When he follows girls who don’t follow him back
When he follows half naked women on SM
When he follows so many girls it looks like a girls hostel and the number of females he follows heavily outweighs males
When he has a high body count
When he likes and consumes redpill content
When he doesn’t agree with traditional roles of the man being the provider and the woman being the nurturer and expects 50/50
When he doesn’t want to get married
When he had cheated on his previous exes (lack of integrity means he will likely do it again)
When he fawns over female celebrities
When he has an unhealthy addiction to pornography
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If he controls and doesn't trust me. Examples:
- No, don't wear that. Other men will see you.
- Why haven't you blocked your ex?
- I don't trust your male 'friend'. He clearly wants to sleep with you.
- Give me your phone.
- Don't go out clubbing. Men will hit on you. Stay here.
If he can't let me out of his sight for a second without thinking I'm a cheater, he's not meant for me. Trust is very important for me, which means if I get approached by a guy, go out drinking, or do something that's even remotely flirtatious with the opposite sex, I tell my boyfriend immediately. If I give trust but don't receive it, I'm leavingIt depends how he looks.
If he’s average, he can’t smoke, drink, I need full access to his phone, can’t go out with guy friends, can’t be cocky, liar or cheater.
If he’s stunning/hot , I believe I could forgive most things. Or give more chances. Not because I want to. But because subconsciously I’ll be inclined to. Can’t help it 🤷🏻♀️…
However the following are instantaneous turn offs. Smokes weed. Consumes Porn. Is Bisexual. Is shorter than me and I’m only 5ft. Has a D smaller than 6inches. INSTANT; NO!
Does drugs
Is rude to others (waiters, neighbours, workers etc.)
Distrusts everyone
Doesn't like animals (or is cruel to them)
Doesn't like my family
Gets too lovey dovey straight away, (please don't propose the first day we're together 😅)
Doesn't want children
Wants to have other people in our relationship
Is lazy and only wants to sit around all day
Hasn't got any interests or ambitions (even if they're small ambitions at least that's something)
There's probably others but I can't think of them, I hope that doesn't sound too nit picky 😂
When he never lived alone before and learnt how to manage his life, household and finances on his own. Met two guys like that, lived with one of them and both refused to take responsibility for their affairs and expected me to handle everything. There's nothing wrong with asking questions how these things work, but they never did.
Other than that:
- If he has no friends and hobbies
- If he treats other people badly and talks behind their backs
- If he's guilt-trippy and makes everything about himself
- If there's no support or mutual respect
- Poor communication and if he doesn't stick with plans, rules we agreed on (f. e. when living together etc.) and constantly breaks boundaries
- If he resorts to weaponized incompetence to avoid responsibilities
I the end, you could say I wanna date an adult who has a grip on his life and interpersonal relationships. And who has a life of his own, not just our joint time.
Controlling behaviors.
Disrespecting. Usually starts as slights at people such as waiters, or complaining about a business you are using, etc.
Any kind of negative behaviors.
If these things are glaring early on the floodgates will open later when true colors fly.Follows way too many women on his socials (such as every crush he barely knew in hs, every pretty girl from jobs he had several years back that he hasn't actually talked to since then)
(Not the same as actual female friends that are people i can meet at some point)
I wouldn't have thought anything of this till I dated a guy and found out he was adding girls from tinder to his socials and trying to play them off as "random follows"A red flag is when you see his ex running away like she saw a ghost when she sees him in the street
- Doesn't respect me or the people around us/is rude/doesn't have basic manners.
- Doesn't respect my boundaries.
- Lack of trust
- Unfaithful
- Does drugs or excessively drinks/smokes.
- Is generally a shi**y person or an a**hole.
Those are just some of the things that I can think of at the moment.
Clingy, too fast, jealous, threatening, rude, anger issues, massive flirt, racist, ...
Heavy drinker or substance user, puts his pet above (human) loved ones, has a pic of him & his mother in is pfp (yeah, one guy tried to hit on me who said his mom comes 1st lol), obsessed with porn, controlling, negative/angry fast. These are things I noticed. The weirdest one is a guy I dated for a very short while said he loves his pet so much, he puts his dog IN the shower with him when he showers, everyday. After he told me that, I said goodbye.
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