Is it ok to date more than one person at the same time?

Im dating three girls at the moment. I've been on coffee dates with all three of them. I've stayed over at one of the girls houses where we kissed fondled each other and slept in each others arms for the night, but no sex. Im not sure about how i feel towards the three of them at the moment. Is it ok for me to date multiple girls at the same time?


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  • Until you decide a stronger bond with one it's ok. And as long as your honest with them before having sex.

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  • Following your words... Coffee dates? plural for each lady. well my ninja your are a legend for dates!!!
    OK so Your a serial dater. There's nothing is wrong with this unless your only "serial dating" small difference. Finding someone or finding someone for the night. Nobody you deem as just potential is entitled to your honesty or attention. When it comes to your actions only you should morally be in control. With that being said, I'm going tell you something others won't. do's and don't s
    Don't tell anyone anything.
    Potential can be very dangerous.
    In my opinion Honesty only works for people you already know.
    so why tell someone who's is only " potential" your seeing other people? can you be positive you'll be given the same honesty?
    be wary, Your Dealing with a sensitive yet beautiful creature lol.
    If your able serial dater , most likely she or another is doing it too.
    its always good to keep options, till we find out we're one. That's when things get wild.
    Ok, so out of these three ladies.. If your not spreading one of these ladies like cream cheese on a bagel I. E ( gettin busy ) etc with in 3-5 days, you should move on my ninja!!! Stop wasting time. If she let you spend the night and you didn't try harder to stretch your noddle brain. I'd keep it moving. I've experienced this situation a few times. i lost out of a lot of good bad decisions.

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  • So like, I dated four guys until I got my boyfriend. It's no big deal.

    I mean, if you haven't agreed to be exclusive with them, it's no problem. Like sleeping with all of them would be kinda gross, but dates and stuff? What's the big deal?

    It's an efficient way to find a new relationship, and as long as you're honest, no harm. Just if you agree to be exclusive with someone, you have to dump the others cuz two-timing is pretty low. :)

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    • Exactly, you dont know who you're going to be compatible with until you meet them. Plus it saves a lot of time in the long run.

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    • @DanReynolds
      So like, I know where you're going with this.

      No, I didn't pay for the dates. Know why? Cuz in real life, guys usually get offended if you offer, don't let you when you do, or just insist on paying cuz they want to make the girl feel special. I know that online it's a bitter source of disagreement and a source of anger for guys, but for guys who are ACTUALLY dating, it doesn't seem to be a problem. They seem to take pride in it.

      Honestly, I know a lot of girls who get frustrated because their dates don't let them pay, so the girl feels crappy cuz she doesn't feel like she's contributing. That is FAR more common in my experience than a guy being upset cuz the girl didn't offer or pay for herself.

      And on the rare occasion when there's a guy who wants the girl to contribute, it's usually cuz he's broke from underemployment or has a bad attitude towards women in general and is trying to prove a point of some kind by sticking it to her.

    • Most guys hate paying but do it out of social preassure and feeling less a man if they dont.
      Also if the guy lets the girl psy the girl usually thinks less of him.

  • It's perfectly fine as long as you make it clear for each and every one of them that you're not exclusive and that you might be seeing other people. That way they know what's up and you won't be held accountable for any possible hurt feelings.
    People who get offended because of the fact that some people like to keep their options open when dating, shouldn't even be dating in the first place. The whole point of dating is that
    1. You're not exclusive
    2. You're just getting to know each other to see if you're compatible romantically/sexually
    3. You're allowed to see other people and drop anyone you're dating at any given time if you're not into them

    ^ those are the general rules. Then of course you should make it clear for the people you're dating that you're seeing others. Obviously it's bad to give them the impression of being exclusive, that would be deceitful.

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  • You are Not tied down Here, dear, to Anyone, hun. Go Slow, Joe. Nurse and Nurture Something that could be a Potential Special Something.
    However, don't Open up a Smelly can of worms by any of these girls Finding about the other One. This could be a big No Catch, where you End up Alone at Home.
    If you do Find that One is the One, drop the other Two from You.
    Good Luck. xx

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  • Well, If i was one of those girls, trust me... I would be furious.. media.giphy.com/media/CmZ5FXzzFfOy4/giphy.gif
    and dump your arse...

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  • If they all know about it, there's no problem.

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  • You aren't in an actual relationship yet, you can date how many you want until you make it official with someone. Can't see anything wrong in speeding up the process a little. Of course it's still not something you should brag about in front of your dates lol

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  • Depends. Do they know you are dating other women? Are they the type of women that are comfortable with this method of dating? Or would they be upset if they found out they weren't the only one? I think as long as you aren't sexual it's alright but once you start having sex you need to be more careful. MOST women want a relationship if you are having sex. Also it's possible they might suspect you are seeing other people but are afraid to ask and you don't want to mention it. But if you are lying about it that's not ok. Also if you sense one of them is becoming more into you and ready to move things further than you are at this time then don't string her along while you try to figure shit out. Either let her go or let the others go. It's not fair to play with people's emotions.

