Do girls believe in love at first sight?

[Enginn]

Would it be weird if men make love to girls at first sight?

[Anonymous]

"Hey, baby... Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by you again?" ::awkward chuckle::

I tend to think that's sleeping together on the first date is pretty fast... but I'm old school, and fairly religious, so I understand a lot of people would full on disagree with me.

I mean, back in the late nineteen hundreds... third date used to be the big date for the first kiss. Not even necessarily making out for hours. Even late nineties, a lot of tv shows were trying to push the third date as the "sleepover" date, but I think that was still somewhat seen as a "one night stand" casual type of thing, and I don't think it was "the norm."

Now it's the third date is the big date for "bumping uglies," ("Jeez... love? That comes WAY later, maybe") and if you're not making out with them by the first date, and sleeping with someone by the third, you're a weirdo. Even in the Christian circles, it's gotten that way a lot more. And I'm not successful with dating, so... I clearly don't comprehend how the world should work much... But to me, it seems really rushed. Seems like it can invite a lot more problems than it's worth.

CAN people "fall in love" on the first date? Maybe. I tend to think it's more "falling in infatuation..." and maybe that can quickly turn into love. Or maybe it's love from the beginning. But maybe some people can genuinely do this. I've had a lot of friends who have gotten married after the third date, and they're still happily together. Sometimes it "passion of a thousand suns" and "I will always be your "sugar-buttcakes-squishie-shmoo-shmoo" and then they're brawling and then broken up the next day, and this "profound deep thing" lasted a week, and they're both in new relationships in another week (repeating the pattern).

And if all the women are demanding me to perform by date three... dating is going to be a lot more difficult than fun for me. And it's already tough enough without that expectation. Can you luck out? Sure. You can also luck out and sleep with three people tomorrow and not get any pregnancies or STD's... but there is more of a chance of something bad happening, even if it doesn't. It's a bigger risk. I think if sleeping together is a huge priority that early on, there's more of a chance it's just not going to work well, even just emotionally, IMHO.

[Daniela1982]

If a person is a real Christian and following God and not men's precepts, the 3rd date sex scenario will not happen. The devil knows how to pull your strings, so bringing in some hot girl to sway you in the opposite direction of Christian beliefs, he will.

[Anonymous]

Nah it’s not real. But everyone once in a blue moon we meet someone who checks off everything in our mental “love” check list.

I remember years ago I used to hit up an acoustic music bar in a small surfer coastal neighborhood. It was always a relaxed “old school” hippie atmosphere. One night there was the absolutely beyond gorgeous girl performing old school “feel good oldies” songs like Beatles, Simon & Garfunkel, etc.

I have never in my life seen a young and gorgeous 24 year blonde girl sing those classics, do it well and while appearing to be happy & content doing it. She had pure “girl next door” vibe too.

I was absolutely captivated by her. I see attractive women all the time but with her I was spellbound.

We did talk briefly later. She was polite but I could tell she had other distractions going on. I asked her if she has a fan page on social media. She told me about her FB page which I followed of course. However that was that was the last time I saw her.

Now that wasn’t “love” at first sight. True love is something you won’t know until you experienced if. Love is selfless and my infatuation with that girl obviously was for my own daydream. But it wasn’t a bad thing either. It wasn’t just sexual lust but being in a dream like captivation.

[sage2021]

I think it's equivalent like when a guy says "I found THE ONE the first time I saw her".
No matter how many times I found love, fell in love, had men fall in love with me, weather it was love at first sight or some other way, they all ended!
Either they smoked marijuana or drank, or took drugs, or they were clean.
One died, a couple moved away, or I moved away.
No matter the reason, my relationship's always ended.
But out of all my highschool girlfriends, only one is still married. And she married into money and never had to work. But she was such a big show off I stopped contacting her.

So I guess I am normal as far as forever relationships go. They just don't work for me.

[Daniela1982]

I can't speak for others, but for myself, no I don't. What most are feeling is elation and sexual attraction. But have you noticed, that these people who supposedly love each other chuck it out the window when they break up? They fall out of love pretty quickly. That must be a pretty thin-skinned love, don't you think? People who put sex above all have no love at all. This is what real love is.

[devilish-cutie]

I believe in instant attraction at first sight, in infatuation at first sight but love? Think that is something you need to figure out by getting to know the person and something that builds over times

[wiltingrosepetal]

I met someone yesterday at my uni lecture and felt infatuation at first sight. Heart went badum badum and I could not focus on the lecturer at all. But you can't love a person as soon as you meet them. The only love at first sight I agree with would be parents and their babies, but that is after 9 months of preparing to meet them

[Anonymous]

Girls believe even if it looks awkward if a boy make love to girls at first sight. Make sure to pick a right girl who believes in the same so it won't be awkward

[Anonymous]

Beliefs about love at first sight vary from person to person, regardless of gender. Some girls may believe in it, while others may not. It ultimately depends on individual experiences, perspectives, and values.

[HelpfulWoman]

I don't believe in it. Lust at first sight, sure.
love, I believe, needs more than just looks.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Love, no. Attraction, yes. Maybe even infatuation that mostly goes into fantasy or even delusion. Definitely not love.

[DizzyAster2]

They are emotionally and commitment driven beings.

Love is an pleasant emotion and can help with commitment.

Seems obvious.

[Yannae]

Some of them do, some of the men probably do as well. But in my case, IT WAS LUST, MAN, HOT DAMN.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Lust and attraction and allure. However love? For the immature, sure. 😯🤣

[Booklover_90]

Not this girl. I have to get to know someone before I love them.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No. You can't love someone you don't know. It's impossible.

[Tharithi]

U love her? Why?

[Enginn]

Because I fell in love with her. Simple as that.

[Tharithi]

Why?

[12karen]

I do. Don't know 'bout the others

[MemeSupreme]

no lol that shit takes time

[FreyaRed]

Not in my definition of love

[ab2shifty]

No idea