When I started dating my friends encouraged me to do this but I didn't and lied to them that I was. I thought it was wrong and thought how I'd feel if someone did that too me.
I did actually plan on doing it at first but I planned on being honest about it. I got asked on a date and then another guy asked me on a date too on the same day I told him he'd have to wait because I'd already promised another guy I'd see him that day. He instantly stopped messaging me after I told him this which was a real shame because the boy I did go on a date with was trash and the other guy who ignored me after I told him was really sweet and kind.
After that I learnt that's not how you go about dating. I was on tinder so I was talking to more than one guy but as soon as I went on my first successful date I deleted the app and only dated this one guy safe to say 3 years later we are still very happy with each other
As long as you're open and honest about it, there's nothing wrong with it. Ultimately, we're all dating because we want to meet that special someone with whom we connect with. Done respectfully, and taking into account the dating ethics, there shouldn't be any problems with dating multiple people at a given time.
It's never ok. Why more people are excepting it and engaging in it is beyond me. I like commitment. If someone is not committed to me, then I will no longer committ to them. Why does there have to be more than one person? I guess people decided that instead of finding one person they enjoy being around and can stand for the rest of their life, they decided to gather as many people as they could that all represent what they like in a partner so they don't have to be mad because if one partner doesn't do what I want, then I can get in from the other... That's trucked up
I'm assuming you mean going out on dates with more than one person at a time where sex DOES NOT follow. If that's the case, then you basically have to in today's dating world. Not doing so is setting yourself up for despair if/when it doesn't work out. Choose from among several people.
What I do not suggest is having sex with a different person every night. Doctors would advise against that for the STI risk alone lol
That's a common misconception. You can research it yourself, but it's anything but foolproof. There's a reason doctors suggest people still get tested even while using condoms and such. If you stay with one person who's clean, no worries. But each new partner increases your risks and is not recommended. And doctors recommend being tested more often the more partners you have per month.
No I would not. People aren't just "options", they're people with feelings,and I don't play with people's feelings. Dating multiple people is only thinking about your wants/needs and not the other people involved and theirs..
I say it's okay to go on multiple first or second dates after that you should do your pick. Note that I say dates not hookups or hanging with a person. Those things can be done indefently so never expect a result from them. So don't do them if you want a serious relationship.
People can do what they like. Personally I’d not take a man serious if he was involved with other women. I’d tell him it was nice meeting him but that’s the end and I’d find someone who just wants to get to know me and see where things go and not be chatting up other women. How can you get to know me or bond with me if you’re talking to other people. I’m a one man kinda gal
Sure if I am even lucky enough to find even one girl that is a miracle. And its not a marriage proposal. It has to start as friends. I don't expect me to suddenly become the center of her world. Or visa versa. I wouldn't even mind taking them out together. I like groups. They might even go home together after dumping me at my door.
I do like groups. They keep things light, entertaining, safe and full of options.
If you let both/all parties know then yes. If you don't tell them that you're seeing other people at first then that is fairly deceptive in my eyes. You might as well be honest with them, as its not a good foundation to start a relationship like that.
polyamory and it's normal and not uncommon. Why restrict your partner to just yourself? That's a huge responsibly. Not everyone experiences jealousy or is bothered by it.
Not tryna recruit anyone to the church of poly lol just don't Wana see polyamory or any means of love being used to dehumanize people
That is a tough one. Right now I cannot talk about the situation with the web and long distance relationships so I have no room to feel its wrong and I feel I am doing wrong. Now dating several people not at a distance but close would be difficult. I swore that when I had some one here in my life not in my phone I would put down social media and my phone.
I did in my dating years. It sucked when the girls who liked dating me werent the ones i wanted to be with. But it allowed me to find what i wanted rather than settle for whatever came along and hoping it worked. When I got serious then i cut off the free dating.
When I met women on dating sites they always had lots of men they knew. In case one didn't work out they had someone else. I only knew one woman at a time. So if that didn't work out I had nothing. I tried dating two women but I didn't like it. I got them confused and would ask, "How is your Mom doing?" and she would be offended because her Mom died last year. Oops, I got her confused with another girl.
I go into a relationship with the expectation of exclusivity. What I’m aiming for in dating is marriage, so needless to say, talking to other guys while dating me sets a bad precedent for the future of our relationship. If I were to find that the woman I’m dating was talking with someone else, I’d let the other guys have her on the spot, but only after I let the other guy know what’s up.
I won’t do anything sexual with someone until we’re in a exclusive relationship either for moral reasons. Also won’t date others if I’m in an exclusive relationship already for moral reasons. But I may see other people on the side if I’m not in an exclusive relationship at the time. Yet I would make sure to tell those I was seeing that there are others if any.
As long as the other people you are dating know you are dating multiple people at the same time then there is nothing wrong with it. Its only wrong when you lie to the other people or try to hide it from them.
it is technically not wrong , but you have no reason to be upset if someone u dated decided to not go out with u anymore when they found out about it as for me , dating should be fun , dating multiple people seems need a lot of works and effort , which means not fun to me
I have in the past but I will say this; the second I met the right one I wanted to date nobody else so maybe there is no hope for any if you are happy to date multiples and none of them are the right guy?
There are a couple meanings of dates, a casual relationship with no sexual component, and a sexual one, if it's not sexual, then playing the field, to get to know someone as a friend. Then that's perfectly okay, as long as you are open about your friendship.
Only if everyone involved knew. But I wouldn't be the type to do that. Because it could make the encounters less genuine if there's a sense of competition.
Thanks. And yeah, I really wouldn't want it to turn into a dangerous ego battle. I wouldn't want someone to feel like my choice is due to their innate value being lower than it actually is/can be perceived. But many instinctually do that. And because of that, people might wanna get physical & harm others. It can be a mess! Not a fan of love triangles at all because of the nature of the ego, our instinctual need to climb the dominance hierarchy, how we handle stress, etc.
It might be OK for some. Personally I can't understand how a person can split their attentions like that. One woman takes all my focus. I wouldn't want to try more than one. I mean to me it's real simple. You're either "just friends" with someone or you're not. And if you're not how can you justify it. TO YOURSELF, let alone them. I wouldn't want to be with a woman who could.
To be honest I think it depends on your end goal do you want to get married? Kids? Any of it? If it's not you're cup of tea be open and honest. But if it is and you just don't feel that connection don't waste their time and yours. It only leads to pain and heart ache that no one wants in the end
No, at least not seriously dating. If you go on multiple first dates at a time I feel like that's OK, but further than that and I feel like that's disrespecting the other person who probably isn't seeing anyone else, and would only serve to sew distrust early on in your relationship (s)
Umm well if there is a commitment , you shouldn't , even if you are not committed but the other partner is, he deserves the truth. But if there is a casual relationship from both ends , then definitely you can as the basic essence of dating is to explore options.
If that's what someone wants to do then sure. I'd imagine it would be difficult to do the longer it went on. Depends on the persons Intentions but giving one priority over the other would have to happen at some point
Well. Not simultaneously. 😉 And of course no sexual techniques like Kissing the mouth. Bit it's good to See the pros and cons of different women to See which suits more. Especially compare the behaviour of them in the same situation.
I would never, nor would I be with someone who did!! I feel if your honest to all parties about it and they are okay with it then I guess? I honestly think it’s wrong!!
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