Do introverts and extroverts get along romantically?

[Anonymous]

I am interested in an introverted man, I am more extroverted. At least ambivert.

I wonder if we’ll get along.

[sawno]

Yes but it also leads to difficult moments, I am an extroverted introvert, my ex was an extrovert. Most of the time it works fantastically but if I was feeling bad (physically) I need space to heal myself back up and relax. If she was feeling bad she needed company. After all that's both how we recharge. In general that is very workable and ill either take some space, or give her the company she needed. But if I was feeling bad while at the same time something bad happened to her it was hard to balance. I could not give her company because I was already depleted, for her as an extrovert it was hard to understand I would be physically unable to give her company in the moments (The only way I can relax my body is by being alone). Meanwhile, she really needed me to be there to help her heal back up herself.

The solution was always the same, so the way to make it work is that the extrovert needs to understand and accept the introvert needs alone time and can't be there in that moment. The introvert needs to heal themselves back up as soon as possible, then once healed spend extra quality time with the extrovert to heal the extrovert back up. We tried the reverse but it would result in neither being healed, it would be to draining for me and as a result I would not have a positive effect on her either. So in those attempts we'd always end up with me taking space to heal first.

That said, for me it was linked to physical exhaustion due to overworking myself. Its possible that in other cases its not as intense as it was for me when I had my high stress moments I needed to rest from.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

My wife's an introvert while I'm an extreme extrovert and we get along extremely well.

However, she is a very sociable introvert -- actually a social butterfly of sorts -- so she always enjoys it when I bring her to parties and she can navigate crowds easily on her own.

The difference is that I tend to want to socialize all day and night long, 24/7, around the clock. Once I'm in socializing mode, I get hyper-energized and I never want to go home. I'm just as happy around complete strangers as I am with friends. If my friends all go home, no problem, I'll just make new ones.

My wife does get tired after a few hours and she prefers spending more time with friends than complete strangers. Her way of recharging her batteries is to sip wine and read a book in our bathtub at home.

So we have to compromise on that but the compromise is actually good for me. I never know when to stop partying once I'm in partying mode, and my wife helps me to find a reasonable balance.

On communication, she's also very open and shares her thoughts very freely which helps me. I have an inadvertent tendency to dominate conversations with introverts thinking out loud (introverts think in silence, extroverts tend to think out loud).

Even though I'm very socially and self-aware and will stop and start asking questions if someone is reduced to, "Uh-huh, uh-huh," to encourage equal participation, I do tend to talk a bit more than most people. So the way my wife tends to respond and very openly shares her thoughts helps encourage more of a two-way conversation which always helped me. I don't like doing all the talking whenever I can avoid it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, definitely. Most successful relationship dynamics are built on opposite personality types. Some introverts do desire extroverted partners because it helps them become more social, same with friendships. While it’s nice and all to date an introvert as an introvert, one of us has to still be the extrovert in the relationship when making plans and such, so that’s why I pick more extroverted partners.

[D_Bonez_nutt]

My man is introverted at heart, but he knows how to "play the part" of an extrovert. So when I bring a drunk girl home from the bar, he has no issues banging her while I make her suck my clit.

[OlderAndWiser]

There is much more to compatibility than introvert/extrovert. This difference, by itself, doesn't mean you are incompatible.

[AviatorTom]

They can get along, but not necessarily.

[MatureSexyClassy]

I think a lot of the "right" answer is based on how moderate or extreme the person's extrovert or introvert is. I think the extremes on both ends getting together would be trouble. I think being similar is better but it can work if one extrovert is moderate and the introvert is also moderate. Or an ambivert (in the middle of the spectrum can get along with probably anyone except the most extreme on both ends- and those extremes are more rare but do exist).

Every pair of people will be a different mix so a lot of it depends on the specifics of the two, but my general answer is yes, because most people aren't extreme in their introversion or extroversion and have at least a dose of the other quality in them too, if not a significant amount even.

[normalice]

Early on yeah but as you get older you may find you have diverging ideas of what counts as a vacation or retirement plan.

Of course a lot of people who call themselves one or the other aren't entirely. Like pretty much everything in life, it's not binary just because our hamfisted attempts at language development lacks dimension and distance. Many "introverts" would be content in a room with multiple people for hours as long as they could just watch and not be expected to perform. But the reason they don't interact isn't because they don't want to - it's because they don't consider themselves any good at it. This isn't really an introvert, in my opinion. But it is the sort of person who calls themselves an introvert that would be well matched to an extrovert.

