If you date only to find a partner for marriage, then many people won't be dating until they are at least 24-25 years old. How would these people learn anything about dating and about their preferences, desires, turn ons and turn offs if they haven't dated before then?
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If we are dating in young age it's fine to date without keeping marriage in mind because dating helps us to know about us more and about relationships. It teaches us how to maintain relationships or how does it works which is very different than bookish knowledge. So it's completely fine. After we learn everything then it's upto person choice if they want to get married or not. Not everyone wants to get married. Some simply wants a company. Marriage doesn't suits everybody.
Disagree. People can't date just to enjoy each other? Considering most marriages end in divorce I'd say marriage is overrated. Highly overrated. Divorce rate is 35 to 50 percent for first marriages and 65 to 70 percent for second marriages.
Now if you are wanting to date fir marriage than good on you. Do it.
But it's not the only reason. Love means more than just a written contract.
Completely and utterly disagree , what a tiny focus that would be to consider one only potential outcome? Life is so much more than that , I'm thinking now of someone I've known for 17 years , if I had that view it never would have happened.
Could not disagree more , and its absolute tunnel vision to think otherwise , like is many shades of grey , not black / white.
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This is the thing. If there was such a thing as man and woman having absolutely no physical tension despite finding the person attractive or even charming and pleasant, then you could simply be friends with the promise of no physical friendship and not even hugging and kissing. Unfortunately, such a thing does not exist. If people think it does, they are delusional and fooling themselves.
So then what !!! Man and woman were naturally created for each other. How can you have a lonely life after 60s with no support system !!!
I think it's OK to go on dates to find out if the person fully interests you for a long-term relationship which may include marriage. I certainly had some dates and a short term relationship or two that I knew were not going to end with a long-term relationship or marriage. If I could change that I would.
You could be dating for companionship, or some other reason than marriage. Anymore it is mor for a hookup than marriage. Or they may want to interbreed with an alien.
I know a couple of women in their 70s ( family members) who have been dating since teenage years. Now they're single and regretting they didn't settle down.
Plus dating is hard work. At one point a person wants to be comfortable with a loved one.
No, sometimes you just want to be with somebody because they are fun to be with or share similar interests. Or maybe it is just a physical attraction. I dated some people that I knew was just a relationship that was fun for now but knew that it was not forever. I really enjoyed those relationships and I think that they enjoyed it too.
I agree with this. Get out of the game if you ain't playing seriously. If they want to be in the hookup/fuck around game they can go do that but keep it separate from dating
Some men and women want a stable supply of sexual intimacy and "feeling loved". That is what a Friends With Benefits is for.
In my culture a lot of people never marry... so that would mean no one should date? Some of the couples I know have been together for 10+ or even 20+ years without being married.
Agree. It should eventually lead to marriage imho. Otherwise it's just long term hooking up.
Disagree: Dating can be for a lot of reasons. Long term relationships don’t really need to be a factor in some situations.
I date for companionship, Coach, someone to dine with, got to concerts, travel, etc. Don't think I ever dated with the sole purpose of marriage.
What's wrong with just having fun? I think that there's dating and flirting because it's fun. Sex as well, it feels good and can be a good time.
Nope. I know people that have remained boyfriend and girlfriend for over twenty years. Marriage to many people is just a legal thing that could very well bite them in the ass.
Disagree. There are other reasons to date besides marriage. Not every man is reckless or stupid enough to want marriage.
Easy no. You can have different goals in dating. Just being honest about them is what matters.
Personally, I can’t think of any other reason to date.
Dating is the preface for a lot of different relationships, and marriage is only one of the possibilities. It's silly and kind of arrogant to say everyone should take that one option you think is best or else not have any relationship at all.
I would word it differently. I'd say if your ultimate goal isn't marriage then why are you dating? I mean I'm not saying you should be insta-proposing to someone. But if your goal is just to play the field then you're wasting people's time. At least have the decency to tell them you're just playing the field.
I personally agree. I want to be married. I don’t want to have to date around before meeting my husband.
Isn't that the purpose of dating to find a person to marry. Otherwise friends with benefits or hookups work for sex with no attachments.
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