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    • Also it's possible to have sex with someone, be exclusive but not have a full fledged relationship yet. There is a difference between saying "You are the person I am focused on for the time being" to "You are the person I can see myself with years down the road". Why people think they have to make things 'official' and have a 'relationship' to be exclusive is beyond me. Modern dating I guess...

  • If you haven't made it official with anyone yet, then yes it's okay to date them all. Seeing other people only becomes wrong if you're in a relationship. You're just hanging out with them right now. I wouldn't lead them along for too long though. I'm not saying make a hasty decision, but at least one of them is going to ask you the big question: "What are we?"

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  • I think that as long as they know you don't be immediately exclusive there is nothing wrong with that. I would say its wrong if you make 3 girls feel they're currently the only ones and then they find out they're not. But if you're honest about it, I don't see it as a bad thing.

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  • I'd say for me personally, no. I wouldn't be OK dating likethat.

    But everyone is different

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  • No that shits not cool.

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  • I guess it's technically okay, but the sooner you narrow it down to one girl the better (if you even like any of them enough to want to be with them). Going back and forth between people is not only tiring, but it is difficult. If it goes on for too long then they might get upset. If you don't see yourself being in a relationship with one then narrow it down.

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  • I am against that

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  • Would you feel comfortable knowing they were dating other guys? If you can answer this then follow your own admission.

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  • It is not.

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  • No. Its trashy. Stick to one, and if it doesn't work then move to the next. If you don't wanna be trashy that is.

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    • Is it ok to keep messaging them and only meeting one to see how things go. If things dont turn out well then start meeting the next one?

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    • yeah that's true^

    • damn girl you're super gorgeous 😍 no homo 😂

  • If you haven't give any of them the title of girlfriend then its not wrong. Its better to not put all your emotions on 1 person in case they abandon you. Keep your options open but stay decent.

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  • Its fine if they're fine eith it. They might not approve of you dating other women.

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  • yes, as long as you haven't committed to a relationship with any of them

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  • Are you planning to get in a serious relationship with all three? If not you shouldn't lead the others on.
    Also how would you feel if they were getting frisky with other guys well you were dating them?

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  • I personally think it is wrong.

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  • I honestly wouldn't recommend it. Besides the fact it might be considered cheating, you might catch feelings for multiple people and end up making you choose between 2 people you really care about which I a really hard thing to do. Plus when you start to date only one person the other might have fallen in love with you which means you'd end up breaking their heart and start having trust issues.

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  • As long as nothing is official, sure. Just be honest and don't lie if confronted. If you're not in an official monogamous relationship then go for it.

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  • Yes totally okay.
    Just don't lead them on, that's a dick move.

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  • All is fair in love and war.

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  • Of course its a good idea! Never put all your eggs in one basket. Just don't sleep with all of them haha.

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  • I think that is ok because you are single.
    After you get to know the girls and you start having feelings for one of the (deeper feelings) and the girl wants to be in a serious relationship then yea, that's when you stop talking with the other girls...
    If you don't have deep feelings but you feel comfortable around one girl, and she is super awesome and you can see yourself being her boyfriend is also a good decision.
    Make sure that the girls won't hunt you down because they feel that you cheated, some girls tend to fall in love very quick, make sure you are not giving the girls that you don't plan on seeing in the future the wrong vibe. :)
    I feel like dating is pretty cool and until you find the right one enjoy your freedom. Just don't be a heart breaker (doing it intentionally)

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  • Its called polyamory (the art of being a hoe or fukboy, but this time, being open about it/proud).

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  • It's ok if you are honest with them and keep them up to date with everything. As in, tell them that you are single and currently seeing other girls. It's up to them if they want to continue dating you or not.
    If u do decide to get serious with one of the girls, let the other girls know.

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  • Yes, as long as you are honest and transparent about it. It's called polyamory, and there's a lot of information on line about it.

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  • It's ok to go on dates with multiple people, but I wouldn't say it's ok to be dating multiple people if they're under the impression that y'all are monogamous.

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  • As long as your not sleeping together, or everyone knows what is going on, it isn't cheating. But should you? Some people can do this. I was someone that never did my whole life. Even with my mother telling me to "date everyone". My therapist urged me to give it a try. I did, and it was a freaking disaster. I felt like such a piece of shit. It was just nerve wracking. I never remembered what I told which one, I couldn't keep them straight, etc... I went on two dates with each one before I just gave up on one and concentrated on the one I was most attracted to. I had decided that was going to be my limit going in. Once we got to the "sex" date, I wasn't going to screw both because to me, that is cheating.

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  • Nothing wrong with this at ALL! You're playing the field as a single person, as u should be.

    Think of it like this: if you were casually dating each woman separately and exclusively, it would take a LOT more time, than dating all three at the same time.

