Guys, HOW would you like to be approached by a woman?

Question

I Keep hearing you guys saying you're tired of having to always be the one to approach women and would like women to start doing the approaching. So, what would that look like? What does she need to do for you to get a good first impression? What would cause you to have a bad impression? Or do you still prefer to make the first move?

Yannae · Accepted Answer

Just keep it light. Don't try to get physical or cliche compliments. Have a conversation with me. Even if you're nervous. That is okay.

Juxtapose · Accepted Answer

At this point, almost any approach would be appreciated. Take a shower, put on some clothes that don't reek & be safe to talk to.

serious · Answer

Okay so I will answer this hypothetically. I will reply in parts

1. I Keep hearing you guys saying you're tired of having to always be the one to approach women and would like women to start doing the approaching."

Yes that is true, at least for men who are typically shy and for those who are hesitant to make the first move.

2. "So, what would that look like? "

It means for men who are shy and hesitant but they like a woman then they would expect that the woman also likes them back and would also be brave enough to make the first move which is quite unlikely.

As for me yes I am very reserved and I won't like any woman just like that, I have my standards both in terms of physical and personality aspects and they are very specific as well. Assuming the woman who wants to approach me has the standards then I would expect the woman to come and talk to me first.

3. "What does she need to do for you to get a good first impression?"

Well, physical aspects are the ones that are first seen and are visible and so as per my physical standards the woman must be drop dead gorgeous with super short boy cut hairstyle, in combination to good dressing sense (modern/ultra modern) with a toned physique.

Personality aspects will only be known a little later when I would interact. However, for me first I would notice the physical aspects because I am a very visual person. That being said for a woman to truly impress me she has to not only match my physical standards but should have an excellent personality as well.

4. "What would cause you to have a bad impression?"

Simple, if she does not match the physical standards that I have then that won't impress me, I mean she could still be beautiful but may have long hair and not so good dressing sense so that will automatically be repelling to me. However, she may still approach me and if her personality is equally bad like if I come to know via interaction that she has bad habits, does not have a proper behavior in general and is a person who likes to play mind games then obviously that would be an overall bad impression.

5. "Or do you still prefer to make the first move?"

No, of course not. I will be totally fine with the woman making the first move but then eventually the decision will be mine whether to take things forward or not. Even for friendship.

I think that answers your questions.

HawkPerception · Answer

Honestly there has only been one instance in my life where a girl has made the first move on me. I was a busboy at Mr. Greek and when I came to her table to take her and her family's plates away, she smiled at me and had a piece of paper or napkin (I can't remember) that she gave to me. It was her number with a heart that I pocketed. She said I was really cute. She had me super embarrassed and I genuinely didn't know how to handle it that well. I told her thanks and that I found her cute too and walked back to the kitchen. Then when she was leaving, she came to the kitchen area and asked if she could have a hug, and all my coworkers raised their eyebrows. I said "sure!" And she gave me the biggest hug right there. I was so dang excited to talk to her as soon as my shift was over, I texted her and we hit it off, talking all night. We ended up chilling every day for 2 weeks straight. Eventually I realized we weren't compatible, but she was an extremely sweet girl.

When it comes to girls, it's much easier to approach guys than it is for guys to approach girls. Literally almost anything works! I've seen videos of the comparison in how guys and girls handle being approached differently. Most guys almost never get approached and they know how hard it is to muster up the courage to approach someone so when a girl does come up to them, they're usually polite. Whereas when girls are approached it can go well or really badly (harsh rejection).

The best thing a girl can do is just to smile at the guy, say she finds him cute, and would like to talk to him or get his number/social. Most guys would be pretty receptive to it.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't have a particular preference... as long as it does, it's good

as for my actual experience... they've done it in different ways

my first girlfriend from high-school approached me first and she was like "you don't seem to talk much..." and then we ended up talking for about four hours straight, ain't that funny...

my second girlfriend in college... she also approached me first, and she was like "hey... do you want to join our lab team" and then we ended up in a relationship for about for years, lol... yeah, chemistry was there... lmfao

third girlfriend, I approached her first...

fourth girlfriend, was at this party/reunion... I was talking to some other "random girl" so when she made her way back to her friends, this other girl was like "hey, was that your girlfriend?" and I said nope... so she then said "okay, now you're mine... " and we ended up chatting for six hours or so... lol

there's been other girls but that's my point, as long as her interest or intrigue is genuine... doesn't really matter to me HOW they do it... lol

MisterWack · Answer

Caroline’s Sweet Curious Question: “So, what would that look like? What does she need to do for you to get a good first impression? What would cause you to have a bad impression? Or do you still prefer to make the first move?”

