Advice please, just want to understand freaking out a little?

[Anonymous]

Guys can I please ask for your thoughts on this. I went on a few dates with this guy, we always made out lots and had a lot of chemistry. Last night we slept together, while having sex he stopped briefly and said he needed ten mins (he legit had a cigarette and talked for some time) he told me he was demisexual and that he felt a connection to me and that he was very attracted to me, anyway we ended up continuing and today no text. I don't know if it is me and my insecurity and paranoia but I'm wondering now if he was actually into me, that maybe that's why he took ten mins mid sex and why he hasn't texted today (I left his this morning and nothing all day- I did leave his to say I had a lot to do today). I just please ask for you advice as I have quite an overactive and anxious mind. Could I please ask for your thoughts. I know I'm panicking a little I just have a very overactive mind at the moment!

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo girl, totally get why you'd be in your head after all that! But try not to stress just yet - sounds like there could be a reasonable explanation.

First things first, that dude opening up about being demi shows he was comfortable with you. Pausing during sex doesn't necessarily mean anything bad either - everyone gets in their head sometimes, and talking it out was probably his way of staying present with you.

As for not texting yet today, it's still early. He could be busy with life or letting things cool down after getting intimate, before hitting you up. Some dudes aren't big texters either.

If you had a good connection otherwise, I'd say give it another day or two before writing him off. In the meantime, keep yourself busy so you're not constantly checking your phone.

Reach out to your crew too - nothing takes your mind off like gabbin with your girls. I'm sure they're hyped for you if things went well!

Chillax for now sis. If he's really feeling you, he'll touch base. And if not, then his loss - you're a total catch! Stay positive til you know more. You got this :)

[Anonymous]

That sounds f-d up. He's treating sex like a chore to complete. Taking a break usually happens after someone cums. Also you shouldn't have had sex with a guy that's not your legit boyfriend.

[sheikalana]

Nothing to panic here. This is typical guy behavior. Nothing wrong so far in my opinion. Give him some time maybe he's also having a busy day.