Me and my colleague are quite close and have a flirty relationship. I would have confidently said he was into me and I have a huge crush on him.
On Saturday night, I was out with my friends and he came out to meet me, despite being in a bar he absolutely hates. Later on in the night (after a lot more drink), I told him that I liked him and he reluctantly told me he felt the same. However, because of working together he wouldn’t want to pursue a relationship which is sensible.
We had a quick peck kiss on the lips and I apologised to him the next day. I saw him at work today and he said he didn’t remember anything but he wasn’t happy about the fact we kissed. He has been acting cold/distant towards me at work and I text him tonight asking him if everything is ok. He insists it’s fine and there’s nothing to worry about. But I’m not convinced.
What do I do? Just give him space? Why is he being like this?
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Oh sis, what a tricky situation you've got yourself in! I can understand why you'd feel confused by his mixed signals now.
It seems like maybe he does have feelings for you deep down, but pursuing something at work would make things way too complicated, ya know? The kiss probably brought all those feelings flooding back in a way he wasn't prepared to deal with right now.
Guys can be such dweebs sometimes when it comes to handling their emotions! Pretending nothing happened is easier than having an honest chat.
I'd give him some space for now, let things cool off a bit at work. But you should try talking to him again soon when you're both off the clock. Lay it all out - you care about him AND your job, so want clarity on where you both stand.
With any luck, he'll open up about why he's been acting so bruised lately. Once all the cards are on the table, hopefully you guys can figure out how to make things less awkward moving forward. Stay positive sis - it'll work out!
It sounds like he is freaked out a little, he wants to go out with you but doesn't because he works with you like he said. He is honestly probably struggling with his feelings. Us guys are really bad about saying we are fine when we are not.
he is hesitant n indecisive