Girls, Is triple or multiple messaging on dating apps a turn off?

[Anonymous]

Yes it is

No it’s not

[HollyK21]

Personally yes because it’s excessive, demanding, and setting unwarranted expectations too soon.

[Asker]

Even if they don’t reply for days?

[HollyK21]

If you haven’t heard from her in days and just wanted to shoot her a message to relay you’re still interested, then that’s fine. However, if they don’t reply for days, wouldn’t you assume they’re uninterested? One thing you have to remember on dating apps is that you are all on there looking for something, whatever that may be. So while you may have swiped, connected with her and want to continue conversation, there’s always the possibility that on her end, she’s matched with someone she feels more compatible with, or abandoned the app for now if she wasn’t feeling it with anyone. It happens.

[Asker]

Well apps are very visual so chances are someone better looking came along.

[HollyK21]

Hey, looks are everything. Of course you want to be physically attracted to the person but as you get older the priority is to find someone you’re compatible with in areas of your life that matter more than appearances when it comes to who you’re with.

[HollyK21]

**looks aren’t everything

[Asker]

Not in 20s and 30s though.

[HollyK21]

Definitely in 20s and 30s. I know I wasn’t like that past 23.

[EmmaMary]

What's so wrong with picking up the phone, dialling the number and actually Talking to someone?

[Asker]

Doesn’t exist on apps.