In your experience, if you are on a date and you end up making out, how likely does that lead to sex?

[Danny_dan92]

In my experience it’s pretty much a done deal 😅 making out had a 95% chance of the girl either telling me to take us back to her place or she asks me to take me to her place.

[DishLady]

Depends if it's only the first few dates then no, of course it's not ending with sex.

[Danny_dan92]

See this is exactly what I was telling another person on here 😂 the claim was made that making out always leads to sex. Not entirely the case. Because typically this is in the hands of the girl. The girl would either get handsy or gently push the guy off when she notices he’s getting excited and tell him to chill out. Lol

[DishLady]

I don't know if you guys still use the old baseball reference that was popular when I was in school -- the four bases, yeah?

1st Base = Kissing
2nd Base = Above the waist contact/fondling (over/under the shirts).
3rd Base = Below the waist contact/fondling (over/under the skirts, inside/outside the pants)
4th Base/Home = Sex

And depending on how well a young lady was raised, each "base" would take a young man rather a few weeks to get to...

Now of course everything has gone to h**l and only god knows what runs through a young person's mind, but personally wouldn't let a guy to "hit home" for a good long while.

Yeah, "CHILL OUT" is definitely the best advice you could offer him.

[Danny_dan92]

This is where I brace for being judged.

The reference you brought up was still a thing in my younger years, although slightly altered.

1st base was kissing
2nd was touching
3rd is oral
And 4th is sex

[DishLady]

See... the new generation moves too fast... 2nd and 3rd were different... (No judgement... your generation just isn't into the whole anticipation thing my generation had going... and in listening to stories from a couple of generations before mine, holding hands was a prequel to 1st... and it's not mentioned at all here, which means every generation is moving a little faster. That's a fact.

Is it the right thing to do? I don't really think so... It wouldn't work for me, personally. (And FYI, "Oral" is called "Oral Sex" so it would fall to 4th... or at best "3.5" because it's basically "Stealing Home"...)

[Danny_dan92]

Believe it or not I’m somewhat of a hybrid 😅

[DishLady]

Hahaha. Good one. Ok, Mr. Hybrid. I hope I answered your question.

[Danny_dan92]

Well you did lol you went more in depth.

I wasn’t trynna pull a fast one though, I was being serious. Unlike a lot of guys my age and younger I don’t ask girls for nudes (just an example) I also respect the girl’s wishes. There have been several accounts where the girl would stop me from pushing because she would be getting turned on but also was steadfast on taking things slow (sometimes we can/cannot control our hormones) moments like these I would slow down.

[DishLady]

It's great that you listen to the lady -- and good that she also asks to stop when she's not comfortable, this way you're not left confused, etc. etc.

Yes, the whole nudes thing was, thank God, not a standard thing "back in my day"... Your generation has to deal with the social media plague in addition to the constant bombardment of notifications pouring in from every corner of the universe. It's not healthy.

Thankfully you do seem to be maintaining a respectful perspective. I hope it's something you'll never lose. Precious few guys actually have this quality today.

[Danny_dan92]

With the whole respecting a woman’s wishes my thought process behind it is because I like working hard for things that are rewarding/enjoyable. That being said for me I find it that much better knowing the sex is 100% consensual, that she was ready.

The whole nude thing follows a similar premise. I rather be rewarded by seeing what she looks naked when I take her clothes off. Rather than her showing me through a screen 😂 however… have I sent nudes? Yes. But I typically do when I read that she wants to see it, since girls don’t ask for nudes. But I’ve noticed the common hints that they’re curious.

If you ask me? I would eliminate social media completely. It’s a legit cancer to society now. Girls ask me why I’m single… social media is why.

[DishLady]

Yeah, I think social media messes with all of us...

[Danny_dan92]

I want to go back to the days when people’s internet cut out when the land line rang 😂

[DishLady]

Oh... use spectrum. It'll cut out at least once monthly for sure.

[paledreams]

That's an awesome question Danny. I'd imagine some men and women can't resist the sight of each other and do the deed on the first or third date lol 😆😆😉 - insert the bed emoji's - lol 👀😋

[paledreams]

I have only been stood up - so I wouldn't know - I guess maybe by the first couple of dates or maybe I'd hold out until the...6th date? 9th date... lol 🌹🌹😅

[Makeushiver]

Usually but the larger question often is, "will there be another person involved"

[mandyfire98]

100 percent of the time hooking up, kissing was involved.

5 percent of the time making out led to full on sex.

[GeminiDiamond]

When I did date, it all depends. Sometimes I didn't even kiss the first date just to see what he does after. Sometimes I fucked his brains out. Really, it all depends on what's going on and how the night went.

[Danny_dan92]

Fair enough. Chemistry is everything

[sage2021]

Isn't that kind of obvious? I mean when two people are really making out, they get turned on
Which more than likely leads to sex.

[Danny_dan92]

Well yes, but sometimes there is control lol

[Anonymous]

LOL, this just made me realize I made guys angry, I never put out 🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️ I just kiss and leave

[Danny_dan92]

That’s good!! Congratulations

[Hannajenky]

Highly likely

[Dongie]

Well since age 17 about, hmmm, 100%

[JamesRandiDebates]

Either sex or at least a BJ.