Are you attracted to nerds? Why or why not?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Generally not so much if we mean the classic definition which includes being antisocial. I really like very sociable, outgoing types of women who are down for an adventure, not the bookworm type who only lives those adventures in her imagination and barely ever socializes.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm also a feeler type and rely a lot on empathy and expressive body language to communicate and understand each other. I've worked with some very nerdy female software engineers and they're almost like Daria with their cold and dry tone:

I'm allergic to that in both men and women since they're so unexpressive and monotone. It hinders my ability to emotionally connect with them when they talk like a sarcastic robot.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I do love very intelligent women but ones whose enthusiasm for their passions bleeds into the way they talk, their body language, like they get me so excited about the subjects they're so clearly excited talking about and their enthusiasm rubs off on me. Similar to a great teacher at least in my book; a great teacher gets you excited about the subject. They don't sound like a zombie robot.

[HawkPerception]

As always man... love it

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Cheers! 🤝 I also don't know if it's fair to associate this with being a nerd, since "nerd" seems so liberally thrown about these days. Yet in the traditional idea of "nerd", I tend to associate it with someone far more concerned with theory than application.

I tend to be somewhat allergic to those types. Take one who studied countless books about track and criticizes Usain Bolt's running form, saying he could theoretically be faster if he made some tweaks.

There's only one known person in the history of the entire world who has ever been able to run as fast as Usain Bolt, and that's Usain Bolt. So a lot of theorists, especially when they critique masters of application, often come across to me as armchair quarterbacks.

Also rigidly applying the best-known theoretical techniques usually only gets a person to a state of decency in many fields, only slightly above mediocrity. The most exceptional people are usually ones who are innovative and deviate from widely-known theory to some extent. They're the ones that leave theorists puzzled and having to revisit the drawing board to figure out how they did so exceptionally well.

So the people I tend to admire most aren't the theoretical wizards but the ones who excel most in application.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

If I use artists as another analogy, theory is definitely useful since the worst artists don't even know the theoretical rules of perspective, anatomy, composition, etc. They're blindly oblivious. So they would be able to improve substantially by studying the theory of visual arts. Yet the greatest artists aren't ones who just stick to those rules; they knowingly break the theoretical rules to pursue even higher excellence.

So people who constrain themselves with rigid adherence to what is "theoretically optimal" often hold themselves back in the process as I see it, as with anyone who blindly obeys rules without question.

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Too many think they are nerds when they are really geeks.

[DizzyDesii]

If you’re talking about a book smart, goody two shoes teacher's pet who possibly wears glasses then yes thats the type nerds that I prefer. If you’re talking about the type who plays video games, reads comics, and watches anime, then no thats not my type of nerd

A Dwayne Wayne type nerd, yes

A Mark from Step By Step type nerd, yes

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm a nerd, so I don't mind... but I wouldn't say that I'm attracted to them... people as others

[iamnotmonalisa]

No, I am not

[HawkPerception]

Ya mind voting on it, so the polls are as accurate as they can be? 🙏🏼

[NathanDavis]

what's your definition of nerd?