Girls, Is it bad for guys to show vulnerability?

[Anonymous]

[jazzyjic78]

No, it's ok to open up just don't wollow around in it and keep holding on to the same thing for a long period of time. Digest it, figure out a way to overcome it, get over it and let it go. Because it ain't over if you keep living your gonna continue to run into obstacles and hindrances, pain, and tribulations it's what makes you stronger 💪🏾💯😇, you have to keep on rolling.

And when you have that special someone to assist you and love you along the way it makes it easier.

[Asker]

I was playing pickleball with some friends and the girl smashed the ball right into my nuts. I tried to walk it off but i dropped to my knees in pain

[dustybiker2]

No. Example (since your Q is broad) that comes to my mind: I appreciate when a man can admit he needs help with something. It makes me feel included not repulsed. Solving a problem together can make a relationship stronger. Nobody has all the answers. We aren't suppose to. Vulnerability is not a weakness.

[Morgan_L]

Not when its called for say the death of a family member or friend. It shows genuine feelings and is so honest when a guy lets you see he’s human. Superman is great but even he cried when Johnathan Kent died. Its what makes us human ❤️

[Asker]

I was playing pickleball with some friends and the girl smashed the ball right into my nuts. I tried to walk it off but i dropped to my knees in pain

[Minky17]

It depends on what the reason is. If it's over something nonsensical - then I don't want to be around

[Asker]

I was playing pickleball with some friends and the girl smashed the ball right into my nuts. I tried to walk it off but i dropped to my knees in pain

[Minky17]

Well no that's a physiological reaction. You can't control pain or emotions in that setting

[Asker]

Yeah but doesn’t it make her think that my man parts aren’t very tough?

[Minky17]

They aren't if you're not wearing a cup

[Asker]

Is that a bad thing from a girls perspective? I know girls like tough and manly guys

[Minky17]

No. If you're in pain you can't help it. If it's offensive to girls - they are mostly immature

[Asker]

Have you seen that hapoen to a guy?

[Minky17]

I have. I gave him a bag of ice and took care of him.

[DishLady]

No, it’s not. Vulnerabilities are humanizing. The problem is that guys don’t LIKE to show vulnerability due to social conditioning from childhood onward, which indicates that vulnerability (or most emotional expression) is bad.

[northerngal]

There is a time and place to be vulnerable. For example during a crisis no. After the crisis has passed yes. Men who can be emotionally mature and open are hot.

[Asker]

What about in sports? Do you think guys should “take it like a man”?

[northerngal]

Damn... well kind of the same thing. In the middle of a competition being vulnerable may not be the best way to perform well. However after game letting go is probably healthy... not sure if a hockey player bursting into tears after taking a hit in the corner would impress his team mates too much lol Getting hit comes with the territory.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s what I mean, as a guy I want to be able to take a hit and keep going so it’s embarrassing if I can’t and a girl is watching

[CrabCakes11]

It depends. Is he injured? Or is he having a fit because he’s a sore loser

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Not at all! Guys are human too and everyone has their vulnerability. We just express them differently.

[Asker]

I was playing pickleball with some friends and the girl smashed the ball right into my nuts. I tried to walk it off but i dropped to my knees in pain

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Ouch!

[Asker]

Im worried she will now think my man parts aren't tough

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think most people would know that part is delicate.

[Asker]

Then why do most women giggle when it happens?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

No clue

[Asker]

So you wouldn’t be suprised if a muscular tall guy got taken down by a pickleball?

[JustSmiley]

Absolutely not, but it does matter when and where you are showing your weak side, people out there are too meany and uncaring they won't mind pointing a finger at you for so and so reasons according to there dictionary of rules they have set, but of its someone who's understanding and knowledged enough of human emotions and feelings it's completely fine. And yes being vulnerable at certain times is OKAY, NATURAL AND NORMAL. we got you boys

[sheikalana]

The only person you should be vulnerable with is your future wife. Not a girlfriend not any other girl as it can be a huge turn off for some.

[Asker]

I was playing pickleball with some friends and the girl smashed the ball right into my nuts. I tried to walk it off but i dropped to my knees in pain

[sheikalana]

Oh that's understandable. If that's not your girlfriend you shouldn't give two f*cks.

[Asker]

She isn’t my girlfriend just a girl I have a crush on.

Doesn’t it make it look like my man parts are weak?

[sheikalana]

I guess that we all know that's every man's weak spot.

[Asker]

So it doesn’t look bad if a hit there takes us down? Have you seen it happen before?

[sheikalana]

I've seen and honestly the guy cried and I felt really bad for him. As I said she's not your girlfriend you shouldn't care.

[Asker]

He cried? How did it happen?

[sheikalana]

Some kicked him in his balls.

[Asker]

Ouch so girls don’t expect guys to take a hit in the balls “like a man”?

[sheikalana]

Trust me this is not something we think about.

[Asker]

What were you thinking when you saw it happen?

[sheikalana]

I just felt bad and then carried on with my life.

[Asker]

Was it during a fight?

[sheikalana]

I can't remember that was 20 years ago.

[HappyWoman34]

We see it as a great strength in a partner and a friend.

[Peridot25]

I feel like this question is a trap. Men say women see vulnerability from men as weakness. Then call us liars if we say no.

[Asker]

I dont like to show vulnerablity, society makes it seem like its a bad thing for guys to show

[Kit_Kat88]

No I love it when they do. It’s super sexy when a man isn’t scared to show or tell me his feelings

[Asker]

I was playing pickleball with some friends and the girl smashed the ball right into my nuts. I tried to walk it off but i dropped to my knees in pain

[CrabCakes11]

No. I wouldn’t date or be friends with a man that didn’t show vulnerability

[SugarSugarplum]

Weak men are a turn-off.

[tylrswftversion]

human beings are naturally vulnerable, and expressing what we feel isn't a weakness, in fact pretending to be ''strong'' and acting tough is a turn off

[HurremSultan]

No I think it's good

[Asker]

I was playing pickleball with some friends and the girl smashed the ball right into my nuts. I tried to walk it off but i dropped to my knees in pain

[Agape93]

Nope.

[Libarena]

No. We like it.

[Asker]

What about in sports? Does it look bad if we get hurt and don’t take it like a man?

[CrabCakes11]

No. If you’re injured you should stop playing