Is it true that most women date up while most men date down?

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QuickToAsk · Accepted Answer

The key word here is most. Most men date for sex. They mainly date down because the main thing they want is sex above any other traits. There are more down women than up women on average. There are men that have sex with women they don't even like, just for the sex & the women only have to be passable enough to turn the guy on for sex to occur. See, it's kinda hard to say about women because I'd have to know if most women like to slum-it-up with bad boys' toxicity or not. Guys will boldly say they want sex, while women hold their reputations close to their hearts & say they want a nice guy & we'll never know how many are lying just to keep up appearances. I want to say that most women on average are more selective than what I said about men above, but I don't know. It basically comes down to women slumming with bad boys vs. men wanting sex. Which has the most people in their group? I wanna say the men have it, but who knows?🤷

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

If I'm "dating down" then I'm probably not going to be dating you for long. Depends on how you are defining it though. Almost always I've made more money, but I don't care about her money so it's irrelevant what she makes. I've dated models, and I've never modeled, so you could argue they're more attractive than me, but I was the one who grew tired of them because they didn't have enough to offer outside of their looks, so I'd hardly call that "dating up."

Overall "what they bring to the table" would have to be pretty comparable to the amount that I do, or I'm not going to see reason to commit to her. If she's bringing a truckload MORE to the table than I am, honestly I can't imagine what that would look like unless she's designing prosthetics for injured critters or something, and I haven't met that person.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My self as a 30 year old woman. I had open my eyes and realized how unchristian , immature , womanizers and mommas boy millenial guys can be. I dated guys my own age what did I get MISTREATED! in the past even married Aa guy my age guess what one day out of no where just out of the blue over night he chaged decided he wanted some other woman and left me. Guys my age don't have a relationship with the Lord which means they are not spiritually strong. And every problem and issue they tell mommy. I noticed guys in their 40s are more mature and spiritually strong and christian. When I met my husband I noticed hiw mature he is and how strong beautiful his devotion to the Lord. I don't care what people say but my now husband ge 46 and I am 30 we can spend hours talking I dont have to deal with chidlish goofy behavior. And the sex is really strong and we have a strong bound something I never had with a guy my own age.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Women date up financially but date down looks wise. I'd say its the opposite for men.

If possible, women should try date a guy cleaner/more tidy than her since he's less likely to nag. On the flip side, women would be perfectly fine dating a guy less active/present on social media than her.

ManOnFire · Answer

Nah, not even close. Most women date men they know very well are not good value, or they have no business even being with such guys, and then they go on to marry and later divorce these men. Many women also have relationships with men who are cheating on their wives and some of these women even have the twisted belief that they can or will win a love war and steal that man from his wife.

Novacane · Answer

For the most part yes, since women have so many options they are more likely to always want the best of the best, and with social media in the mix now it makes everyone think the grass is always greener so they dont want to "settle" even if the guy is in their league. Also, the things they are attracted to typically not all men have. As for men since they typically dont have many options and the things they look for most women have they typically dont mind dating down, across, or up.

AngryCarl · Answer

At this point I think the fact that women date up has been proved by science. At least until they turn 30 and realize they don't have the options they used to have.

As for men, it's tough for them to date at all unless they fall into the "hot" category. And this has completely changed from when I was younger, i. e. pre-Tinder when people would just meet up socially and date someone at their own level because there were fewer options and less of a hook-up culture. Indeed men would date up or down depending on their level of confidence and the quality of their "game", whereas now it's purely about looks.

Lionman95 · Answer

I would say no mostly because in modern days it´s harder to say what´s dating down or up means. The time where women didn´t work or only worked in low status and paid job like as a secretary are over at least in my area. The question of what people rank in terms of attractiveness are highly subject in my experience. To me this rule is too stereotypical.

noemiii · Answer

Yes it is true, most fairly attractive women have the option to date up no matter what financial status they have. Men don’t necessarily date down though because a woman’s equivalent to a man’s financial status is their attractiveness.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I voted No unless you mean literally, as women shorter than my height (I'm 6ft to 6ft 1) have a few times flirted with me or come onto me. And I look as I look. And they usually had cleaner skin than me, no acne scars, probably average to above average looks minimal makeup. Hot 🔥🥵 even if they had average bodies you know, nothing fancy like assets or frontal features that were eye grabbing or from behind 😃👀👀😭😴🫣

nawtee_me · Answer

How can anyone believe such a thing? People date those that they are attracted to no matter what others think of them. Society want you to believe one person is above or below another but you heart says differently. To your heart all whom you date are no better or no worse, only loved by you….

