Do single moms have dating issues?

Question

Like does their dating pool shrink compared to a woman without kid (s).

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think so, dramatically. For a number of reasons. For one a lot of men don’t want to raise another man’s kids. Plus if he’s younger, likes to be spontaneous, travel, can’t just tell her let’s go to Vegas this weekend because she needs to find a babysitter. She may cancel dates because the kid is sick. There’s a good chance he’s not even capable of taking care of himself, so to add someone else into the mix as far as taking care of them. The children will always come first. Which is how it should be. But he’s going to be competing against the kids as far as spending time w her. A lot of times she has more issues. Most women who have kids want a man more so to help them w all that responsibility. Whether it’s financially or helping take care of the kids. Not all, but a lot. I tend to think the men are better at handling it as a single parent because most men don’t let their feelings dictate how they feel or act, especially in cases w kids. Moms seem to be overwhelmed, break down crying, have more mental issues. Possibly why women are more likely to hurt kids than men, because of their emotions. Not all but a lot of women. That’s why most men who get their kids in custody battles never ask for money from their ex as far as child support. I know I never did. It was just one less thing in dealing w her. I think most men would rather it be that way too if they got custody of their kids. A majority of us men don’t want women’s money. Plus as a man she may tell you she’s not looking at you to step in as their father, but you basically still have all the responsibilities of being their father. I don’t think you expect your man to show up w food for the two of you but not the child. I’m sure you’d expect him to save your kid if they were in danger or something. But a lot of times women won’t let another man discipline their kids. Maybe he believes ins spanking but she doesn’t. Then it’s like you’re not their father. Ok but you sure want me to take care of you, be protective of you as well as them. Do things w them, etc, etc.

RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

It’s not a straightforward answer really.
having a kid restricts her ability to socialise and date.

It does however remove some of the potential types that do not want a relationship and just sex.

Her age will most likely come into it, 18 - 25 is likely going to have a better chance at dating than over 25.

Also how close she lives to her parents and or ability to get babysitters.

on social media there is a lot of negativity, however in the real world there is less.

However, the same girl without kids and with kids, she will find it easier without any.

LadyKitty · Accepted Answer

Speaking from experience.

When I was a single mom, The dating pool was shrunk but there is just men that don't want a woman with kids but there is one issue single moms have to deal with as well there is guys out there that may try to get with you for quick and easy sex. (Single Dads have issues too). There is also the thing you have background check any man involved with you from the get go to ensure you aren't bringing harm into your or your children's life.

Though it is not the end of the world there is plenty of guys out there that would date you regardless if you have kids or not.

The one thing though any potential partners don't want to deal with is drama that might come from any past partners. (I don't have to deal with this though since my son's biological father chose to not be in our son's life)

My partner of 9 years he knew getting with me meant he was taking on a father's role and he was prepared for it some men aren't prepared for it or want it which is fine there is plenty of fish in the sea regardless.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

No more than single dads do. There’s always going to be lingering bitterness, projection and mistrust — remnants of the bad habits formed in their past relationships — which is why taking time to heal is more important than the cliche “getting back on the horse” approach to dating again after a major relationship.

You don’t want to end up dating someone who is just like your ex (or has those same flaws), so you need to work on yourself and be able to trust your own judgement again. Unfortunately, single parents don’t always have massive chunks of time to do this, so self-healing takes a bit longer than I might for most single people.

Avicenna · Answer

This isn't even open to debate. Of course it does- and it's not just because she has one or more kids by some other guy (although that's the primary reason).

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Be a man... what do you want?

Your own kids maybe... not Chad's or Tyrone's kids.

Maybe a woman that is yours?

... Hold up... just be a fucking woman and ask yourself what you'd have to gain? This ain't fucking rocket surgery or brain science...

So... when we cover our mouths in shock when some desperate for pussy simp vows to take her and Tyrone's kids on just to get pussy at all... can you even imagine the non-shock mixed with real shock. The man isn't even fuckable to a woman with no kids... doesn't that say something?

Alli112 · Answer

I mean some dudes have a like, severe prejudice against single moms (mostly a red pill "promiscuity" claims, etc) and some people aren't prepared to bring children into their life and dating a single parent does inherently entail that long-term (which like, fair enough, I'm not sure how I would feel dating a single dad knowing I don't want kids any time in the near future), so it's definitely more difficult. Well, that, paired with the fact that single parents have a TON of responsibilities that eat into their free time and make dating hard to swing. I think it's probably relatively similar to the trouble single dads have, just with a bit more underlying judgement/prejudice from certain people. (Being a single dad is slightly less stigmatized because we expect the women to take care of the children in a break-up/divorce, so a single mom is often considered more irresponsible than a single dad.)

SixFootSexy · Answer

The answer is yes.

The reason is every single mom that isn't a widow has demonstrated some poor decision making skills. Multiplied by the number of babydaddies she has.

