Am I not right about hating women because they wasted my youth?

Question

I am 27 and handsome guy but I have never been able to get a girlfriend until this age and I am deeply sad and mad because my youth has been wasted.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Don't let hate manifest but I agree there a ton of shitty, no good, immature, self-entitled feminist extremist brats with the slogan or moniker "women don't owe you shit" meanwhile these same girls or women want to be pampered and have a guy or man commit act of chivalry. Guys/men have a bad rep about being deadbeats and running away. I will say this, there are more western girls/women today who are divorcing at higher rates, who follow this distorted/retarded feminist ideology, are more likely to cheat, are more likely to be stubborn and arrogant and be prideful of that arrogance, less compromising, having more sex with random men/guys because of her awful direction/daddy issues and being a dead beat potential mother electing to get an abortion. Eh ladies, close your legs and don't have sex. If you point the finger at guys/men for being fuck boys and dogs, well then ladies you are no different doing the same thing, it's hypocrisy at its finest. Yes, there are fabulous wonderful girls out there in the world but it seems rare nowadays. I don't respect a girl who's slept around, I don't respect a girl who's a feminist but wants to be masculine (makes no sense), I don't a girl who has deep rooted issues where she doesn't solve her issues but hates men, I don't respect girls who are drama queens, I don't respect girls who can't give me my f-ing peace in life.

I hope a girl reads this and understands I am not some clown who identifies with a billion ideologies on the left, I am not a guy who uses all these stupid terms like alpha male, beta male and all this non-sense. Let me simplify it for you ladies-- I am a guy with a honours degree, a masters degree, a professional certificate, in shape, works out, keeps to himself, hates drama, usually keeps quiet, can be funny when I need to be, cut off stupid/toxic people out of my life, works two jobs, looking at the positives for my future which I won't name, enjoys chilling and watching the game with a plate of chicken wings. See if watching the game and eating chicken wings in my apartment brings me pleasure and comfort and peace, girls today can't live that way because they want to over obsess about dumb shit and think the worse case scenario about guys and create tension amongst her feel peers, added stress which I don't care about, that's her fault. Girls and young women have been manipulated by feminist and I wouldn't make such a bode proclamation about this if I wasn't serious but I swear on my fathers grave, on my grandmother's grave, on my grandfather's grave and to God that modern day women who act all pompous and arrogant will realize they were wrong and they will have to live with the repercussions, I guarantee that to every female reading this mark my words, y'all females know what you do behind closed doors and your ill intentions to hurt other guys, stop it! and grow up.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I suppose that it depends partly on how you look at it.

I was NOT popular. My first girlfriend was in college, and that was short lived because she cheated the whole time, and I found out early enough, luckily. I am disappointed that I wasn't cooler. I'm disappointed in the sheer number of rejections that I got. It's not ruined because my first real crush shot me down in a really nasty publicly humiliating way. It hurt like hell, it still kind of sucks looking back on it. Back then, it felt bigger than it does today, but I am disappointed. I can also somewhat laugh about some of it.

But that one rejection didn't ruin my teenage years. ALL those mean spirited rejections I got... didn't ruin my teen years. They made it less fun in many ways... but I'm stronger than that.

I'd say constant bullying by jocks (then my father) really caused a lot of damage in those years. The rejections and behavior by the girls did NOT help.

BUT - by not being attractive to girls, it saved me some heartache or annoyances or bad choices. I had more time to study. I had more time to do what I wanted. I worked and studied and practiced, which made me a better person today. The girls who I was interested in pretended (with reasonable success) to be decent girls, but were sleeping around, getting wasted, constantly getting high... but they could somehow keep it together while in school... but the second they graduated, many of them lost their minds. They either gave up trying to keep their reputation alive, or just let themselves get worse, and all that wild stuff rotted their brains... I don't know. But I do kind of have give a sigh of relief that I didn't ("couldn't") date these girls.

You can let it get to you... and let it eat you up... or... you can still be mad or frustrated, (and perhaps rightfully so), but you can let it inspire you to improve whatever situation you're in... ignore the toxic girls out there, and maybe take cooking classes, or work out, or study fashion, or learn how to talk to people, or set up a business or pick up a new hobby. And yes, talk to women. Not JUST to get a relationship or just to sleep with them (whatever your goals are)... Learn how to talk to women. But even if that doesn't get you dating in the next year, or two, or three... you're slowly improving and creating a life you might not be completely disappointed in. You might be disappointed in your teen years. But if you keep focusing on the bad stuff, you can risk having what feels like a miserable decade in your twenties, too.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I find a lot of people fall into these dreams - either to be religious - or to have a romantic encounter - or to have money so they can buy things.

