Girls, What are some major red flags for y'all?

[Markymark92]

[Sarahr123]

When he follows girls who don’t follow him back

When he follows half naked women on SM

When he follows so many girls it looks like a girls hostel and the number of females he follows heavily outweighs males

When he has a high body count

When he likes and consumes redpill content

When he doesn’t agree with traditional roles of the man being the provider and the woman being the nurturer and expects 50/50

When he doesn’t want to get married

When he had cheated on his previous exes (lack of integrity means he will likely do it again)

When he fawns over female celebrities

When he has an unhealthy addiction to pornography

[Markymark92]

Porn can ruin a man, I had to quit because it destroyed my relationship, I was addicted and at one point it was pretty much impossible to stay hard for my gf… she dumped me after 3-4 months of putting up with it

[ProfoundNflawed]

"When he follows girls who don't follow him back" , can you tell me more about it? Like why do you consider it a red flag?

[Sarahr123]

@ProfoundNflawed there is no reason for a man to follow a female who doesn’t follow him back apart from the fact that he is a cheap man who perves on lots of random women. He has no standards and is therefore low value. A woman who respects herself should not associate herself with a man like that. Those who have self-respect should be with people who have self-respect.

[ProfoundNflawed]

Thanks for explaining, you're absolutely right.

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[Markymark92]

😂😂😂 best answer yet

[lmkimcurious]

Haaa good job 👏

[wiltingrosepetal]

If he controls and doesn't trust me. Examples:

• No, don't wear that. Other men will see you.
• Why haven't you blocked your ex?
• I don't trust your male 'friend'. He clearly wants to sleep with you.
• Give me your phone.
• Don't go out clubbing. Men will hit on you. Stay here.

If he can't let me out of his sight for a second without thinking I'm a cheater, he's not meant for me. Trust is very important for me, which means if I get approached by a guy, go out drinking, or do something that's even remotely flirtatious with the opposite sex, I tell my boyfriend immediately. If I give trust but don't receive it, I'm leaving

[Markymark92]

That’s how it should be, you should be able to be yourself without him being paranoid, insecure or whatever you wanna call it

[EmyyWolf]

Why tr would you be flirting while in a relationship.

I’m fine with him asking me any of this. But he needs to comply as well.
And he needs to comply even more so , just for asking and being insecure

[wiltingrosepetal]

@EmyyWolf Check the phrasing "something that's even remotely flirtatious". Might be sum as simple as playfully chatting to a customer at work or complimenting another man 😭 I'm just very outgoing. And if you want a relationship with rules and mutual control over each other, you do you. I'd personally find it really suffocating

[Anonymous]

It depends how he looks.

If he’s average, he can’t smoke, drink, I need full access to his phone, can’t go out with guy friends, can’t be cocky, liar or cheater.

If he’s stunning/hot , I believe I could forgive most things. Or give more chances. Not because I want to. But because subconsciously I’ll be inclined to. Can’t help it 🤷🏻‍♀️…

However the following are instantaneous turn offs. Smokes weed. Consumes Porn. Is Bisexual. Is shorter than me and I’m only 5ft. Has a D smaller than 6inches. INSTANT; NO!

[Markymark92]

So why dose the average looking person grt the crappy end of the stick lol? Damn lmao youd hate me

[Opinion Owner]

Because on the average-mediocre looking one,
Drinking, smoking, cheating, going out with boys, being cocky, lair.
Isn’t tolerable.
I already have to tolerate your mediocre appearance and bad genetics.

With a Hottie, the good looks, masculinity, high testosterone. Makes it so I subconsciously tolerate his flaws and bad behavior.
I don’t want to. But I’m inclined to.
Its more tolerant , because those good looks, good genetics is hard to come across, hard to find

[Opinion Owner]

@markymark92

In other words. One is easy to find.

The other is hard to find

[Markymark92]

I get that but have you not meet the average guy that was masculine?

[Opinion Owner]

You have to be handsome to be masculine. It doesn’t work any other way

[Markymark92]

Damn that’s rough, what else makes a man masculine?

[Opinion Owner]

Genetics. Not much you can do about. Genetics, health and high testosterone. We can hear it in the base of his voice.

Not sure how average men can fix this.
I’ve only men 3 guys in one city, in the span of 4 years. Not many select males to breed with.

[Markymark92]

So most men you meet are not masculine enough for you?

[Markymark92]

Now you got me thinking about myself and if I’m as masculine as I think I am lol.

[Opinion Owner]

The deep voice, most men no longer have.
https://youtu.be/k_XHCVsVBjI
Men don’t sound like this anymore

https://youtu.be/LISBBUrPSsE
And over here you can learn about masculinity

[Markymark92]

That was interesting.

[Horse-girl]

Does drugs

Is rude to others (waiters, neighbours, workers etc.)

