If the woman expects men to pay for everything on a date, then should she bother dating at all?
I generally disagree but I think a convoluting factor is online dating or even the generalized Western idea of "dating to get to know each other." That is not in line with tradition.
We don't do this much in Japan. The traditional way of dating here is to date people we already know, like classmates, close acquaintances, and friends, much like I suspect many people in the West did traditionally.
When we date traditionally this way among people we already know, then I think it's much easier to follow the gentleman code of conduct as well as women following ladylike codes of conduct. The gentleman code means being a leader on the date while the woman follows, and like a responsible leader, he pays for the date in exchange for the leadership privilege of being in charge.
So from my perspective, people who date people they barely know with the goal of getting to know each other are skipping a vital process of getting to know each other outside of dating. There splitting the bill makes more sense to me, but the problem in my opinion is that they're skipping the process of getting to know each other before going on a single date.
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Disagree, everyone should be allowed to date, they should just be wary of reality.
Nothing wrong with that, but she she'd better be traditional herself and do her feminine duties herself, not sleep with 100 guys beforehand and then talk about how her past doesn't matter.
There's definitely women out there who want a man to be traditional, yet aren't themselves.
I have this thing where if I invite someone, I pay. If they invite me, they pay. And here I’m talking a simple coffee or drink in a pub. On other dates I prefer to go half’s. Many men aren’t happy with that. I’ve actually put people off because I refused them paying for everything. Sometimes it’s wise to accept gracefully.
She should date.
She's just going to have to accept that there aren't many men who will want to put up with that, and so be expected to be disappointed a lot.
There might be someone out there who wishes the same dynamics, chances are slim, but anyway, shouldn't keep her from dating.
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Sounds like you are against traditional dating rituals. Women expect to be courted and that means men paying for shit. If that isn't you great.
If a man is dumb enough to pay for everything on a date then maybe he shouldn't complain. I'm guessing that he will be expecting sex so he may be getting his money's worth.
At least she should offer to participate to pay. If she only wants you to pay for all expenses without suggesting she participated then she isn't the one for long relationships.
if you're a man and you're going to whine and cry over 200 to 500 dollars
then... relationships are just not for you... go to Las Vegas and spend 30 bucks at the time or whatever it is
men are supposed to be more logical and practical, no?There's no one way to answer. That all depends on if you do the traditional way of dating or not. If you pick traditional way, then men will be expected to pay. If not, then you can split half and half with the pay the best you can.
Hard to answer. I have always preferred traditional women, and I don't mind paying for dates IF she is actually traditional. A "modern" woman... yeah, no thanks.
Nope men are meant to be providers not women. It's the bare minimum requirement of being a man. Women pay in other ways later on into the relationship so it's not fair to expect her to provide even in the beginning and also offer all her good things up to you later on.
If the guy is dumb enough to pay for the whole date (s) then they shouldn't date.
It depends on the agreement between that couple. I personally prefer to pay for myself
of course she should date, how else is she going to get some poor schmuck to pay for everything?
She can date, but people might not want to date her.
I paid for dates a lot all 100 and still these men joined💀
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