Even if she is a *good mom* that just means her time to spend with her dates is less than a single woman without kids. Not too many guys want a starter family they didn't have the pleasure of creating.

Damaged00 · Answer

I am a single mom and even though it hasn't been a deal breaker yet, I'm not delusional enough to believe that it never will be. It's completely ok and understandable if a guy doesn't want to date someone with kids or vice versa, they can kindly move on to the next. I hate that people get so demeaning with this topic. It is what it is, just another reason not to date someone. No biggie.

Serkee · Answer

Of course dating pools shrink for single parents. A lot of people don't want to be step-parents. I've made the mistake of dating a single mom before, and when she got bored and left I not only lost her, but two kids I was starting to see as my own. One of my fondest memories is teaching her daughter how to swim. I'm not going to risk that again.

Anonymous · Answer

It seems like it. Men seem to hate their guys no matter what they do. They say recreational usage only like they aren't even human beings. A lot of them seem to getting away from shit men like the one's who think this way.

Its glaringly obvious the difference between an irresponsible breeder and a woman who has to hold down a family and make the correpsonding sacrifices.

Sadly, single moms are seen in a monolithic way that's pretty unfair. It's really a shame.

rienna888 · Answer

Yes, just imagine if someone asked you "would you date a single dad?" then you go on google. com to do your research, quora telling you "no don't date a single dad, you will always be second, you will be mother of children that aren't yours, etc". But if you are a single mom/dad, you have to also prioritize your partners feelings

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I don't think so... I would say having kids eliminate some lower creatures from the pool :D

sage2021 · Answer

I was a single Mom and a very good one.
Hey, if a guy didn't like me cause I had a son, screw him!
I told them I knew him before you and you need to leave now.
And I hoped the door did him on his butt on the way out.

Anonymous · Answer

What do you mean by single moms? A girl who has decided to look after kids without a dad and bear them based on assisted reproduction? In that case I can't understand why doesn't she prefer to date guys and have kids with them instead of doing that.

In the other hand, I don't have complain about dating a widow, whenever I get on with all her kids.

HighValue · Answer

It eliminates good quality men that have options. She can get very low quality undesirable men, but her best bet would be to find a single father.

I immediately lose interest if someone is a single mother.

4ngelic · Answer

depends on her age. i think if she's in her teens to early 30s for sure. but if she's older than that no since a huge portion of the singles available are divorcé dads at that point

Apple1996 · Answer

Less options but it's easier for them to weed out the bad men so they have a higher chance of finding a good relationship in comparison to a woman with no kids

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Of course. Not everyone likes kids or wants to deal with the hassle of raising someone else's. Anyone that has kids is going to be less appealing to those people.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Only if you tell people you are a single mom. I have kids all across the world. I have about 100 kids and I leave them all with their fathers and no one is the wiser.

Unit1 · Answer

I can imagine so. Given girl A and girl B with the only difference being girl A being childless and girl B being a single mother, most would choose girl A.

FreyaRed · Answer

Of course they have, especially to find men who want to share more than just bedroom.

Berethor · Answer

Single moms bring a lot of baggage so their value is low.

genericname85 · Answer

obviously it does. same for single dads. cause who the fuck would prefer having the obligation of another persons child over having a partner to potentially make your own children with?

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I don’t think so… however if the kid’s dad is still in the picture. Most guys would peace tf out. I would.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Ye, because they should prioritize their child (ren) over any relationship, but too many don't and too few men realize the importance of their girlfriend as a mother.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends what her expectations are. No it's not hard for a single mom to get a date. But she's never going to be a guys first choice. So as long as her expectations aren't too high it's not a problem.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I'm single and have no problem dating a single mom.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

They do, somewhat. But single dad have issues too.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Being a single mom will eliminate the men she really wants from the dating pool. She will be able to find a simp, as any woman can.

Anonymous · Answer

Most guys won't go near single mom's for one reason or another, some of those reasons being stupid, some being rational.. Mine being the "getting my heart broken twice" reason.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Immense. Almost unsurmountable without lots of support

In_Trance · Answer

I don't think so

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

It can be very difficult to find a guy who wants another mans son

Nerdvana · Answer

Its going to depend on how kids she has and how young she is.

Pohjolan · Answer

That's obviously one potential deal breaker more.  However MILF is a category in porn.

SkatPak392 · Answer

I am not taking care of another man's kids.

zombiewoof · Answer

It probably does, some men are not cappable of loving another mans child

MasterKS · Answer

I think single moms are easiest to date, they are available mostly!

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not that I have seen.

paledreams · Answer

I wouldn't date a single mom/mum

HelpfulWoman · Answer

sometimes. adding kids is no small issue

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

More than they wanna admit I think

Kelly6 · Answer

Not really, but they have less guys to date

jahaims · Answer

Duh.

war_daddy · Answer

obviously

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