Sonorous · Answer

That's what I've heard at least. That women tend to prefer to date someone who's on the same level as them or higher. And men aren't the childbearers of the species so we aren't often like that.

normalice · Answer

When it comes to penis size, yes, most guys date girls who don't even have a penis. But apart from that there's not really an agreed to "up" or "down" direction for such comparisons.

Katebfun · Answer

I'd say this is true when it comes to Sex, maybe not so much as dating. Depends on the person.

dolemite58 · Answer

Yep for the most part, there’s always exceptions sure. I was saying this the other day, a rich handsome guy would still date a waitress but a rich pretty woman wouldn’t look twice at a bus boy, unless she was like a weird cougar or something lol

marish01 · Answer

So the high value man has more good traits than a high value woman? Who will the best woman date?

blueonblack22 · Answer

It’s called hypergamy. Seriously why do you see hordes of female groupies vs male groupies when musicians perform?

PeachyPie93 · Answer

We usually date in our own leagues. Money wise women can date up but not usually looks wise.

Anonymous · Answer

I think girls usually date down. for example, a girl that's an 8 is going to date a guy that is probably a 6-7. if it's higher than that she might feel insecure about herself when they are together or among other people.

OddBeMe · Answer

I’d say opposite. Which is why the media, like sitcoms, shows men “dating” up. Because it’s fantasy.

Lonelydudewantsagirl · Answer

Since I never get likes on dating apps, yes I would say they do. If conventionally unattractive women wanted to date me they would have sent me messages and given me likes on those apps by now.

hsshannah96 · Answer

I date down cause the more attractive ones don’t want me so yes, I’m a girl and I date down

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Yes.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No idea. I date whom I like if she says "Yes." I generally make far more than they do, but have dated a few who made considerably more (all were attorneys). All of them are better looking than I am in my opinion.

PinkVenus · Answer

I don't think you can really separate it that easily. Like personally I have a some goals in life which I of course hope to share with a partner, but I'd be a lot more inclined to date upwards financially, if it meant dating down lookwise ☺️

Cody2004 · Answer

I don't know what that means like Jesus I actually don't know what that means let me look it up real quick

Anonymous · Answer

If we're talking economically, the evidence points pretty clearly to "yes." Same if we're talking about height!

OtterMan68 · Answer

According to sit-coms, men date up and women date down! Just look at George Costanza, Homer Simpson, Peter Griffin, the men from Modern Family, The Jim Gaffigan Show, King of Queens...

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

There's some truth to that but that's not the norm.

People date and marry within their social economic class since since those are the people they mostly hanging around or come in contact with most often.

msc545 · Answer

Yes. Hypergamy causes women to date up if they can. Men date down because doing so makes it easier to obtain sex. Given that women want money and status and men want sex, this all makes sense.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Woman who are pretty with self respect, great male influences and intelligent date up. Ugly women usually date down and have low self esteem.

Subflics · Answer

I don't care about a woman's financial status as long as she is hygienic. I tend to date up or same as with looks though since I can talk to people

Chthou95 · Answer

Yes. An average woman won't date an average man but an average man will date an average woman. Women are much selective which is fine. But this statement holds true

SolitarySolace · Answer

Almost. Women date up and only date up. While men either date the middle ground or not at all.

boggboss · Answer

No statistically most date in theor own brackets

Anonymous · Answer

Women  WANT  to date up, they always want the bigger better deal. Men  DO NOT CARE   if they are dating Up, Level, or Down

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Absolutely yes! Dont believe me compare men’s standards to women’s

Kylie_Bug · Answer

I date sideways or on my back.

straightmax12 · Answer

Men are the ones who date women who work at low income jobs like working at a diner or a fast-food place. Women date men with high income jobs.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

well, men love themselves more than anything so they date down and women are greedy to get things so they date up. easy and simple

Apple1996 · Answer

Nope the opposite happens more often

Guanfei · Answer

They do, and most studies already show it.

Anonymous · Answer

I've always dated down💀

PrincessFlora · Answer

No I never heard of that

MemeSupreme · Answer

i be datin sideways

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