Context Before I Answer: Hmmm, well in the past I was approached by not attractive girls in my school (in looks and in personality), too clingy and would spread rumors about me… Be too loud / disrupt the class flow and my work flow, one got me sick too not realizing personal space. Now I have a girlfriend so, I can’t be approached I’m off the market.

Hypothetical Answer: She comes up to me sweetly with kindness and compassion in her eyes also sweetness in her soul from the red glossed lips. She kindly introduces herself and asks politely what is my name. She doesn’t barrage me with too many questions, doesn’t get in my business, also we share a few jokes which lands perfectly. Then as we hit it off, she walks away for us to meet again another day if time allows us.

I’m too shy & quiet & meek, I wouldn’t make the first move though there was a time when I was about to make the first move….. Though she was changing classes and she didn’t see interested in keeping in touch (far past) and yes with my current girlfriend who I am very happy with I didn’t make the first move either RIP.

Anonymous · Answer

I will approach a woman if I’m interested and it’s a general question. So it all just depends on the dude. If you’re interested in someone just make your move.

If he’s someone you don’t know in public. Chances are he’s just about his business, getting in and out, and just not trying to deal with people. So you’re just gonna have to approach him. If he’s someone you know then just express you’re interested and see if he wants yo go out.

Does the chance of rejection suck? Yeah absolutely. But look at it this way. A lot of men and women waste all their time on someone. To never even get with them. Either they end up with a girlfriend or boyfriend. They aren’t interested. The list goes on. You have closure. You’re not wasting time and know you can move on. On the other hand if he is interested. You’re not taking the chance of another woman grabbing his attention. You can start dating and see if it’s meant to be.

Don’t play games. Just be you and you’ll attract who likes you for you. Don’t worry about ALL men. All men are different. Worry about finding whose rights for you.

Makeushiver · Answer

Well I've been approached by women who have undressed, gotten into my bed and slid their hands between my thighs. That worked pretty well as I knew exactly what the message was. Another time at a club featuring a blues guitarist a woman dancing in front of me kept backing into me until I could no longer give her any more room at which point she dry humped me with her ass. Never knew her name or even what she looked like head on. Both of those had the merit of clarity, I knew- it may have taken a minute but eventually, I knew exactly what they wanted.

I would be happy to continue meeting women who expressed interest that clearly.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Keep the cobra snake away from me, i surely won't make a move towards a woman unless i have big axe to chop her head off, that's how snakes dies 🤣🤣
If she makes me a move than she's going to attack me and torture me slowly until i wish death 😏

Miss caroline, tbh i don't care who makes the 1st move, all i need to know is that if she's a lethal snake or not...

MicahRaine · Answer

"Hi, how are you? Do you like -------? Me too! Do you want to go sometime?" It's not a science. Just be nice and treat us like people

slatyb · Answer

From the front. It's creepy when women sneak up on me.

Caps_d_ed · Answer

Guys like confidence, a girl who knows exactly what she wants and isn't afraid or embarrassed to show that.

DrPepper12 · Answer

"Hi I'm name. Blah blah blah". INTRODUCING yourself is an INSTANT signal of interest. It's SO simple but women play dumb or coy and want to play 20 questions so we have no fucking idea what's going on!! BE DIRECT!!

Grond21 · Answer

Doesn't have to initiate everything up to and including the relationship, but initiating social contact is huge. Showing that she is very open for further connection is huge.

Anonymous · Answer

Sincerely.

The problem is not women approaching. The problem is when she does it you know she almost always has an angle. So if you smell the game on her. She's doing the opposite of what she's trying to accomplish.

aquamarine321 · Answer

I can never get fully use to being approached by a female, each female approach differently some are chill, while some are intense

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have no problem approaching, but if she wants to do so she should do so directly.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Just say,  "Hi! I think you're cute. Would you like to chat?" 99% guaranteed success rate!

Alex-Snow · Answer

What does dressing up like a 20 yr old look like anyway?

Jennz6 · Answer

You can ask the girls that question to can’t you?

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I would be fine with that. There is nothing sexier than a woman that knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go after it

noohair · Answer

Say hello and smile. It is not rocket science.

bananathunder · Answer

I don't mind it either way...

Staximus · Answer

The normal way

Anonymous · Answer

Last thing you'd expect to happen

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sure!! When?

Dongie · Answer

Okay. I'm waiting.

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