Distrusts everyone

Doesn't like animals (or is cruel to them)

Doesn't like my family

Gets too lovey dovey straight away, (please don't propose the first day we're together 😅)

Doesn't want children

Wants to have other people in our relationship

Is lazy and only wants to sit around all day

Hasn't got any interests or ambitions (even if they're small ambitions at least that's something)

There's probably others but I can't think of them, I hope that doesn't sound too nit picky 😂

[Markymark92]

It doesn’t, I’m glad you made it clear small ambitions are ok

[Horse-girl]

Well I just mean so long as he isn't just wanting to trundle through life and get to the end of his life to realise he's not done anything at all. I'd like to make memories with him not an endless time of nothing in particular.

[Markymark92]

Hearing that makes me think about my life, all I do is work and pretty much see my family when I’m off, I feel like I need to do more

[Horse-girl]

Maybe think of somewhere you'd like to go as a start, I'm sure you won't regret it

[Markymark92]

Right now I just wanna get a transfer with the company I work for and move to a new place, been living here for 30 years and I just want to start new, I’m not making any kind of progress out here

[Horse-girl]

Well that's a start, sometimes a new place opens up new opportunities.

[ZamerZ]

When he never lived alone before and learnt how to manage his life, household and finances on his own. Met two guys like that, lived with one of them and both refused to take responsibility for their affairs and expected me to handle everything. There's nothing wrong with asking questions how these things work, but they never did.

Other than that:

• If he has no friends and hobbies
• If he treats other people badly and talks behind their backs
• If he's guilt-trippy and makes everything about himself
• If there's no support or mutual respect
• Poor communication and if he doesn't stick with plans, rules we agreed on (f. e. when living together etc.) and constantly breaks boundaries
• If he resorts to weaponized incompetence to avoid responsibilities

I the end, you could say I wanna date an adult who has a grip on his life and interpersonal relationships. And who has a life of his own, not just our joint time.

[Sugar100]

Why having no friends is red flag? Not everyone has friends and social

[ZamerZ]

@Sugar100 bc that means I will have to be his sole social interaction and I'd rather be with someone who has a social life and won't rely on me. Been there, done that. Never again. And I see what it does to my parent's relationship as well
I am an introvert myself and there is a difference between not needing constant social stimulation and having not a single soul but your partner to connect with. It's unhealthy for both.

[Sugar100]

It’s my dream hav a clingy guy. I actually want aguy with no friends. I never had a real boyfriend I see girls daily with bfs and I’m alone daily. I never had a guy daily with me living with me or meeting my family.

[ZamerZ]

@Sugar100 sounds like you'd rather have a pet who's whole world revolves around you. If you ever get a nice boyfriend, don't isolate him for your own benefit.

[Sugar100]

But married people isolate the guy and most don’t want him be with his own family like some people I know so I don’t get it, isn’t married couples like a pet? 24/7 together

[ZamerZ]

@Sugar100 No, it's not. You are two separate people and don't just become one entity.

[Anonymous]

Controlling behaviors.
Disrespecting. Usually starts as slights at people such as waiters, or complaining about a business you are using, etc.
Any kind of negative behaviors.


If these things are glaring early on the floodgates will open later when true colors fly.

[Markymark92]

True I get that

[Phoneposter]

Follows way too many women on his socials (such as every crush he barely knew in hs, every pretty girl from jobs he had several years back that he hasn't actually talked to since then)
(Not the same as actual female friends that are people i can meet at some point)
I wouldn't have thought anything of this till I dated a guy and found out he was adding girls from tinder to his socials and trying to play them off as "random follows"

[Markymark92]

Ok now that’s fowl on his part 🤦🏽‍♂️ I get that, it’s a lot different when you get to meet the person.

[Phoneposter]

Exactly. I don't have a single guy friend I wouldn't be willing to introduce to my partner, and all of my guy friends are made aware when im in a relationship.
I don't see the need to stay in contact with someone else I'm attracted to if I'm in a committed relationship.
I also have told friends that if they flirt with me when I'm taken, I will block them out of respect for my partner because it shows a lack of respect for my relationship.
I understand a guy might have the instinct to turn his head when a pretty stranger passes if his partner isn't around but it's a whole other thing to have an entire digital catalog of girls pictures, videos, and stories where the girlfriend has to see it, know their names and question his reasons for needing to keep access to them.
Especially where the women are single and in their advertising phase with lots of selfies/bikini shots (you get the idea)

To the guys like that, do your porning in private to strangers you don't know. If you're serious about your partner, look at what you might be hanging onto that can become an issue.
Stop creeping on socials of your high school crushes, ex gfs, coworkers, etc. It'll save a lot of stress and problems.
Even if she's not the type to say something, I promise she has noticed, and unless she's one of those "lol idc" pickme types, it's going to make her uncomfortable

[Markymark92]

Amen to that!!!

[JustAGirll55]

A red flag is when you see his ex running away like she saw a ghost when she sees him in the street

[Markymark92]

😂😂😂

[JustAGirll55]

I wish I was joking, but I know a girl who did not even recognize such an obvious red flag.

[mono_gram]

• Doesn't respect me or the people around us/is rude/doesn't have basic manners.
• Doesn't respect my boundaries.
• Lack of trust
• Unfaithful
• Does drugs or excessively drinks/smokes.
• Is generally a shi**y person or an a**hole.

Those are just some of the things that I can think of at the moment.

