Which social media this has allowed women, to filter out most men and look for the high value man she wants. Along with that is the ego and attention women receive from simps. This attention makes them feel like they deserve more than they actually do because simps tell them they're 8s or 9s when the woman is really just a average woman but simps are desperate and will give anything a 8 or 9. Most men can't compete with the top tier guy and so social media has made most women visible while making most men invisible. Women will even share high caliber men with other women because of how rare and valuable they are. The dating market will never be the same again
At the rate of social media addiction and smartphone dependency we're experiencing in society and especially young people, the dating market collapsing is probably the least of our problems.
Yes, basically everything said here is true, but it's only tangentially related. If we're being completely honest here, the fact that women's standards are so unreasonably high is not really a problem in itself, it's merely the most obvious symptom of much deeper, structural failings in society that nobody really wants to address. For, to address the cause-and-effect nature of women's increasing expectations via online dating would raise serious questions about the reality of how modern society operates, how it's become like a drug addict looking for it's next technologically-driven dopamine hit, and how the whole system has the appearance of a house of cards, for which a collapse would benefit only the elite in the short term and absolutely no one in the long term.Sure, women's desire to date the top 1% of men or whatever the current stat claims to be, is bad news for dating generally as it decreases the amount of women available to ordinary men, but it's only a noticeable problem that raises alarm bells because the biological urge reproduce biases us to feel the absence of said opportunity--a situation which appears to be magnifying as more and more human interactions are pushed online. If everything has to be done on a smartphone, through the proxy of an app economy, then the companies that runs the services holds all the cards and basically dictate people's lives. As an example, Tinder has effectively, permanently changed the dating landscape. While it was supposed to democratize dating and provide a set of tools for everyone that evened the playing field, it has since turned into a pay-to-play casino of bots, scams, and con artists. What once was relatively easy and casual (which was only the case because the userbase was small and probably balanced) has become a full-time job, wading through a cesspool of bad offers and wasted energy. It made fun into fuss, diluting the pool of locally-available people and turned dating into a corporate vetting process akin to selecting applicants for "'just opened' positions" that require "mandatory 10+ years of experience" or "be available at all hours of the day", at a major Fortune 500 company after a fresh round of layoffs: everyone wants to be chosen, but few make the cut.
And that's just the end result, the finale couple of decisions in a logical sequence of actions to increase one's clout and follower standing, just to get noticed in sea of vaguely-ambitious copycats trying to also do the bare minimum, which often includes: getting multiple pictures taken at just the right angles, followed by using your favorite image editor to "iron out" all those pesky human imperfections, and finally, linking your Tinder account to Instagram or maybe even OnlyFans. Because why bother dating one person and spending money, when you could instead "date" 5,000 followers and make money? Of course, none of this should be necessary, because "each person is unique and special", so much so that they disappear into the mass of all the other "unique and special" people. No, the sad reality is that it's not enough anymore just to be anyone, you now have to be someone, and there's a lot of willing participants in this skinner box.
So yeah, taking all of this into account, given the grim reality that many peoples' social media presences are just fake people trying to ingratiate themselves to other fake people--all glammed-up and full of plastic surgery--it's not surprising that women have a rather distorted view of reality and what dating standards are "reasonable". The whole market is utterly, incontrovertibly warped... possibly beyond repair. At least, in the West. Depending on your locale of partner, your mileage may vary.
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There is that 60-something percent of men are single while only 30 percent of women are single stat floating around out there that makes me think these chicks are mostly sharing the same men and claiming they're in a relationship with the same guys. Yeah, Chad, Brad, and Tyrone will fuck you, but you're not it for them at all.
There is also the simps reinforcing her idea that she actually is on the same level as Chad, Brad, and Tyrone. Not just the simps... the other women say the same shit to each other.
And all of this brings me to social media, and really technology enabling all this bullshit to go down. This shit wasn't happening when there was no chance of being on the internet unless you had a computer. Now a computer is in everyone's hands. She has a professional camera... in her hand. Her social interactions are for the most part, not even face-to-face. Chad couldn't string her along for long back in the day, because she'd run into the other chicks and realize real fast that she's just being used for sex, and in fact, not special... just a run-of-the-mill basic bitch. Now the deception is soooo deep, that a lot of these chicks remain fooled all the way until dudes no longer really want to bang her anymore. That's the wall... and the wall is undefeated.
There are high standards which are good, and unrealistic standards, which both genders fall prey to often enough, and you could say men and women both have their tastes affected by the internet. I have encountered so many guys who want a girl to have big breasts but demand they defy gravity and sit perky on their chests, or a natural hourglass body, and can't accept that means she doesn't have the perfect slim to go with the thick, just as some girls think they want a solid six-pack and nine-inch dick. Key-word: think they want.
My cousin is an example. He's in his early twenties and keeps falling for these air-brushed, skinny honestly very basic Instagram model-looking girls, and though even as a conventionally attractive male, he's not getting much out of it except eye candy, and still can't bring himself to date someone more ordinary. He's chronically online and sees those women as the ones every other guy is drooling over.