    Dating multiple people casually at once, is the best way to find a match. :)

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    • P. S. understand that the woman, is also probably dating multiple guy as well

  • If you're going to date several people at the same time, you should be honest with them about it. You should also wait with the sex and the mouth kissing until you're stuck with one in my opinion.

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  • Absolutely nothing wrong with dating several girls at once. You have to assume they're doing it too so it's silly to put all your eggs in one basket - dating is and always will be, a numbers game.

    One point though, while you don't have to outright tell them... if the question comes up, you should not lie to any of them about it.

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  • I've done and made sure all knew that I was dating other girls as well and had no problems other than trying to remember what piece of info belongs to what girl... shit's
    hard

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  • Dating is like applying to colleges. You always have safety school in case you don't get your first choice.

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  • as long you aren't exclusive then sure it's fine to date multiple people.

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  • No it is not.
    Let me ask u this?
    U fine with ur fine having 3 husbands?
    If yes then u need to go see a psychologist.
    If not then u should treat people the way u expect to be treated

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    • We're not married. I've literally only know these girls for two weeks

    • I know u r not married I am asking u. If u love someone u are fine wth another guy to o date her kiss her ask her out and sleep with her or even marry her so she got 2 husbands?

      Now same logic applies here girls don't want to share u with other girl they want u to be there's. Otherwise they would google 3 some escort services

  • I find women who date multiple guys and who have sex with them till they find the one completely thrshy and slutty...

    I wouldn't want to be even around a women like that... Sorry I would date one women and if it doesn't work out then move on but not date multiple

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  • Dating 2 or more people at the same time is okay. But closeness and body contact should be avoided. And even sex should be avoided. Dating multiple partners enables you to choose the right partner , but before having sex or even sleeping on their bed without doing sex , should be done only when you have narrowed down to one partner of your choice.

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  • Yes, you should try to meet many girls before you settle down with one. It's ok to date three or seven or seventeen as long as you aren't making false promises.

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  • No, that is pretty fucked up emotionally, even without sex. By the third date, you should have chosen one and let the others go.

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  • The girl to the far left in the pink looks like she admires him, or is jealous of him.
    The girl next to her in the black looks like she is about to slap the shit out of him for looking at the girl in the pink
    The girl in the middle looks like she is questioning her life decisions
    The girl next to her in the black looks like she's on her phone and has no idea what's going on
    And the girl to the far right looks like she is going to kill him whenever she gets a chance

    I doubt any of these women are dating that man seriously

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  • There already many guys that do want go through the dating process and rather just jump into the relationship or just get to know her instead, but without the dating. The fact that means can mean dating other people, its just another excuse for guys not to want to date first.

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  • Personally, I don't believe what you're doing is right. Someone should focus on one and if it doesn't work move on. Don't do multiple at once

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  • Why wouldn't you? It's silly to put all ones eggs in 1 basket. As long as there's no commitment then everyone is free to do as they wish, why commitment is best avoided.

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  • I'd advise against it. Even if you end up liking one over the other two, that just means you didn't give two of them a fair chance. And if finding real, lasting love is the meaning of life then you may have just lost that to ego.

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  • People who mess with multiple women or screw around with women without being in a relationship have absolutely no self value. They should rot in hell.

    They are the result of bad parenting. Stupid idiots like you are worth dirt.

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  • As long as everyone involved is in agreement (or that they even know), there's no problem. Keeping something like this in the shadows just won't go well.

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  • Moral wise, it is not ok, but to be honest, you don't know who you are compatible with until you try to be with different people. I think you can have coffee with them but don't do kisses and fondling. At least you are not having sex with all of them that's the good part.

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  • To be honest, i wish i was in your shoes... dating mulitple girls at once is a dream for me. but to answer your question, it sounds like there's nothing serious at all. just be ready when a serious question comes up and you are responsible to answer them on your own. so its okay.

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  • Which one makes you smile, do you see her making you happy 6 months from now. Be decisive, dont play with their feelings, choose 1 rather learn from loss than become known as a player.

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  • Nope, in my experience, it is not worth it. When i date i do it with purpose.

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  • Is it OK? I don't know.
    I would not do it.

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  • If you're not committed to any of them, then yes it's perfectly fine

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  • 0. just be playful witty romantic naughty flirty etc. rather than going physical going on bed with them

    1. how would you feel if they also doing the same

    2. beware you may get std/hiv/hcv or like things

    3. & above all try to get "your one" from many, only with her you will enjoy fully everything

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  • Yes it is. As long as the understanding of it is mutual and not exclusive. Back decades ago it would be a different story but now a days it seems there is more dating but not as many relationships.

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  • I say no personally. As far as I'm concerned I'm exclusive from the first date. I'm not okay with the person I'm dating seeing a bunch of people. And that's how I feel about that.

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  • No.. This is bad..
    All that you looking forward is putting yourself in messy situations...
    Stick to ONE

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