Why do men and women think they are irreplaceable?

[Anonymous]

as if there isn't someone out here that can do the same if not more than what they do? lol

[Anonymous]

As a man I learned a long time ago that I am not special just for existing. There was one break up in particular that I had about 10 years ago where my ex talked to me like I was less then human at the end. Not to say I was the greatest boyfriend at the time because I wasn’t. But I didn’t cheat or abuse her and the way she talked to me should have been reserved for a guy who did that bs and I didn’t.

I am only valuable for:

• the “feel good” feelings a woman gets from my presence. The feel good emotions
• if I can meet her sexual needs.
• if I have money and can provide for her
• if I have status and by association she can benefit from it
• if I can meet her “emotional needs” and pass her shit testing.

Not to say a woman should be forced to date and/or stay married to a man she’s not happy with (or vice versa). But you can still respect someone even if you don’t have feelings for them anymore. But too many women think likeability = respect.

Here’s a recent story about a woman leaving her husband because by her words “he’s too perfect”. Really what man could get away with saying this bs? Really? https://punchng.com/kakas-ex-wife-denies-saying-she-divorced-footballer-for-being-perfect/?amp

There are rare instances when men self sabotage good relationships. I (semi) did this once and sorely regretted it. But I knew I was replaceable both back the and now. I didn’t flat out say crap like this. We know it’s incredibly stupid to say something like this.

This is why men are best of not listening to women when it comes to dating and relationships. And women have gotten a louder voice in modern society which is leaving men only more angry and confused. Because what they really “want” is constantly changing.

[RebelinSteel]

I think because if we did accept that we would have to face the reality 24/7, not a great thing for mental health. A bit like at your job, there is someone that can do it better and could get recruited tomorrow, getting up every morning and wondering if you have a job or not would be mentally draining.

[Asker]

yeah but people lie to themselves too often lol

[Asker]

and dont be realistic

[RebelinSteel]

Reality sucks, you have say 40 years left to live, you have a high chance of developing cancer, and or dementia. In about 10 or so years you will hit your menopause (yeah it varies a lot).
I know I have a fairly high chance of being killed in next few years, I accept it but don’t think on it. Yes I do lie to myself on how the dice will role.
Life is full of Could Happens, we just remain positive and shove them to the side,
Let’s face it, we get born, we live our lives, we die and become worm food or ashes, that’s it there is nothing else.

[HollyK21]

In most cases it’s because at some point in time, someone was treating them like they were irreplaceable.


Let’s think about our friends (whether you’re still in contact or not) who kept taking so and so back after they lied, cheated, ghosted, or whatever else. Even if you haven’t witnessed this with friends or go through it yourself, at some point in time you're going to encounter a man or woman who just can’t seem to let go of a certain somebody no matter what they do.


It’s no surprise that the people being put on pedestals and taken back time after time start to feel like they must really be something great.

[Asker]

im just trying to tell my bestfriend that she thinks this way but is getting used right in her face time and time again

[HollyK21]

She thinks she’s irreplaceable to the guy but is being used?

[Asker]

yes ma'am money, food, and she thinks because she cheated and he took her back like she is a prize i hate to talk about her in this way its because she always brags to me about this and i just tell her do u really think he's not seeing someone else or doing something else she says no but he disappears lol

[HollyK21]

My advice? Detach yourself from her ranting, wish her well with that situation and don’t entertain talking about it. I’ve been best friends with a very similar personality woman for nearly 16 years now. She’s had that same dynamic with a guy that your friend has for about 5 years now, and I really just had to wash my hands of it. I don’t advise her on him anymore, steer the topic in another direction when it comes up or I just zone out while she says what she’s dying to say about what he bought or whatever, then move on. The thing is, WE know (as in you and me lol). This is not a relationship to brag about, money does not make up for the bullshit or the flaws. She cheated, he knows that and will never fully commit again. Her story will be much different when he finds someone else and when that time comes (because it always does), hopefully she’s just as eager to rant about that.