[libsaretards]

I am an introvert and both of my exes were extroverts. I prefer extroverted women as they are also good at taking the reigns when I am not feeling very well. Also, I like alone time and do not mind them hanging out with their friends a lot during that time.

The only issue I have found with dating extroverted women is the fact that their friends often are extroverted and really want me around whenever my SO is attending one of their important events. I get that they are trying to make me feel included, but when I am not feeling well and I decline they often take it to mean something bad against them.

[KrakenAttackin]

As long as they respect each other's needs. As a definite introvert I need to recharge after a group gathering. Conversely, an extrovert needs social interaction. The two need to consciously compromise and respect each other's limitations.

[Asker]

I am an ambivert, I can equally enjoy spending time by myself and partying out and getting to know new people.

[Joshydavid25]

I remember you told me a while ago, that you liked and preferred those types of men.. Even asked me how to attract them.. 🤔🤔..

[Asker]

I do… I like him. I am not too extroverted myself, I can be both, am an ambivert

[Asker]

Thinking back… He’s exactly that kind of guy, I told you I liked back then.

He’s a serious, smart, introverted but kind and very adventurous person.

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, I remember you told me something like that too.. But that's good.. He sounds like our type of guy.. Hope it works out in the long run..

[Drew-1990]

I would say yes I'm introverted myself and I think I'm generally more drawn to extroverts but not against my fellow introverts. I think it's good to have the mix, an extrovert can bring me out of my shell and I can slow her down a little bit more and enjoy her me time a little more. At least that is the way I personally see it.

[robhazelnut]

If you talk about what he's interested in and nothing important was going on, he could talk with you all day long. Speaking from experience, introverted minds use words to convey and receive thoughts, and I suppose extroverted minds would use thoughts to convey and receive words.

[boggboss]

Depends on the couple and what considerations both make for the other as they are ultimately two vary different people

[Night_Descends]

Sure. I am an ambivert myself and have gotten pretty much well with introverted girls in my life. It just depends on the individual 😊

[LazerBean]

It can work, but they are going to have to give up more to please eachother than they would if they were more compatible.

[Anonymous]

I am mostly introverted. Being in academia , study demand a lot of time. However I am not if I want to. Girls who want to date introverted guys are rare, irrespective of their own personality. I have no problem in dating someone opposite but they have to understand my lifestyle a lot.

[NathanDavis]

yes, I've been there twice, at least... as the extrovert

with friends too

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think it could work out in some ways. It just depends on what kind of person both of you are.

[NatalieKeller95]

yes everyone either takes the lead or follows behind, an introvert is usually a better listener, and the extrovert will appreciate that, they compliment themselves in many ways,

[Anonymous]

I feel like im an introvert, extrovert ladies message me lets test it out for science purposes for this question, drop a convo in the dm's lol.

[laly520]

it could work tho it depends if they get along or not for example

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'm an introvert mostly and would rather date my own kind aka introverts. However I'm happier being the star of the show, her a far smaller star ✨

[worldscolide]

I'm an extrovert and my wife is an introvert.. We have been married 10 years.. What does that tell you?

[MsBrie]

My hubby is an introvert and I am not so yeah we do! lol

[NewgodOmega]

Humans can't get along, eventually they have be single

[LiamJHayden]

I get along fine with introverts. It just requires a balance. Crowds energize me, but usually drain an introvert.

[Yannae]

I'm sure they might become that mix in between intro and extro. Both of them.

[SunnyRS]

Not sure about how they will get along romantically but they do challenge each other in a good way keeping things fresh in a relationship.

[abbiebobabbie]

My boyfriend is definitely more of an introvert and I’m definitely more of an extrovert, but we get along great :)

[Anonymous]

I think introverted women and extroverted men get along much better.. however introverted men with an extroverted women.. he is asking to be cheated on cause that’s what those women will do.

[Yamaal]

Sometimes she calls me beautiful or she calls me the garden of love😔🥺🥺🙁

[sheikalana]

I think it's possible.

[underling]

Yes, they can

[LostandFound__x]

Yes we do. I’ve always gone for the quiet guys

[MushyKiwi]

I feel like opposites attract

[Jennz6]

I’m not sure, let me know how it turns out

[Dongie]

Opposites attract. So I guess so.

[elaphe]

They say opposites attract.

[LavLavLuv]

For me, yes

[delta7fire]

Why not