Girls what do you bring to the table?

[Anonymous]

So I heard an interesting discussion online, now this doesn't go for all women, just ones that have high standards when looking for a man.

So say you are looking for a man who is fit, has a lot of money, has a car, educated and so on.

Say you don't fit all those categories yourself, what are you bringing to the table, why should this paticulatur type of guy choose you, what are you bringing to the table?

Beauty and sex are not included in this discussion. Also this is before marriage, before much commitment.

[Anonymous]

In my marriage, my husband is the provider. What I have, what I bring to the table, is the ability to improve upon what my husband provides. My husband provides a house, I make that house into a home. He provides me groceries, I produce a meal. He provides me his seed, I produce for him offspring.

Our relationship, even before marriage, was never about whether or not we were on equal footing in terms of looks, money, or education. It’s whether or not we make each other’s lives better. Don’t worry so much about how fit, rich, smart or well-off your girl is. Does she make your life better? Is she an asset or a deficit?

[Asker]

I like how you put that, I was just referring to those type oc girls who want all this and that from a man and some think all they need to bring to the table is sex and looking pretty.

Now if it was just a girl looking for a nice guy to date and then it growing and having a healthy relationship like yours where you make each other happy then great.

I was just curious on those particular girls who have high standards for a guy but have nothing really to show themselves

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not entirely sure if there’s a direct answer to why the expectations of a lot of women are so high. I remember reading a question, not too long ago, from a girl whose boyfriend was a waiter, and she was lying to her friends saying he was a doctor. My guess is that these women are seeking validation, believing that that is proof of happiness. If they can find absolute perfection, while simultaneously being accepted for their imperfections, then they will be happy…except that never happens.

[Opinion Owner]

For some odd reason, a lot of women are not interested in making men’s lives better, only for men to make their lives easier.

[Asker]

True and I'm not saying this goes for all women, I know there are women who do seek love and don't care what job or how much money a guy earns but some do.

[Anonymous]

Women should not bring anything to the table. They bring themselves to the relationship and you should be with her because she’s loyal, supportive, you enjoy her company, love her, get along with her and can provide her with the type of life she wants. If you’re asking what this woman brings to the table you’re not looking for a woman, you’re looking for a man who can provide things for you. So many men are confused about their role nowadays. It’s not about what a woman can provide you with or bring to the table, it’s what you as the man can provide her with. Men are the providers. If you want to be the receiver of things and princess treatment then you need to date a King, that means another man.

[Asker]

Well with equality you girls so desperately are asking for and want to be treated as such then it's a 2 way street, you can't just ask for equality and expect to act like a damsel in distress