So me and this girl have been talking everyday for like a couple weeks now things were going great tbh we got to know eachother pretty well and were excited to meet eachother, we were even talking about all the future things we wanted to do together this summer.
So we go on our first date things were kinda awkward but not anymore then a normal first date after a bit the conversations were flowing really well and after dinner we went for a drive just talking about life and getting to know eachother more and even making other plans for future adventures. At the end of the date we hugged and went our separate ways
After I got home I texted her and things seemed good she said she had a lot of fun but it was late so she went to bed. The next morning I sent her a good morning text like we usually had been doing for about a week at that point, and she replied saying that even tho she had a ton of fun and was thankful for the dinner and sweets I gave her she said she couldn't see herself being with me in the long run which was a complete 180 from what she had been saying until that moment.
I asked for a 2nd date cause first dates are always the worst ones and if she felt the same way after that, then that's that I'd move on. I just didn't want to give up so easily when I felt a genuine connection with her, and I didn't want to have regrets down the road and she replied to that with "let me think on it" I told her thats all i can ask and to take all the time she needs and that I'd accept any decision she made. It's been a few days and I haven't heard from her other then a brief convo about her car being messed up and how we were both doing. Should I bring it back up or was she just saying let me think on it to spare my feelings?
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Although there could be any number of reasons. This is what happens when a man doesn't build attraction, tension or anticipation. If the conversation was friendly, safe and like two room mates then this is often the reason. It's unlikely she will want a second date and by asking for one attraction levels would have dropped. Saying goodbye would have been more favorable. What sort of things did you talk about on the date? it is possible to build attraction through text too.
I wouldn't say it was like two roommates personally, there was some playful banter for sure and we definitely built some attraction over text, we both knew what we looked like from video chats as well so it wasn't like she wasn't physically attracted either. But most of the stuff we talked about was our pasts and what we were looking for in a relationship as well as future plans like going to a lantern festival, her wanting me to take her to all of my secret local spots for like the best sunsets over a lake, and making eachother our favorite dinners that we like to cook and stuff like that.
means she is still unsure
So would it be best to stop talking to her for a bit and bring it up again in like a week or so? Or keep trying to talk to her just not about going on the date or relationship stuff obviously?
If it’s not a yes, it’s a no.