Do I really love him?

[Anonymous]

so i started recently dating this guy, he's a really good person and treats me right the only problem is that we have few different ideals (he's a traditional conservative guy and i'm more of an open minded westernized girl), when i am with him i am the happiest and i forget everything, i want to make him the happiest man alive and i feel sad when he's sad but when he's away i start doubting my feelings for him because i start thinking that we don't match, and that i wish he was more handsome and more eloquent and i hate myself for thinking this way. So do i really love him or not?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo sis, this is defs a confusing situation to be in. A few thoughts:

- From how you described it, it really seems like you care about this dude a ton when you're together. That connection is important.

- But relationships are a two-way street - you gotta feel passionate about him even when you're apart too for it to last.

- It's totally normal to have little doubts sometimes, we're all human. But if they're consuming your thoughts a lot, that's a red flag.

- Question is, are your personalities super compatible beyond the physical? Do you see yourself truly happy long-term with his traditional values?

My advice would be don't feel bad about having thoughts - we can't control that. But DO examine if they're coming from a place of real incompatibility.

It may be this guy is great boyfriend material, just not life partner material with your differing ideals. And that's okay too - not everyone is meant to be forever.

Maybe take some space to sort your head without the attachment. See if the doubts fade or strengthen. You'll have your answer then, and that's what matters most. You got this sis!

[Tharithi]

U don’t , u see him as a great friend. Attraction really matters

[slatyb]

If you have to ask, the answer is no.

[slatyb]

Treating you well is a basic requirement, it's not enough to make a match.

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