I need advice? Is it possible I’ll find a boyfriend? How can I find a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I am an 18-year-old black girl who is light-skinned, often quiet and nervous, and sometimes shy. I have never had a boyfriend before, and I wonder if it is possible for me to find one. I have encountered some guys who have called me cute or pretty. There was a Mexican guy who expressed interest in me, but I later found out that the rumors about him being abusive and dangerous were true. Additionally, I have met some non-black guys of Mexican, white, and Arab backgrounds who have found me attractive. I find myself more attracted to non-black guys because, in my experience, they have been less disrespectful and more modest compared to black guys. However, I seem to primarily attract black guys, and I am wondering if there is a way to change that.

[RoseySarah]

You will find one and my advice from my black friends is don't go for the black guys go for the types you like!

Don't let others judge you into changing for Thier likes and preferences! "Let them be the bastards baby mommy's" as my sister in law says.

Go for your amazing man and yes you will have to wait and turn down guys that seem amazing! Wait for the man who is amazing in all ways don't over look red flags!

Don't ever let them push you into things or make you less modest!

Your going to find the 2nd best man ever! Cause I already married the 1st!

[RavVid]

It is highly feasible. Extroverts have an advantage because they talk and laugh.

So just get used to talking to guys. It is not so hard. The easiest thing to do is ask them questions about themselves. Most guys don't get compliments from girls so say something about what you genuinely like.

A lot of people wear t shirts with some slogan on it. Ask about the slogan. That sort of stuff.

I found it hard to talk engagingly with women so I practiced on bar girls and waitresses as they have to talk to you to take your order. In your case barmen or baristas. You work out what works and what doesn't with practice.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't think you can purposely change it but try this out, since you are a light skin chick it might help to get this hair style or something similar, I believe something about it gives off a look that can attract people from different kind of races.

It's just my personal hypothesis but since you have this problem, seems like a perfect opportunity to test out my theory.

[ChicoFromThe305]

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[Asker]

Is there anything else I can do?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Make the first move lol

[Asker]

Okay

[Asker]

What else can I do to my appearance?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Lmao, I don't know, can't really say, I don't know how you look but I think that hair thing could work, you can also maybe dress more girly if you aren't already, if you are then I'm out of ideas 🙃

[Asker]

Thanks❤️

[laly520]

its just ur luck as it seems
also not all black people or people of colour r bad or abusive
people aren't all the same n its wrong to generalise

[Asker]

I’m not saying all black guys are bad, but I had bad experiences with many of them. They constantly call women bitches and they put down black women.

[Asker]

I used to get harassed by a black guy and my former bestie who was a black guy threatened to rape me.

[laly520]

stay safe while looking for the one
u r still young n lack experience so I recommend not to trust in any guy
u will need at least 1 year of observation to get to know his personality well but not well enough
reject whom u don't feel safe around n aim for a better caring guy
it shall be fine

[Asker]

Thanks

[Billlewis]

The first thing you should do is act like you've had plenty of boyfriends before. Then advertise in your local personals for the kind of guy you're looking for.

[zagor]

Don't go for a particular race, go for the type you like. And do so by frequenting the places you meet that kind of person. If you want a redneck country music fan, go to country music venues (OK I wouldn't recommend that one but your choice). If you like artsy types, go to art openings and museums.

[swettannie]

take your time and believe of yourself, there is no reason you can't.
and unfortunately, many black mens don't value black woman as much as they should

[joehypo1]

If i was your age I would ask you out you would probably say no , I have only had 4 girl friends in my life there is no hurry even being shy nothing wrong with that

[getwiththepg]

If other men have found you attractive I’m sure you’ll have no problem finding someone. You’re only 18. As long as you try to stay alive you have a lot of time.

[Loki97]

Surely there is a man out there for you and I’m sure you’re gorgeous. Just don’t give up and don’t settle for a guy who just wants in your pants. Take things slow and learn about someone or you will get hurt

[Anonymous]

Have you tried dating apps? Usually women don't have much trouble finding interested parties.

[FenixG45]

Really, color and race are irrelevant. Just a find a decent polite guy who treats you with respect and like a lady!

[FunkyMonkee]

Sure, it's possible! It'll happen some day.

[Asker]

I keep attracting black guys more

[FunkyMonkee]

Well? There ya go! Boyfriends!
Oh! You want white guys. well, I'm available but I doubt you'd want me.
Go places where white guys hang out.

[Asker]

Race doesn’t matter all that matter he’s not black.

[FunkyMonkee]

Are there still Lollapalooza concerts? Go to one of those. An all day even LOADED with guys to pick from.
Go to an amusement park, look for a guy that looks like he's a good one and tell him you wanna go on a few rides but they require two people. Ask him to ride with you. Get to know him and maybe the spark will ignite.

[Asker]

Thanks

[FunkyMonkee]

No problem, hun. Good luck! Now, go out there and GET HIM, TIGER!!

[jimmy2]

Wow I wish I new you
You are one fine girl

[Asker]

How?

[kareka]

And some love black girls

[Asker]

What’s your thoughts on black girls?

[kareka]

I wanna try to date one

[Asker]

Why?