[JosyJosy]

Clingy, too fast, jealous, threatening, rude, anger issues, massive flirt, racist, ...

[Markymark92]

When you say massive flirt you mean how he acts with others? Or being a massive flirt when y’all first met? I’ll admit I use to be the jealous type due to some insecurities but I’m far past that now

[JosyJosy]

With others. But there are those types who already think of how the children will look what the parents will think, when you haven't had your first date. Those types are red flags too.

[Markymark92]

Oh yeah that’s thinking a little too quick especially if you haven’t had your first date yet.

[Sugar100]

I actually like clingy men but i never found a guy that’s clingy so it sucks

[Sugar100]

I have to be with a guy daily and I never had a first boyfriend either

[bannacookies]

Heavy drinker or substance user, puts his pet above (human) loved ones, has a pic of him & his mother in is pfp (yeah, one guy tried to hit on me who said his mom comes 1st lol), obsessed with porn, controlling, negative/angry fast. These are things I noticed. The weirdest one is a guy I dated for a very short while said he loves his pet so much, he puts his dog IN the shower with him when he showers, everyday. After he told me that, I said goodbye.

[Markymark92]

Porn obsession ruined one of my relationships, I regret it so bad

[Markymark92]

My ex ruined me for a little bit like just completely embarrassed me

[dovey234]

When I like a guy and he starts to literally mentions other girls even though he knows I like him. Playful boys are so icky!

[Nikki1989]

Sexism, Racism, Porn addiction, Drug addiction, Misogyny, Insecurity, Closed-minded, Controlling nature, Bad taste in music.

[Markymark92]

Have you ever dated someone with any of those things you listed? How long did you tolerate it?

[Markymark92]

How can you tell if someone has a porn addiction if they don’t say anything?

[Nikki1989]

Those things become obvious very quickly.

[Daniela1982]

If he mentions having sex is the biggest one for me. This is a date, not a Hook Up!

[Chelsdope0]

Men who lieeee…. But they all do…
Men who try to demean women
Men who are jerks
Men who ask “when you were last intimate “ on a date.

[Markymark92]

We call that small dick energy

[Chelsdope0]

Even the last one?

[Markymark92]

Yeah that’s not our business to know that info, that’s in the past

[Markymark92]

If you a confident man your wouldn’t need to ask that because you got your girl and you know what she like and how to please her.

[Chelsdope0]

Why ask that? On a first date

[Markymark92]

Usually when a man ask that he just honestly wants to know when the last time you fcked someone, he wants to know if you’ve recently done that.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

If he wants me to watch Netflix with him.

(I know we're not going to.. 🫢🚩)

[Markymark92]

As in if that’s what he says?

[Booklover_90]

• He can’t keep a steady job
• Poor hygiene
• Rude and insensitive

[MsProsperity]

No job or career. Smoker & Cheater

[Markymark92]

What if he likes to occasionally smoke weed every now and then?

[MsProsperity]

Pass, another man.

[Markymark92]

I get that, I only asked because that’s how my last relationship ended and I really thought it wasn’t bad, like I’d work and everything but I just liked to smoke sometimes, my ex didn’t like the way it would make me look so she’d get upset if I’d smoke when we would go out

[Markymark92]

I regret it, I would smoke and sometimes gamble she told me I needed to grow up then a month later she started dating my friend who doesn’t do those things, I lied to her about smoking when we met… now her and my friend are having a kid, I got invited to baby shower but I can’t go I’m too ashamed.

[Sugar100]

I don’t mind smoking

[Mariena_Anne92]

Lying too much. Always talking about financial problems. Talking too high of himself all the times.

[golden-locks]

Blokes who are 30+ and flirt with more than one woman (especially when they're in a relationship wth another woman).

[Markymark92]

I get that… do you feel being single at 30 is kinda strange?

[LaurenM1997]

Emotional abuse I went through it with my ex he used to get very annoyed at me

[Sugar100]

If he’s cocky , Immature, rude, mean , liar , party guy with many guy friends ,

[laly520]

would summarise it in failing to be a mature responsible decent guy

[IslaTheWitch]

lack of hygiene...

[xZoeyx]

Dishonesty, involving other people in our problems, not respectful of boundaries, etc.

[litty736]

A guy who is:

• Dishonest
• Selfish
• Unfaithful
• Irresponsible
• Immature
• Unhygienic

[Heyhi146]

Dry texting, bad stink (at least for me) and having a very clingy relationship with other girls maybe..

[Markymark92]

So would sometimes texting another girl that’s just his friend or his coworker bad?

[Heyhi146]

No I meant there are some men who have girls around them everywhere that's weird to me I don't know

[Markymark92]

What if he happens to work around a lot of woman at his job? Would he be allowed to be friends with those woman?

[ameliaann123]

Thinks more about his friends then his girlfriend.

Being too controlling and telling her what she can wear, do or speak to

[Anonymous]

Inconsistency + constant pulling away

[sheikalana]

Love bombing.

[Badgirlnatalia]

Asking for sex all the time

[Markymark92]

That can be a little immature

[Markymark92]

If they ask all the time