The truth is, we are designed to be creatures of love and not creatures of romantic exchange. You have to work on your value system if you think marriage is the most valuable thing that life has to offer you, it's not. The love of God and the dutiful compliance to your obligations is your highest calling and purpose in life, romantic values should not exceed that goal.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not sure why you’re blaming women for not wanting to date you. Maybe you weren’t trying hard enough or you were trying way too hard.

Finchie40 · Answer

I would say they did you a favor lol

SolitarySolace · Answer

the demoralization of Boys and Men -  Mating crisis dooming the dating market -  You're right, man. I've learned after 9 years of swearing off women that I've been happier without a partner as opposed to with one. People will try to get you to think love is a good thing but women have weaponized love against men into being her slave instead of lover. I should know

ZackBan · Answer

Did the secret women syndicate lock you on an island all throughout your "youth"?

Because if no then it sounds to me like a skill issue pilot.

Hating A woman for doing something is justifiable. But Hating ALL women? That's absurd.

And it should go without saying but 27 is plenty "youthful" so maybe pull your head out of your backside, stop blaming others for what you did or didn't do, and take control of your damn life!

Otherwise known as: just go get a woman

Angelo75 · Answer

Change the circles/environments where you look for a girlfriend.

Are you used to looking for women in bars/disco's, nevermind and start looking at café.
Are you used to look in café, start looking at friend parties.
Maybe start just pursuing your hobby, and try to bump into others that also have those hobbies.

What I'm saying is... there is always gonna be good and bad choices in finding a partner. But if most of the time you've had bad experience with the outcome of the choices, well change a few variables.

Don't go pick a hobby though that you're not interested in. Be yourself but always be nice.

Cheapskate · Answer

I am sorry you feel that way. It is painful. I think it is better to take care of yourself than to worry about getting back at women who you feel have treated you unfairly. Another thing is that you can't always know whether women have secretly liked you in the past. Not everyone who likes you is gonna write a poem, some of them are just gonna be shy and walk around hoping you will ask them out.

Lynx122 · Answer

You should focus on yourself bro. I went through the same thing and I had some painful experiences but I just kept working on myself and my life and things get better and better over time. As a young man you're just at a disadvantage when it comes to dating that's how it is. But it doesn't mean you have to let that ruin the other areas of your life or your future. Once you're in your thirties things start to look different. But only if you put effort into yourself.

Raaj4you · Answer

It's not your mistake. Both men / women have higher expectations these days. Lower your expectations if you want to date seriously leading to wedding, then you'll find a good match.

If you want to hookup then you can do it with any type of girl.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I mean... I kind of doubt that women wasted that much of your time, and anyway; you're still pretty young. Also, the kind of women who waste time like that tend to be such boring people. They just aren't interesting to interact with.

I would recommend taking a break from dating and focusing your time and energy on things that make you happy. There are lots of other, more interesting things you can do with your day than worry about timewasters

OddBeMe · Answer

Most likely you’re not right to blame all the women.

But feelings are feelings. I blame whole groups all the time too. Serisously tho, having good self awareness is important.

What are you doing different now that you weren’t then? Because women haven’t changed.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

The fact you let this live rent free in your head even though you claim you are now handsome and don't have an issue getting one now is petty and pathetic.

I would say you are full of it and are still single and bitter.

DaisyM23 · Answer

nothing warrants hating a whole gender, aka half the population, just because you haven't found a girlfriend - the fact you're hating like this speaks more about you than the women you've liked

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

You're obviously not the prize you think you are and if you keep doing what you're doing, you're going to keep getting the same results.

Paul09 · Answer

I feel you. But no reason to be depressed over it. Just do the things you love to do. Always work on upgrading yourself.

normalice · Answer

Sounds like they actually had nothing at all to do with your youth.

DextroShade · Answer

You are right to be angry, because if you were born in a previous generation you would probably already have a wife. Hoeflation is real and you are experiencing the consequences.

Arav210 · Answer

Don’t spend money nor love nor time on others than on urself because rest of the people would not recognise what u have done and all the time u wasted on them but would just call you a loser if u didn’t make the best use of ur time earlier.

LiamJHayden · Answer

There are four billion women on the planet. Blaming "women" for what some did is kind of silly when considered in that way.

zagor · Answer

Why was your youth wasted? I don't consider times when I didn't have a girlfriend as wasted time.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah because everything is a guy's responsibility or another way to put it women are the reward but men have to do the work or men have to do work in order to get a reward

Anonymous · Answer

You are in the right here, but does that mean you have a girlfriend now.

jahaims · Answer

You are blaming others for your own faults

Lokiion · Answer

You weird for even thinking this way

Dou1994 · Answer

It is not wasted… you just need experience.

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