Why are some people bothered when the person they rejected lost feelings for them?

[Anonymous]

And desperately try to observe them for any clues that they still like them? Why are some people so desperate for validation from people they deem unworthy

[Anonymous]

A lot of times this comes from women. It’s usually because they just like the attention, they really don’t want to be w the person. It just validates how good looking they think they are.

[Asker]

Yeah but a guy does this to me. And tbh I don’t feel better when unattractive men give me attention at all. It rather lowers my self esteem

[Opinion Owner]

There’s always exceptions. Sure some men may do it as well like in your case. But like I said it’s usually women who do this. Why does it lower your self esteem? Because you’re thinking of I’m only attracting ugly men that must mean I’m ugly too?

[Asker]

Yes exactly. I don’t appreciate attention from unattraktive men, if anything it lowers my self esteem

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. But in all honesty are you really cute yourself to attract attractive men?

[Asker]

Yes and I am cuter than the girls he pursues

[Asker]

He used to be attracted to me years ago but I accidentally rejected him in 2017

[Opinion Owner]

You might be cuter but maybe you have a bad personality. Cute gets a girl in the door as far as men, but if her personality is bad cute isn’t going to work forever. How did you accidentally reject him?

[Asker]

He stared me down to get a sign from me to approach me on two occasions which I ignored. Years later when I texted him he says I’m not his type, then stares me down from afar again

[Opinion Owner]

Just cause he stares you down doesn’t mean he likes you.

[Asker]

His friends teased him about it and he replied „yes but that was years ago“. Also girls can just tell

[Opinion Owner]

Girls can’t just tell. A lot of women don’t even know what men want. Look at this forum. It’s full of women asking whether a man likes them or not. Sure he may have liked you at one point but maybe he doesn’t. I used to like certain girls but I don’t anymore.

[Asker]

And why don’t you anymore?

[Opinion Owner]

Because other than sex they had nothing to offer. High maintenance. Too loud for me. Like had to be the center of attention. They were rude. No personality.

[Asker]

In my case it is different though since he doesn’t know my personality that well and I’m not rude or loud

[Opinion Owner]

Regardless why are you trying to get w him now?

[boggboss]

Because they enjoy the attention they get

[Asker]

Would you enjoy attention from a woman you consider to ugly to date?

[boggboss]

I would be flatterd but as yo enjoying the attention itself no as I have a relationship already and dont need outside attention