But honestly, it's pretty much always women who end up settling in the looks department eventually anyway, so I don't see that it should matter much. Unless it's some sort of TikTok or celebrity couple, I've noticed the male counterpart is almost always less conventionally attractive than the woman. Not to say that means he's unattractive to her, or that he's not an amazing person, or that he's ugly. But as much as men might be convinced women only go after the highpoint ten percent of men, the majority of them end up with the average-looking dude across the street.
Not really. Men who post photos and videos on themselves on social media aren’t attractive. They make it seem like they’re little boys. A high value man would be too busy building his future and taking care of his family to be posing for TikTok or instagram.
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Lol sounds like an Andrew Tate disciple over here. Yes, social media has a part to play. But desperate men are the real problem here. Women get to do that because they can create an onlyfans page, a fansly or whatever adult content site they want and have pathetic weak men drop hundreds of thousands of dollars just to see a left tit or asshole. So a woman that can’t hold down a honest, hardworking, respectable job can make 3x as much as a guy that’s “supposed” to do those jobs. And then the girl can shit on the guy saying that they want man that’s on there level.. lol
I promise you, if men stopped paying for these sites than you would find a lot of these women reverting back to trying to find men to take care of them because they have no skills are value. High value men don’t mean you have money, status, material things. That’s worldly shit, and that can be taken from you at a moments notice. Ask Tate, if the government Romania wanted to end his influence and status they could. High value men is in the character you set, the work you do to move people forward, the life you lead to serve others, keeping your word. Going against your natural instincts as a man to conquer pussy and to sacrifice to serve and uplift a woman, and empower women to not be whores online.
It doesn’t matter what standards someone sets for me as a man, I have my standards that supersedes any that another man or woman (especially) will put on me.There is some truth to what you said.
I think it’s more that women have a vagina. They think that vagina is rare and unique and special. In reality 1 out of every 2 people on this planet has a vagina. Making vaginas about as common as asphalt. Once they realize many guys will do all manner of things to get access to their vaginas, they think this means they are qualified for the best of men…. simply by having a vagina. The reality is though that lots of them have nothing else going for them besides their vagina. That apart from that many are completely useless to a man, and are in fact a liability to any man.
So I think their belief that just by having a vagina automatically means they are qualified to have the best men on the planet and will accept nothing less is more behind these high standards you speak of as opposed to social media.I wouldn’t say social media. I mean what happened to actually going out and finding someone. Now everything is on an app. I just want things to be pushed back to the good old days but social media does help us with staying connected with people from your childhood and family from across the country.
Women should have high standards. Men should have high standards too. If I'm in shape, good looking and making good money, I'm not dating up if I only date beautiful skinny women. If a women brings a lot to the table, she should be able to attract a successful man. Nobody should settle for less than they think they are worth, male or female.
Lmao.
Bruh, no. Women expect men to be bare minimum decent humans and y'all let asshats like Joe Rogan and Andrew Tate dictate your personality instead.
Women's expectations of men have been "be a decent human" for generations.
Y'all just fail consistently unless you go to therapy to work on your own issues, first.I understand when guys like you cry because there are many ugly girls with handsome partners whilst you stay single hoping for them to give you a chance.
They should date you while he should be in my arms instead 🤣🤣🤣
Life isn't always fair. Some women get lucky. Even his current girlfriend has a huge forehead and nose but who cares? She is having all the fun.
Go out and stop focusing on dating apps. You have lost per definition on the app as guy while a girl can post an anime pic or a donkey butt and gets in few minutes 200 matches. What does it tell you?
I think it is mostly online. There are a lot of the guys who drool and go crazy over super average girls with obnoxious personalities and give them absurd 9's and 10's. I rarely see that in person. I actually think most of the girls I encounter in real life should have much higher standards than they currently have.
What high standards? Have you seen the men some women date or even marry?
its funny most women dont see it and yet they all disagree with this. the blind guiding the blind. they will all soon realize this once they are 50 years old when no one wants them. plus the guys who disagree with this are abunch of simps.
I don't think we should 'blame' anything for women having high standards, but should be grateful for it.
No, women have always had high standards.
They are looking for the best to be the father of their offspring.
Just like in the animal kingdom.
Survival of the fittest.Women have had high standards throughout the history of the world. What social media did is reveal those standards to the 80% of guys that weren't getting women.
Do you think social media is to blame for men’s high standards?
Ever heard of cyber harassment? Women also get that a lot.
Only for attention seeking. Not standards. Anyone man or woman can have any level of standards. High or low.
Disagree, the world changes so are the minds of women with the need to change
What high standards? Most women I see have no standards and no hobbies.
I want a high standard woman.It's a reason why we have high standards for ourselves. My standards are, become Chris Bumstead & Ross Ulbricht at the same time. If I'm not good enough for this goal than i'm not good enough for a women.
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