Would you date two people at the same time?

[Anonymous]

I am kind of doing that, will have two second dates this week.

[Finchie40]

Yes, I have dated 5 girls’ at the same time once lol , Mainly because I wasn’t looking to rush into a relationship with anyone , and I was honest with all of them. Dating to me meansyou are single and mingling , having fun , while getting to know one another with no strings attached. When a girl asks me if I am single? , I say yes I am , but I am dating and nothing serious yet. Basically letting her know that I am not serious with anyone at this point in my life leaving her a choice on whether she wants to continue dating me or move on. So as long as you are honest with them that’s all that matters

[NathanDavis]

I've never done that, not a serial dater here... but still, usually... when I am interested on someone, I don't even think of others... I just naturally focus on that one, lol

[Asker]

What’s wrong with getting to know two-three people and picking the most suitable candidate later as you get to know them closer?

[NathanDavis]

I don't think it's wrong...

I just have never done it... whether coincidence or luck, I end up with the "right one" and go straight to it

[Account]

Sis, I can't even stand one, let alone two.

Anyway, I am unable to do that because so far in all those years I have lived, only one person interests me at time and even that only happens once in a blue moon (actually even more rarely) .

[mandyfire98]

Just in the talking stage and not exclusive yet? Yeah I've done it.

[Asker]

Yes, I think that’s normal. I don’t know why all people say no.

[mandyfire98]

I mean what happens if the date doesn't workout or you get ghosted with a date and now you've lost the other person completely. Now you're down 2 dates. Nothing wrong with options. You are looking for someone you're going to probably be in a relationship with after all. You want that person to be the best for you.

[Asker]

Yep, if one doesn’t work out, it’s always a good idea to have a 2nd or a 3rd one around 😁

[mandyfire98]

Why not. You're not exclusive yet.

[Asker]

Exactly.

Why’s that so many people oppose this idea though?

[mandyfire98]

I think because maybe they're hoping that the first date will be instant relationship. Which is statistically not likely to happen. Also some people fear the thought they might have to be compared to others. Fear of competing with others. Lack of confidence maybe.

[Amur8711]

So is it okay I am talking to 3 girls? All long distance, haven't meet them in person yet.

[JHAYES317]

@mandyfire98 fear of competing is not the right word. I’m just not interested in competition period or trying hard to impress anyone…if a girl doesn’t want to be with me for me she can be with someone else…I refuse to do a whole song and dance routine

[mandyfire98]

Fair enough but there's nothing wrong with wanting to find the best person for you personally. Not settling for whatever comes first or easiest. Relationships are serious so serious choices should be made. Not desperate ones.

[AviatorTom]

I have occasionally dated two women at the same time, but it's not my preference. I prefer concentrating on one at a time. It gets confusing otherwise.

[Massageman]

When I was a teen- back in the 1960's- you dated many people as a means to find the person who was best fit to be your (eventual) spouse. Once you narrowed it down to one person, then you were "exclusive" or "dating steady". I've given up trying to figure out what's going on lately.

[Asker]

Same here, I think dating just one person makes you too focused on them, why give up on other people before you are confident you want to be exclusive?

[Massageman]

Yup! :- )

[katelynbrown123]

Me personally I wouldn't but that has got to be stressful to do. Are they both serious or are they just little flings?

[Asker]

Both seriously interested

[Still-alive]

I would but the minute you become exclusive with anyone of them thats when you must drop the others. but just in the dating non exclusive phase i don't see an issue. you probably shouldn't tell the person you're dating about it though.

[Asker]

Yep, if I reach to the point of exclusivity I’ll stay loyal.

[laly520]

nope

I only focus on one date, one person

[BadApple69]

Yea…. Kind of seeing two girls now but the one is a distance away so I don’t see her very much. It’s interesting too… they are polar opposites. I guess variety is the spice of life.

[IslaTheWitch]

no... I prefer to focus on one person and give them my full attention... it's also matter of respect for me

[itsclearlynicholas]

Have you ever casted any spell?

[KrakenAttackin]

@islathewitch. Agreed 💯.

[FunkyMonkee]

That's what dating is for! You go out with several people you might like and see which one suits you best and drop the ones that don't. eventually, you narrow it down to just the one choice. At that point, you're going steady. This will eventually (if you're lucky) lead into a proposal, then marriage then a baby carriage. Then, your kids get to go through all of that in about a dozen years.

[PeachyPie93]

Nah I never done that. I guess I talk to lots of people and when I find someone I like, I try to focus on that one person until it doesn't work out.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, that's too exhausting for me. I need to focus on one at a time.

[motownplayer2000]

No. And I would expect the girl I’m with to be upfront and honest if they were. That would be a disqualifiers for me. I would respectful decline any other interaction. If she wants to get to know me im pretty sure a girl would feel some type of way if she knew after our date with her, I went out with a girl right after her or the day after and then went home with that girl and was still dating her.

[Asker]

Come on… It’s just the first couple dates. It’s not like we are dating exclusively already.

[motownplayer2000]

Doesn’t matter. With a girl being asked out by multiple men at any given point in a day.. you can give a guy your undivided romantic/intimate attention. By the second or third date you would realize if you want to do longterm with him or not.. so yeah, I’d expect a couple weeks of that or you can move on to someone that will accept that

[slatyb]

Yes, and if they asked I would tell them. There's nothing wrong with it. Probably a good idea to meet as many prospects as you can.

[dustybiker2]

If I had found two good men, yes. I would let them each know though. Doubt I would have slept with them both.

[Anonymous]

Sure. Two second dates in the same week is no biggie. There's no way you can expected to go exclusive after one date!