[HollyK21]

Don’t waste any more time trying to “reality check” her, she is not trying to hear that and will just assume you’re jealous when that’s so far from the case. In fact I think that mindset shows how fcking out of touch they are with the reality of the situation just so focused on the money being spent.

[Asker]

omg thank you someone who understands and yes im going to take your advise she knows im not jealous im talking to someone but yeah its too much and i did tell her one time you know he is keeping you around until he finds better lol meanwhile she is still talking to other men herself i just nod my head and just say hey thats your life

[HollyK21]

Literally do the same lol if she brings up anything about this guy I’ll try to change the topic of just zone out so she can “vent”. But I’ve got nothing else to say because they never listen, it’s like talking to a brick wall and comments like yours get you called jealous, so why bother. I’ve been in a serious relationship for close to 3 years, so I don’t see her as often and I think she’s become reluctant to mention that she’s still dealing with that guy unless she off-handed bragging. For example, I saw her about a month ago to grab drinks. My fiancé got my this beautiful necklace for Valentine’s Day that I’ve been wearing often. She noticed it and commented on how she’d never seen it before. I was passive when I told her he got it for Valentine’s Day (I’m always so reluctant to share on my own when he does things for me because she gets quiet and upset). Her response was to talk about how her guy got her lingerie for valentines and said ‘I think it’s a bit funner for us than jewelry’. As if I even asked! Lol but that’s the kind of shit she does rather talk about, but when I ask how he’s doing with that new baby it’s taboo💀.

Anyway let me stop being messy!😂

[DishLady]

Aww, well… every individual is unique in some way. Not everyone is suited to everyone else — or to every task under the sun.


Personality, natural aptitude, acquired skills… all contribute to what a person brings to the world, and it’s a little different for everyone.

[ManOnFire]

Men don't think this. Women do. Most men think they can be easily replaced, and most women think men can be easily replaced. Women believe that they're valuable enough for few men to pass up.

[jennifer_bloom]

It's not easy to replace a bad person so yes many people are easy to replace.

[ProbablyClueless]

Because as individuals we know the effort that goes into the things we do for other people. It's kind of rough to put a ton of effort into contributing to someone else's life, only to realize that they feel like they could take or leave the benefit you brought them.

[DrPepper12]

Frankly that's an odd way of looking at things that I never subscribed to. Of course you're replaceable! Every relationship can end and move on, it's INCREDIBLY narcissistic & ridiculous to think you and your relationship is so damn special that it can't be. 🙄

[Anonymous]

Why? Because the ones who believe that are narcissists. 👑

I for one; think im replaceable. Any guy could level up and replace me if they desired that. If he moved away or if I passed away. If they wish to do so.

And sometimes i believe some of my casual-sex partners are irreplacable. The pleasure i get from them is irreplacable.

Depends how people percieve themselves and others.

You need an infalted ego to think you're irreplacable.

[Dargil]

Because in the overall 15,000 year scheme of things, they are. Social trends conceal that but when the Schiff hits the fan, as it ultimately will, that relationship will re-emerge. Dark and Middle ages, just like after the fall of Rome, are way. Elon Musk and Karl Marx can't save is.

[genericname85]

every individual is replacable. but men in general and women in general each aren't.

[Asker]

dont get you explain

[genericname85]

It needs no explanation. Humanity wouldn't exist if either group was gone.

[SYTHOX]

Sounds like you took a page out of Beyonce's book. Yes absolutely everyone is replaceable but you'll meet someone you won't want to replace, of course they will always be replaceable. If you wish but maybe because people are so self absorbed nowadays with self acceptance shit that they believe they're unique because they have a "personality" as if no one else does.

[JacobJordan]

Every is simultaneously replaceable and irreplaceable depending on who they are interacting with.

[Anonymous]

People don't. Often people have a very low image of themselves. That's why nearly 100% of the population in any country are losers.

[worldscolide]

I dunno, my wife is definitely irreplaceable.

[Anonymous]

That's not really true for men though, because we grow up knowing that society views us as expendable, and anything that is expendable is replaceable.

[nawtee_me]

While I might be replaceable, why would you? lol.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why women and men think they are irreplaceable