Why am I unable to break the ice with women I like, at work?

[Anonymous]

I'm attracted to two colleagues who are not in the same department. I don't see other people flirting and I'm quite reluctant to break the social norms. However, there are people who are married and met there, so it shouldn't be such a big problem.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, hitting on coworkers is risky business. Them rules are there for a reason - last thing you want is HR up your ass.

But I feel you, the heart wants what it wants ya know? Here's what I'd do - scope it out casual like first. Make small talk at the water cooler, ask how their weekend was. Feel them out, see if they're giving you friend vibes back.

Then maybe ask one to grab lunch sometime to "discuss a work project." But be chill, don't make it weird. Read her signals - if she seems into it, cool. If not, back off all friendly like.

Slide in those DMs too, follow them birds on Instagram. Comment on their pics, shoot your shot from a "harmless happy hour invite for the team." But never get handsy at the office!

Flirt light, but be careful. You lay it on too strong you'll spook them for sure. Go slow, see if they bite. but be prepared to play it cool or find a new fish if it don't work out. Good luck bro!

[Fanfare690]

Maybe the women you like don't want to cross that boundary

[Asker]

I don't know how to cross it either

[Anonymous]

Lol 2 ? No wonder they are not into u

[Asker]

Did I say they aren't?