Is having sex appeal a requirement for attraction?

[Anonymous]

[Stetson]

No, with the right person you will have chemistry. Things just click. Example. My now ex wife and I , when we met I did not look at her and think she was the most beautiful or sexiest woman I had ever dated at all. At the same time she was pretty but she also was a geek in a way to me. She was the book reading type that was smart intelligent, she didn't dress provocative by any means, she wore very little make up.. she was not the glamour girl type I had normally dated. But I met her at work... and as time went by I found myself drawn to her, she had this amazing sense of humor. She was always making me laugh and she had this beautiful smile that to me when she smiled she suddenly wasn't the short little nerd woman at work but I seen her in a different light as the old song used to say. One day we were cutting up at work and I just asked her out. She instantly turned red blushing and said ok. Well a few days later I took her out to eat and to a movie, when I drove her back home, we had our first kiss... that kiss was different than the average kiss I was used to with other women. It was the kind of kiss that you knew you had chemistry... time stood still so to speak and you get this tingly feeling as if electricity is almost making the hair stand up on your arm. I knew she was different that first kiss. I later found out she felt the same way and it was why she said she reached up as that first kiss ended and grabbed me to kiss once more. The next day that I had a few min. Alone with her at work, I remember I told her I wanted to see her without her glasses. She blushed again but I took her glasses off. She had always had beautiful hazel eyes, but I had never seen them without the frames in front of them. Anyway we always had high level chemistry which led to a very high level of physical attraction later and even though we were opposites in most every way as far as hobbies and interest, we made it work and we're very happy for a long time. We stayed married 12 years. We divorced over our differences finally though. We had different dreams and ambitions that were putting a strain on our marriage, when together we still had the chemistry, we still do honestly. We live 6 states away from each other now, but we talk often, we remain friends, we text and sometimes call each other. When on the phone she still makes me laugh, the weirdest thing is both of us moved on ended up with other people then both ended up single again, and we joke at times about we should have just stayed married, at least half joking. I am positive if we got together just to hang out even now the chemistry the laughing and all would still be there, it always was. Also just so you know chemistry by that I'm not meaning sex, though we never had a problem there and for the first few years we were married we almost at times seemed to do little else. But chemistry is not just attraction physically at all... chemistry is when you just their good, their bad, it doesn't matter, you just know they make you happy, they make you feel better than normal when they are around and they feel that way also. Not just physical now. I am meaning even if your just sitting talking, just eating, just in the car together going shopping, no matter what it is, that person makes everything better just by being there and you can't get enough time together. That's chemistry if you both have it. It's not the easiest thing to find but you for sure know it when it hits you.

[Finchie40]

For the most part yes , just depends on the person and what they are attracted to , , what turns them on basically. , Me personally is attracted to girls’ that like to dress sexy for me , that want to please me and look good for me , her sex appeal is to be closer to me and show appreciation towards me , A girl that wants to make me feel wanted and valued and respected , if she does that for me , it’s a huge turn on to me , it pretty much tells me she appreciates me and values me by wanting to look good for
Me. I love girls’ that take the initiative to look sexy and beautiful , she pretty much knows what turns me on and doesn’t hesitate to do so. She wins brownie points if I don’t even have to ask her , she just knows and surprises me with it. A girl like that , I will do my best to keep her by my side and value and appreciate her as well, it pretty much goes both ways by showing appreciation to each other making each other feel valued and wanted

[DishLady]

Natural sex appeal certainly helps with attraction, however in the long-run other factors connected to a person’s character can outshine the appeal of someone who only depends on his/her sex appeal to attract others.

[RavVid]

Not clear what you are asking. Sex appeal is attractive and attractive is sex appeal; it is the same thing. If it is whether sex appeal is necessary for a man to be attracted well yes. We might be attracted by other things like your femininity as a whole but that is sex appeal too in my view.

[loveslongnails]

Much of that depends on what you're looking for, but generally speaking, I'd say overwhelmingly "yes". Most initial attraction is based on physical appeal and appearance. Although those preferences will vary by individual, it's a rare occurrence to have zero sexual or physical attraction present, except perhaps if you're just too old for it to matter!

[sawno]

Yes, its hard to be attractive if you don't have sex appeal of some form. If you aren't it doesn't mean you can't get a boyfriend, but it would mean you wouldn't be attracting many people to approach you.

[HawkPerception]

That's a tough one because it's phrased interestingly. Sex appeal is an aspect of attraction. I wouldn't say it's a requirement to be attracted to someone though, but it definitely helps a lot to get turned on.

[VanillaSalt]

No. Attraction can be personality or physical or even just treating someone with kindness that’s not used to it.

[BetaBucks]

No, but it's a requirement for sex. You can be attracted to someone and have no desire to have sex with them.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure how you mean that. I'm going to answer "no" because it takes so little with the right person.

[Tomisworthless]

can't be sexually desirable if you're not sexy as sexy infers one ilicits sexual attraction

[Anonymous]

Absolutely! I've never once been attracted to a girl I wasn't VERY drawn to sexually.

[Sonorous]

It is for most normally functioning humans.

[soe11]

Absolutely yes.

[Retsam]

for men yes that your main value for most men

[RedInnocent69]

They’re kind of the same.

[Danny_dan92]

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