bad or depressed but it doesn't work all the time, what do you think I should do to let it go and stop letting this bad experience ruin my relationships?

[Oliverlogan263]

I'm real sorry to hear what you went through. That's some really traumatic shit that'd mess with anyone's head. Don't beat yourself up about still struggling sometimes - recovering from something like that takes time.

As for therapy, I think it could definitely help you work through this. Having someone experienced to talk to who won't judge you, and can give practical advice on coping, could make a big difference. Sometimes we just need help from others to process stuff we can't deal with alone.

It might take trying a few therapists to find one you click with, so don't get discouraged if the first appointment isn't amazing. And be open and honest about what happened - they aren't there to judge at all.

In terms of meeting girls, therapy could boost your confidence again too. And there's no shame in taking things slow - focus on surrounding yourself with mates you feel safe with first before rushing into anything serious.

At the end of the day, things will get better luv but you gotta be gentle with yourself through the process. Therapy's a good tool for that. You got this mate - don't let those chicks win by holding you back from living your life. Stay strong!

[molonski2]

Now firstly let me declare , I used to think all therapy and phycology was a waste of time , then with age grew at least some wisdom , and where I do think some people overdo it , I very much encourage you to try.

Personally I prefer a phycologist that you find you really gell with.

Good luck.

[Avicenna]

You should give therapy a try- this isn't something you can just gut through on your own

[boobliker]

talking things out or over will help nut you have to want to do it!

[Anonymous]

It can't hurt. Give it a try.