[Asker]

Exactly. I am weirded out people here say they would not do that.

[Opinion Owner]

I've done it and I have to say, it takes a lot of pressure off knowing that you have another date lined up. Makes it easier to just relax and go with the flow.

[Asker]

Agreed.

[Kelly6]

@LaFemmeFatale_1 yes I would and have done it,

it’s totally normal

[PBandJ_Nerd]

No. I'd feel that'd be too much. One person at a time is better. Plus, then if I fall in love, it can't be 2 people at the same time. Might not happen, but you never know what's possible. lol

[Grond21]

I would go on dates with two people, but not pursue two people simultaneously

[Anonymous]

I started dating someone who was dating someone else for at that point two months. We went on four dates got a free meal from me, went on a date with the other guy and would sleep with him. The Fourth one I went to her place and saw his stuff there and other stuff. I left. Was gross to me thinking she slept with him now I get his seconds 🤢.

[WhitneySnow]

No. Terrible idea. UNLESS I met them at the same time and hadn’t decided which one I liked better yet. Then it’s ok, but only for a little while.

[sawno]

I prefer one at a time, but I don't rule it out either when I for example attend a speed dating event and end up matching with 2 girls.

[normalice]

If they were also dating each other, sure.

[Asker]

Why would they date each other?

[normalice]

If they were bi and into each other, I suppose,
The jist of it is I don't like sneaking so I could only really date two people if they knew about each other. And it seems like the only way to do that such that they aren't competing for my time is if they are alo dating each other,

[Asker]

I’d not want to have their attention divided from me.

[normalice]

Oh? It would seem fair since yours is divided from theirs.

[Asker]

I know it would be fair… But I can’t help how I feel about it.

[normalice]

Understandable. I suppose it is only how I feel about fairness, after all.

[exitseven]

I had a year when I sort of was a jerk. I did date more than one girl at a time. I thought i was really cool to be doing that. Looking back I was just being an asshole.

[KostasKouvalis]

No way! That sounds like trouble waiting to happened. You'll only end up not getting either of them.

[Asker]

From my experience not focusing on one man works better.

[KostasKouvalis]

Someone's gonna get their feelings hurt

[KostasKouvalis]

Are both of them aware that you're going on dates with someone else?

[Asker]

They haven’t asked.

[KostasKouvalis]

Oh lord. Someone's gonna get their feelings hurt

[moneymagnet24]

Absolutely having backup plan it's not a crime.. I'm dating 3 girls as of now.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes if we're just dating sure why not but if I was in something serious then no I wouldn't

[SolitarySolace]

Back when I used to date, no. I was monogamous. I prefer to be single now and can’t see myself in a relationship again.

[Cheapskate]

I honestly feel like it would be too much stress

[Princesspd]

Yes I have done it. I also sleep with more than one person at the same time.

[Agape93]

Sure, because everyone involved has agreed to it in advance

[sheikalana]

No, that sounds exhausting to me. I either give the best of me to one person of I give nothing at all.

[Theworldislost]

No, and I would avoid a woman if I knew she was doing this.

[Anonymous]

I believe in monogamy so I wouldn't do that. Plus I feel like it would be a headache trying to date more than one person at the same time.

[OtterMan68]

that's cheating unless both know and are OK with sharing you

[Asker]

It’s just a 2nd date with both of them, how’s that cheating?

[OtterMan68]

oh, I misunderstood. I took "dating" to mean you are going out regularly with them.

[Asker]

No, I mean just simple meeting up as for dates. I don’t even know if I’ll like to go on a 3rd date with them. I think because of cultural differences we use the word dating in different ways.

[Anonymous]

And this is why there are trust issues and people are afraid to date because of people like you.
How would you like to find out your date also dates a few more girls and you're one of his many options?

[Hanrej]

I have but prefer to date one at a time. My taste is quite peculiar so when I find a match I prefer to give her all my attention.

[DrPepper12]

If it's casual and non exclusive why not? If they ask be honest. No big deal.

[Dongie]

Not in hiding it from them. That would be cheating.

[tierrlamé]

Yeah of course as long as I'm not in a relationship

[Raaj4you]

Yes I would love to. What if I am in love with two girls at the time? What if I want to marry both of them?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If I had the time, yes to get to know them. But no dating sexually though, just talking.

[Jennz6]

I’m now dating two people

[Jennz6]

@LaFemmeFatale_1 one is a guy and the other is my girlfriend

[CocacolaGirl1993]

Depends if it’s courting part when your still looking sure.

[Terrancemille76]

No it is wrong and horrible to treat anyone like that

[MsBrie]

Im a monogomist so no.

[Asker]

I’m a monogamist too

[goebenbreslau]

is there anyone not doing this

[eagle1951]

have done that once or twice

[blkgold33]

No that much time and money for me to do that shit

[DaveJord]

@blkgold33 I agree with this. Even if I had the time, who can afford it.

[LaurenM1997]

No that’s being promiscuous

[LaurenM1997]

I only date one person

[LaurenM1997]

@melanie31hi

[worldscolide]

No, I don't do casual dating or casual sex.

[VV3ZZY123]

Sure would

[LavLavLuv]

Nope

[Ironic_Method]

My wife and I date together if that counts.

[Booklover_90]

No. That’d be too overwhelming for me.

[JHAYES317]

Nah that’s polyamory, not into that.

[handsomelad70]

Can't see myself doing it.

[Pterodon]

I have and it didn’t work for me.

[shortster]

I wouldn't mind doing that

[RedInnocent69]

Been there, done that.

[Nifrayu]

I would.

[Anonymous]

That's pathetic! I'll never do that