Girls, Am I asking her out to often?

Question

I have recently met a girl I think I really like on Hinge. We have gone on a few dates now and I feel confidant they went really well. There was lots of good signs suggesting that e. g. lots of laughs, good eye contact, getting close to one another comfortably etc. but over the last few days I think I've gotten carried away with it and have been a bit clingy. I have asked her twice to go out and we did between the asks but Im just worried Im asking to much and she might get a little freaked out. I really like this girl and don't wanna stuff it up, any advice would be great haha

laly520 · Accepted Answer

here is some tips:
Balance Communication: Find a balance between staying in touch and giving her space. Avoid bombarding her with messages or calls, and let conversations flow naturally. Focus on Quality Time: Instead of constantly asking her out, focus on making the time you do spend together meaningful and enjoyable. Show genuine interest in getting to know her and building a connection. Listen to Her Cues: Pay attention to her responses and cues. If she seems hesitant or busy, take it as a sign to give her some space and revisit the topic later. Communicate Openly: If you're unsure about her feelings or if you're coming off as too clingy, it's okay to communicate openly with her about it. Express your feelings and concerns in a respectful and non-confrontational mannerGive Her Space: It's important to give her some breathing room and not overwhelm her with constant requests to hang out. Respect her personal space and allow her to initiate plans sometimesFocus on Yourself: Take some time to focus on your own interests, hobbies, and personal growth. Cultivating a fulfilling life outside of the relationship can help alleviate feelings of clinginess and make you more attractive to your partner

devilish-cutie · Accepted Answer

Try not to stress ysf about it, if she responds positively it's all good. If she declines/postpones than you may slow down, basically adapt to yourboth rythms. Don't ask for problems there isn't any.

If you ysf need more time and think it's going fast, thats ok. Dont be afraid to take time for ysf or that she willreject you if you are too "clingy", if she is truly interested in you and is normal person, you both should be able to communicate well and things would work out if you are for eachother.

_Maya_ · Answer

I agree with you that you don't want to ask all the time at the beginning. I think asking to do something on the weekend is fine or every other week. It is really about how she responds tho. On the one hand if she is saying yes then there is no problem. On the other you don't want to make her feel obligated because you asked. There is a fine line and it really depends on the person. My advice would be to back off a little and just say to her something like hey next time you are available just let me know. Put the ball in her court. Then you will start to see how often she wants to go out.

Violet_78 · Answer

That’s something only she can give you an answer to. She might be just as happy to spend time with you. I’d ask her in person next time you see her.
but you should be able to gage it by her reactions - and the frequency of replies too.

does she seem keen to interact with you?
when I get a message from the guy I like it’s literally the best part of my day and there has never been a time where I though “oh I have really seen enough of him now. It would be good to not see him for a few days”

but that’s obviously very personal and someone else in my situation might feel completely different.
I was worried for a while that he might think it’s too much, but he never seems to want to leave and comes up with lots of reasons to spend more time together … so it’s worked out alright for us so far.

good luck with it!

Anonymous · Answer

As long as she agrees, you're good.
If you really feel like you might head into a difficult direction, just straight up tell her: "Hey, so I really enjoy hanging out with you (as you might have noticed), I just don't want to scare you off, so if you feel like things are going too fast or you don't want to hang out that often, really just let me know. I like getting to know you better, so I'm also trying to understand how you're feeling about this."
Something like that. I think she will appreciate it if you take her feelings into consideration, regardless of whether she genuinely cares about the amount of dates or not.
In case you won't get the opportunity to ask irl, I'd just text her about it.
But I'm sure you're doing fine :)

bobalife · Answer

How cuteee, I love happy couples! Haha. Tbh it’s all about going by her pace and how she’s responding to it. Continue to remain respectful and most importantly yourself :) You do want a balance of quality time and abit space, but if you both are vibing with the same style of communication and time spent.. why not ☺️

Anonymous · Answer

How often are you two meeting up?

I don't think there's a fixed frequency or number to define what's too "often," since each situation is different, and if she hasn't shown hesitation to agree with meeting up, she might be fine with the frequency you've been seeing each other.

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

Don't overthink, go with the flow but take things slow. If she is interested, she will stay and if she is not , she will leave.

sheikalana · Answer

I mean if she did not change her behavior after being asked out I'd say she's pretty interested in you too.

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