Would you date someone whose good with their words?

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Is it the same as a smooth talker

[Wraith_Cemetery]

I only like to associate with people who are intelligent and are good with their words. Improper grammar, vocal fry, using "like" too much, et cetera, are all major turn offs. Has nothing to do with gender either. My preferred male friendships are the same way.

Can't take a person seriously if they can barely spell and don't know the difference between "You're", "your", "they're", "their".

Have to clarify a few things:

Speech impediments aren't in the same category. Stuttering for example. Something like that isn't a person's fault.

Dialects, also, are another unrelated category. I use a lot of Newfie and Irish slang when speaking. It's a form of acceptable conversational English. I can speak more eloquently when I want to.

In addition, university education isn't necessary either. I know people in trades who are a billion times more intelligent than folks with a Masters degree. A lot of college kids these days are "stund as me arse".

[handsomelad70]

Which means you don't have a lot of buddies who use "bro" and "dude" in nearly every sentence.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

@handsomelad70 I'm Irish. We don't say those words. We use "lad", "mate", and "me buddy".

[handsomelad70]

Sorry, pal. (Don't know if I'm your mate or buddy, but you've obviously observed the second word in my username.)

[Wraith_Cemetery]

@handsomelad70 Sa'll good me buddy :D

[handsomelad70]

Thanks, Wraith_Cemetery !!!

[Purpleronnie]

The world literally depends on people that can communicate well. Now if you’re talking about those who use those words to manipulate or control and lie? Well there is always a disparity or disconnect with what they say and what they do or how they act. Nobody can afford to take much in this world at face value , that’s naive and gullible. So you listen to the words , you watch the eyes 👀 and you also pay attention to the actions , emotions and how you are treated by them. So yeah I will date someone who is good with their words , that can be a great quality and potentially great for our relationship.. BUT ! , I pay attention to everything , always vigilant until they have earned my trust

[sage2021]

I've only been with two guys that used their words well. One came from a family of highly educated people, and all 6 kids in his family graduated from college.

The other was my last boyfriend, the love of my life. His Aunt and Uncle were both English professor's. They made sure he spoke properly as a young boy.

He and I has the best intellectual stimulation together. Ioved that about him.
So you wonder what happened with us. He died suddenly September 8, or else we would still be together 💔

[Account]

Well to me that can a warning sign.
So far I haven't, I ruled them out. I would much rather not take my chances.

[Account]

Can be a warning sign **

[DaveJord]

It really depends on their words and what they are talking about. I am not good with my words, but I have known lots of people who are... but words and actions do not always align with each other.

So, words no matter how good they are having to be backed by actions. I would rather deal with a person that stands by their words in action, no matter how good or bad they are. At least then you know who you're really dealing with.

[Caroline91]

Yessss! What @DaveJord said.

[FatNeville]

Being good with one's words is certainly a trait that I would be willing to accept if I found a woman such that the two of us would make a good match for each other emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually.

[Caroline91]

So, one certainly did opt for landing on the formal side of language usage here lol. I really like your criteria for a good match. We have that very much in common. I was very fortunate to discover the man who became my husband just hanging around a non-profit org on a fine summer's day.

[FatNeville]

@Caroline91 I'm happy that luck seems to have been on your side. And yeah, I do have a tendency to use perhaps a bit more formal writing style than many on this site use. I guess I got in the habit when I was in college, but I feel like even my speech when I was a child had a more formal register than might otherwise be expected from someone of my age and background. Perhaps it is related to my autism. In my mind, expressing what I feel in the manner that I do partially is an attempt to subtly indicate that I take the information exchange seriously, and that I respect my audience and want to stay on polite terms with him, her, or them. I also have a general tendency to lean in the direction of being a bit of a pedant, but I try not to do so in a manner that may seem pretentious or as though I am "showing off". I simply like to state what I have to express accurately and unambiguously. Especially in writing, since it is more long-lasting, in general, than ordinary speech (sans microphones or recording devices), I try to put things forth in a manner that has less susceptibility for reproach, in my own mind, at least, regarding the way I express it. If people are to tell me that I'm dumb, I want it to be because of my lack of knowledge or ignorant opinions rather than because the mode of delivery was rife with errors that are simply semantic. Sometimes, however, people feel like the use of such a register is out of place in the type of setting I'm in, and I'm trying to get better at knowing how and when to "code-switch" between different registers of English.

[Caroline91]

I think you do quite well. Because of my language training, I switch my register pretty much without thinking about it. Mostly, just be your authentic self because that is such an endearing quality in both men and women :)

[FatNeville]

@Caroline91 I'm not much of a fan of my authentic self, but I try to show it to people when they haven't expressed that they share my opinion on the matter.

[Caroline91]

Well I'm glad you have the chance to do that.

[Caroline91]

Definitely bc words are a lot better than grunts, snorts and whistles!

[Asker]

So you'll date someone whose a smooth talker like can talk your panties off?

[Caroline91]

That is not possible.

[Asker]

Cause you're not easy

[Caroline91]

That's right. I don't allow myself to be used in any sense of the word.

[DishLady]

Yeah, in the sense that they’re well read and can write nicely. But not the sort who is manipulative and sneaky with their words.

[handsomelad70]

Sorry, but you aren't ; I believe you mean, "WHO'S good with their words?"

[Madlc]

As a man, it doesn’t matter to me If a woman is a smooth talker or not.

what matters to me is ambition, I like it when a woman has her own thing going on.

[Simslover92]

Yep. Currently dating one. My boyfriend is very good with his words.

[Chazmatazz269]

I’d prefer it. I’m an excellent communicator. I expect the same in return.

[Iron_Man]

Well I like intelligence somebody that brings something to the table. It’s very important to me to have a good working tag team partner

[laly520]

depends on other aspects

[Asker]

Like what other aspects?

[laly520]

I need to see actions not words

[Nikki1989]

It is a real bonus if you find that in a man. They are a rare breed.

[FunkyMonkee]

Who's, not whose.

[Dongie]

Yes. As long as its natural and not showing off.

[msc545]

I am very adept with words, and I like someone who can keep up with me.

[Quigly]

If that's the only thing they are good with it would come off as phony and uneducated.

[AnAmazingGuy]

Now a days AI can write a good words. Books also has good words. What if a person dont follow good words?

[MGTK7]

Who's*. Who is

[bobalife]

Good words that matches their actions

[Likes2drive]

Sure, why not, I’m good with speaking properly too

[bobby_bush_eater]

Why would anyone say no to this?