Agree or Disagree: If you play hard to get, you quickly become hard to want?

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Peter_Penetrator · Accepted Answer

Playing hard to get is a double edged sword. Those that have been through hell and back in relationships are guarded and bitter. Yet, even after those disappointments, they have yet to give up. So, in order to protect their emotions, anyone that shows interest in them, is greeted with skepticism.

If someone is interested in me, is it for the short term, my money, my status or just a simple hookup. So how do l determine that answer? Well, l make them jump through a few hoops. If this person is truly interested in me as a person, and in it for the long haul, they will be patient, and play along. However, that person must also understand that l am only playing hard to get for the short term. Because anyone that doesn’t understand that or is in a hurry to find a victim, will be discouraged and quickly move on to someone that is vulnerable to deceit.

Now, if a person isn’t truly skilled in the art of playing hard to get can inadvertently let the game go on longer than necessary. So if l were to take it too far for too long, someone will become frustrated and angry with me. They will then think that l am just stringing them along and will eventually look for someone that values their time.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Some people are willing victims of such games, but not me. If I sense that a woman is playing those games with me, I will confront her once and ask her to be candid and sincere. Then, if it continues  I'm outta there!

OftenUnsaid · Accepted Answer

From what I heard the people who play hard to get are the ones who are in longer successful relationships. I guess they don’t like to rush into things and rather take things slow so it depends on the situation.

If I like someone and we have a connection then I’ll let it be known only if I know if the other person is interested in me.

Dating has become so annoying nowadays because everyone makes it hard for the next lol. You’re either playing hard to get or you’re too easy.
At this point if you like someone just say it and if they don’t like you keep it pushing.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely true. Guessing games / indirectness is probably one of the most unattractive qualities someone can hold, especially when it comes to love

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Now here’s something we can agree on… anyone into playing those kind of games is someone to avoid

HawkPerception · Answer

I can't stand immature games. I don't play the game of waiting to message someone so as not to show that I'm desperate. If I'm interested, I message asap. Everyone has time in their day to message. If they say they don't, it's a lie. People make time for the people they're interested in or want in their lives.

The sad thing is though, many girls are attracted by the game a guy has. So even if they say they lose interest by a guy playing hard to get, many of them are actually attracted to it.

dustybiker2 · Answer

All games are unattractive. There is time and place and person.. most men are up front with who they are. You get players who enjoy that bs, so there is always that exception. Playing hard to get just makes you less worth the effort. in my opinion There are far better ways to be irresistible.

GeminiDiamond · Answer

Agreed.  But , what could be perceived to one as their playing games, the other could just be busy with a career, busy with their life before they met you, or simply not that interested.

DishLady · Answer

I don't know. Tbh, I've seen guys chase the "hard to get" creatures across the globe, while the sensible girl within their grasp get the runaround for an eternity. So possibly some of the fellas are fibbing right now...

IslaTheWitch · Answer

playing with other people's emotions always ends not good...

Steelcore5280 · Answer

Absolutely concur with that. When she plays hard to get, I immediately reach the conclusion she's not mature enough to deal with and I quickly move on. I'm 30, I don't have the time to deal with that stupidity.

RavVid · Answer

Two of my requirements are

* She is genuinely nice

* She is cooperative

The hard to get is opposed to those two but entirely consistent with hard to want.

The third req is she is comely enough that I want to fuck her.

Hard to get could feed into that req.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I'm just not into playing games, and it seemed like most women in my age range did not play games. Why risk possibly losing someone because of a stupid game you're playing. Is it really worth it?

alice55 · Answer

False totally false, especially for serious relationship but you have to do it right. For hook up and others kinds of stuff of meaningless relationship it's true.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

It depends.. Like most women in some way play hard to get with a guy they really like.. It's mostly unconscious.. There is a such thing as too far, and the games are too much.. Like, if you are showing you're straight forward interest and they still wanna act along, then yeah that's when you wanna get out..

CrabCakes11 · Answer

Agree. Why would anybody want to date someone who isn’t showing interest in them

purplepoppy · Answer

If a guy sees you turn down twenty decent guys he'll think whats the point of me trying.

Nikki1989 · Answer

How about not playing games at all?

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

As soon as a woman starts playing games like that with me, I'm out of there!

Anonymous · Answer

For men, for whatever reason, playing hard to get can work. For the same reason married men find that wearing the ring or being with a baby gets them way more attention from women than they ever had as single guys. Women want what they can't have.

Because it works on women, many of them assume it must work on men too. But it generally doesn't.

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

I don’t like playing games. It is actually annoying.

bobalife · Answer

Nah I don’t play games. I’m hard to get but once I actually like someone, then I like someone.

12karen · Answer

It depends, I've got two friends who where both hard to get well the first was playing hard to get and now she's hard to want and the second is hard to get and she's having a lot of guys wanting her

Anonymous · Answer

Agree 100%. It's hard to know if a woman is playing hard to get, or she's just not interested. But it doesn't matter in the end, because if she's not interested, neither am I. And if she's playing hard to get, I want nothing to do with her anyway. I have zero tolerance for women who play immature mind games like that.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

No it’s just people resisting to get with other people

Jopesmack72 · Answer

Don’t think it’s always true. All the time. Some people have to try to play hard to get just to not come across as needy. Or clingy. But you probably don’t want to over do it. And seem closed off emotionally. Or reclusive like you’re afraid to open up. Afraid to get hurt. Can be a sign, of weakness. Gotta be willing to gamble a little. Risk to reward calculations are part, of life.

Billlewis · Answer

While I think that may be true among men, I think that whenever an attractive woman plays 'hard to get', she makes a certain miniature male appendage stand at attention;)

Anonymous · Answer

You play yourself and nobody wants you coach

DextroShade · Answer

One the best ways for a woman to die alone is to play hard to get. Men don't want difficult women as our lives are difficult enough already. Also, since the poundmetoo movement, men risk a lot by pursuing a woman after an initial rejection.

Unit1 · Answer

100%

LiamJHayden · Answer

If she plays hard to get I assume she is disinterested and move on.

worldscolide · Answer

Absolutely correct, I just wish more women would understand that.

Emmytexrex · Answer

Lol yh that's absolutely true then you will stay asking yourself why am I not getting anyone 😂

electromagnetic · Answer

Why play games?

MisterWack · Answer

Works in movies & TV show not irl.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Playing hard to get is a good indicator she will play other games as well. No thanks.

edmwarrior · Answer

No time for games, especially at this age

msc545 · Answer

Yeah nobody really wants to play chase the girl.

NathanDavis · Answer

play games... I'm out, lol

thatshydork · Answer

Depends on how hard you play hard to get

spartan55 · Answer

100% agree

Kaneki05 · Answer

Of course

Phoenix98 · Answer

Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

JacobJordan · Answer

If you play hard to get you end up single

paledreams · Answer

Agree 100 percent 💯🙃

DaBiggestBird · Answer

For people who don’t like wasting time yes

Dongie · Answer

Agree. That got old for me 30 years ago.

Brady · Answer

agree

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